© 2007 James A. Harris
It seems to me that the number one complaint that women make about their husbands may well be that they forget to put the toilet seat down after using it with it up. Wives (and perhaps women in general) seem to feel strongly about this. So it is with heart in hand that I humbly offer that this may be an unfair complaint.
My wife, wonderful woman that she is, has said that it is unfair for women to expect men to put down the seat after using the toilet. When she first announced this I thought I had miss-heard her, so I asked her to run it by me again. When she said it loud and clear the second time I became suspicious, maybe it was sarcasm. Maybe she was actually saying that since men are too dumb or stupid to remember to put the seat down it is unfair to expect him to behave differently.
As if she were able to read my mind (and sometime I think she really can!) she explained her reasoning: "most women would feel it was very unfair if their husbands were to insist they leave the toilet seat up after using the toilet with it down; therefore, isn't it also unfair to expect the same of men?" "And," she went on, "do we women really want to be seen as needing men to do this for us?"
Now you see why I married her! She's smart...and right!
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I would like to conclude with two brief additional comments:
First: I was taught by my mom to always put the seat down, and so I do. It is a matter of habit for me.
Second: I would like to suggest to all the women who read this that in the case of public restrooms that are used by men as well as by women they would be wise to leave the seat up! Why? Because many men are too lazy to put it up just to pee, so they leave it down and pee through the opening...or attempt to! Women will find more pleasing conditions in the restrooms if they start putting the seats up when done.
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Comments: 58
it is more considerate for men to put the seat down. We as women SIT on the pot 100% of the time. Men 50%. hence women have a higher incidence of falling tino the water if the seat is up.
case closed.
I agree with Mandi - you men only need the seat down 50% of the time, whereas, we must have it down all the time.
I Really don't care!! How hard is it to check before you sit down??? I am happy if my kids use it (instead of peeing in the yard!), they remember to FLUSH! Praise the Lord!! It seems pretty funny to me for this to be such a sour point!
Kinda like the toilet paper going over thetop or under from the bottom??!?!
If there is a roll I can reach without getting up and searching thru the cupboard then it's all good!!!
BTW My MOM is adamant about the seat being put back down! LOL shhh don't tell her but sometimes i put it up just to mess with her! hee hee hee
The thing that bothers me is the shimmy-shake guys due to shake the pee off their privates to avoid wiping. This is especially annoying after I've just scrubbed the toilet and cleaned the bathroom, only to find pee puddles on the rim of the toilet, and on the floor due to the little shimmy-shake that occurs! GROSS! Why can't guys just wipe??
This is such a pet peeve of mine. Women want to be equal. They want the same pay for the same jobs and then they say things like it's the man's job to put the seat down to protect the women from falling in????? I have always asked my women who complain how inconsiderate their boyfriends are for not putting the seat down if they leave it up to be considerate to the guys. And, I don't know about other men, but the hubby in this house use the seat down far less than 50%.
Now, there is one thing, however, that ticks me off more than anything....A man sprinkling the floor because of bad aim and then the wife cleaning it up!!!!! My hubby suddenly started doing that one day (I don't know what got into him!). I told him twice that I was potty trained before I was one and I expected he was plenty old enough to be too....Peeing on the floor is not acceptable. After the third time I stepped in a wet spot. I got nasty. I felt my heel hit a wet spot on the bathroom floor after he had gone in there and then went to bed. So, I carefully walked to the bedroom, stepping only on the toes of that foot and told him to give me his hand, I wanted him to feel something on my foot. He gave me his hand and I put it on my heel. He said, "It's wet." I said, "Yup. You peed on the floor and that is what I stepped in." After much ewwing and icking, shaking his hands and jumping up to go wash them, he vowed never to make the mistake again and peace has reined in the Queendom ever since.
Elsie, hand your son the lysol and the rag and make him wipe the seat down! :0)
During the day, having the seat up is a great reason to get out the lysol and the toilet brush to clean up after the men and boys who may have "accidentally" peed on the seat, but like your mom, I raised my son to be gentlemen, so when they raise the seat, they replace it out of courtesy to the ladies in the house.
When ladies and gentlemen act like ladies and gentlement there seems to be a respect for the opposite sex (on both sides of the picture).
Now everybody has the same task, whether they sit or stand - lift the lid (and seat too if male.)
That is my vote