Why is it through our lives, some people get it all and some have to work so very hard for every thing that they get? My husband and I have 4 kids and have been working two jobs each for a few years and do all we can to get food put on the table each day. We give to the church and pay our bills and have no credit cards (we were in debt and chose to never have credit cards again) but still we struggle each day.
I get so very upset with so many people that I come across each day in my life that just take it for granted that everyone can "make it" and they have NO clue that there are people in their midst that sometimes wonder where their next meal comes from.
I always ask my closest friends how these people make it in their lives when the husband works and the wife does not but these people have huge houses, drive nice cars, wear nice clothes, etc. I was told that they are all really in debt and have credit card debt up to the eyeballs.
I haven't bought a new piece of clothing in over a year for myself, havent had a haircut in over a year, my hair is now down to my waist and I am 42 yrs old !! I wear shoes that have are almost worn thin on the bottoms, etc. I work 2 jobs and my husband has a good job and does side jobs as I do in my spare time.
I am not writing this for charity or anything....I just want to know if there are any others out there in my shoes? I want to know why this society feels that everyone has money and is required to be in debt?
I would love to know why some people get it all and others are put here on earth to struggle? My husband and I once had 29 maxed out credit cards - 18 years ago and since then we have been working our tails off to get out of debt. As of today, I have one balance left on my Sears card and then all credit cards will be paid off completely in full !! My husband and I found Dave Ramsey and his Financial Peace program and are diligent in making it work but still....I always wonder if I will ever get to enjoy a luxury in life like just...getting my hair done whenever I want to and not when I save up enough money in a few months to get a haircut....
Life is strange.....
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My husband and I have 4 kids and the oldest is 18...we live 4 hours from the gulf coast but have never been able to afford to go on vacation for a week. My kids don't get new clothes, they get hand me downs. I never had to wear thrift store or hand me downs.
I just would LOVE for those who live lives of wealth to have to ditch the debit, credit cards and checkbooks for a few weeks and try to figure out how to pay for grocerys and all the other needed stuff with just a bit of money.
My family was even the recipient of Christmas from the local churches last year. When I was growing up until 15 years ago ....I was the one helping others to provide for their family for Christmas.
I just don't get it sometimes.
I pray and pray not for money but...for enough that we can breathe and not struggle every single day....it is just getting tired and old.....
Other than that, are you happy? Do you have a more uncomplicated life with less stress than some people? We do and that's what makes me not care any more. Life is tooo short to be too worried about it.
I will say one thing though....My 16 year old daughter tells me all the time that because we never had allot and my kids always had stuff but not to the extent that their friends do. My kids only wear name brand designer clothes if they are given to them or we find a buy at a thrift shop. My 16 yr old daughter (who is very popular in school even without all of the frills that every other girl has) told me that she and my other kids have learned to "appreciate" what they have more than her rich and spoiled friends. That always makes me feel good that even though we don't have much, my 4 kids are turning out just fine. I also have an 18 yr old son, an 11 yr old daughter and a 9 yr old boy.
I was injuryed on the job and hadto go through surgeries that left me unemployable; the pain is extreme at times and every day. I had a good furture and a promising career; that is all gone.
It makes makes sad sometimes that I cannot even get the simplest things.
Everyday we are bombed with commericals that state what we should eat, wear etc.
Thanks for the article, nowI know we are not alone.
You hang in there. Get that Sears card paid off and start paying yourself FIRST from all those jobs you and your husband have. It will come... you just need faith!
You've done a lot of hard work to be that far down, and get your head back above water. At the rate that yall are going, you will be able to do the things that you want without having to worry about expense. Keep up the good work!