I ran into someone's post today that I had taken off my friends' list because she depressed me so much. Now, I must enjoying complaining, since I do so much of it, but there is a point where it's too much. My mood brightened just from not seeing her many rants headlined each day.
This person does not know how to be happy. When her husband won a nice prize, she complained about how the company paid it. She reminds me of a family member. This lady lives in a better standard of living than any other family member. She has a loving husband and children and grandchildren near by. She has relatives and friends who keep in touch. Her health has always been good. She exercises and eats a healthy diet. They travel whenever they want to wherever they want. But you have the feeling that she never lets go and lets herself be happy and content. She and the Gather member have chosen to be unhappy because things aren't perfect.
We all have our down times, and life isn't always going the way we want. But here in America, and probably worldwide, there is always something we can find to make us happy. Today we had a really special sky, with clouds lined with gray on one side and not the other. There was a ghostlike ribbon of clouds going all across the sky. I've never noticed anything quite like it. Such beauty surely is a thing of joy.
Today I have flowers blooming in my yard. They aren't the most beautiful or largest blooms I've seen. They aren't even my favorite flower in my yard. But looking at them made me happy.
Tonight I'll watch TV with my son and talk for a couple of hours. That will make me happy. How lucky I am to have someone with common interests to discuss items of importance or frivolous things with me.
I may not be as healthy as I'd like, or as financially solvent, or live the way I want. But I don't have any trouble allowing myself to be happy. My life will never be perfect, but that doesn't stop me from enjoying what I can. I think you can choose to be happy or unhappy about life. I choose to be happy when I can.
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All I want to say is that when things are good. No matter how small they are, you must be thankful and appreciate share it with someone. Instead of sharing just the bad thoughts. I find that when you are always negative, people tend to stay away from you and you wonder why you have no friends.
thanks for this upbeat moment now
Thanks for posting.
My husband has been critically ill on and off for 9 years. I almost lost him 3 times. But today, he is doing better. I am happy each day when he greets me with a "hello" and a kiss.
My children are in decent health...that makes me happy.
My grandchildren love their "Nana." That makes me happy.
Sure, I wish my husband wasn't disabled and no longer works at a $100,000 a year job. I wish we hadn't had to make major changes in our life style. I wish a lot of things, but that doesn't mean I rant and rave over it. I go with the flow. Learn to live with it. Adjust.
I am alive and well and that makes me happy.
So, in answer to your question...yes, I know how to be happy!
I know some people are depressed and need help. I offer it and -- if they aren't willing to change, then I stop enabling them by being a willing audience for all that negative stuff! It doesn't help another person to listen to their chronic complaints. And it's bad for me! Yes, I DO know how to be happy -- and I had to learn that. I like to help others learn it too so they can be happy.