Tonight I saw the sink full of dirty dishes, so I started washing the dishes and the pots.
My husband walked over and asked me why I was doing that. I told him I thought my mom might want to cook a fresh batch of rice tomorrow, so I wanted to wash the rice cooker pot so it would be ready for her. Plus, the sink was full and 'you do things when you see them' had always been my motto.
I don't know what's wrong with my husband. He just said, "You do it because there's no point in helping you." Then he just turned around and went to the bedroom.
Sometimes he really pisses me off.
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Perhaps you and he have differing ideas about when to accomplish things... like you said, you have a motto, "you do things when you see them." This is also my father's motto!
However, my motto is - I do things when I have the energy. LOL. I think your motto is probably better, but have you told your husband about it being your motto? Maybe you could ask him what his motto is, and make some sort of compromise? Maybe he felt guilty because he didn't want you to work so hard, and he felt he was letting you down by not getting to the dishes, but he was too tired?
I'm just playing devil's advocate.
I hope you guys figure it out. :)
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I have the PERFECT HUSBAND!!! I am not "domestic" in the least, and am totally useless around the house. HE DOES ALL THAT!!!! I take care of other things like the finances, and stuff like that. It's not a matter of what gender has what duties, it's a matter of which partner does which job better, and finding one that compliments and balances what you do, and vice versa.
or soon to be.
Fortunately we have three sets of dishes, so they can be put off :)
Is it "thank you dear" or is it "you didn't fold the towels the way I do" or "you don't put the dishes where I want them"? Or some such
I'm trying to give you what might be his perspective. He does something he thinks is nice and is helpful to you and he hears that he didn't do it right and after hearing that too many times he stops helping.
It's not a you're wrong (or right) or he's wrong (or right) it's the way too many married couples communicate because of the way the different genders see things.
That's what I got out of his comment. And maybe it is time you both sat down and talked. He needs to understand where you're coming from and you need to understand where he's coming from so you two can set up a common ground.
Ron, 'duty as his wife"? !!! Where did you just emerge from that you can say that to a woman of today?!!!!
Thank you for posting this to the Gimme 10!!! Group