Why can't he

I have no answers...I guess that Brian is your husband? I would worry that this would be something she carries with her for life, maybe you should have a talk with him sometime when there hasn't been a confrontation...adult to adult.

This is sad, my heart goes out to her and you!

Frist I have to say He's a butt head sry just needed to say that. Sometimes the kids are picked on and most people don't see how it hurts them or don't care. I think Sue said it right ........ I am sad to hear this I love all my kids thank God thay don't have to be hurt like this. I pray everything works out right .

Thanks.
Actually, Brian is the boyfriend/roommate. And I'd rather it was confrontational cuz I seem to be able to stick up for them better that way. Otherwise, he goes on and on about how right he is...he's not always bad, but definately not always good.
Yeah, he's a butthead. I really don't get why he does that.

Every time he does it, defend her infront of everyone!! Maybe that'll help. I sure wish my mother had the guts to do that for me, when I went through THE SAME THING with my Dad, and it is something I'll carry with me for the rest of my life, but I also carry a determination to defend people in that position when I can.

Stand up and DEFEND her!! Let this immature little you-know-what know that you're not gonna take it anymore.

OK I went back and read the rest of the comments. He's your BOYFRIEND? How could ANYONE love a man who is abusive to their family? Roommate? Do you really need him? I had enough verbal abuse from my Dad (I can tell you from your daughter's point of view!!) that I promised that I'd never let myself be a victim or a witness ever again, and if I do see it happening, I'm going to stand up for the innocent!!!

Roxy, I hate to heap insult to injury but Leah is right!
There are enough speed bumps in this life without choosing to live with one! Talk to some one at your local Battered Women's shelter... he may not lift a finger against you BUT verbal abuse can be just as damaging ...if not more so!
Neither you nor your daughters need to be exposed to this type of mental abuse...I understand that sometimes it's easier to live with it than to try and find someplace else to live etc... but this guy is harming your child... GET RID OF HIM!

Thank you Kathleen!! When Roxy said this man was her BOYFRIEND I choked on whatever it was I was eating at the time. No he's not, he's a jerk. What is love if the guy behaves like this?

Roxy, I'm not judging you, I'm simply telling you what I think. My Dad was as your roommate is, and Mom lived with him for 22 years. 15 and 11 years of that marriage my sister and I were alive. Becky took most of Dad's crap, but I took enough of it. I know how I feel, I can't begin to imagine how he feels.

You need to get out of this relationship before your daughter begins to resent YOU for not doing anything about it, the way I resent the fact that my mother left me alone all those nights with my father, while she went out to look for Becky, who "attempted to escape" (I don't blame her!) numerous times.

You need to fix this!!!

Please stop this abuse against yourself and your children. You don't deserve it, and they don't either. YOU have the choice to CHANGe this even if it means ending it.

I know, not much of a boyfriend...more of a roommate...and I've literally no where else to go. I moved from family home to here, and then last dec lost all income--he's been paying our way.
BUT--
I DO defend her in front of everyone. I also grew up in that crap(except it was my mother). I may be stuck(no, I can't live with family anymore--the door is only open for visiting), but not doomed. Venting on here gets the rest of it out.

She's not hte only one defending her. When I work up enough guts I give him a peice of my mind. And I have said more then once "you better watch it little man!"

What's really sad is that Sara doesn't seem to believe us, and we've both said it more then once. I understand she's hitting puberty, I went through it myself, but that's no reason for her to be so rude about everything. And Brian favors her the sun-of-a-*****, and must realize how much he's tramatizing Tabby.

Honestly, I know I myself am not perfect, I probably did the same things to Sara, but it really burns my hide when Brian practically encourages her to keep doing! And I'll agree, venting on here really does help.