My Mother Has Cancer

Kyra - I am so sorry, and I will definitely keep your mom and your family in my prayers. I can relate to what you're going through. My mother, who is no longer with us, had cancer and made the same decision about treatment. It was so difficult to feel as helpless as I did when I could see that she was in such physical pain.

I also want to share a testimony with you...even if it'snot one of my own. I was in a study group a couple of months ago and one persons prayer request was for a friend who had been diagnosed with 4th stage cancer (I can't remeber the exact cancer). A few weeks ago we received an update and he is in complete remission. I agree ... GOD is AWESOME.

So very sincerely sorry, Kyra. Your poem was very beautiful and I am sure that you have been much comfort to your mother over these months. I will certainly pray for her.

I can relate to you. As I commented on your poem "I want to be there", which by way was beautiful and moving, it is very hard to deal. God is a healer. God is truly awesome. Kyra, my prayers are with you at this time. May God give you the strength to endure and to continually be there for your mother, like you have always been.

Just pray according to God's will and start to thank Him anyway, Just continue to give him praise for what He has done for you already and for what He is about to do for you and your Mother. Hang in there Kyra.

Kyra, I'm so very sorry about your mom. I know what you are going through as I lost my mother to lung cancer (she was never a smoker) several years ago. It's a very hard thing to see someone you love struggling with this horrible disease. You are both in our thoughts and prayers as you face this difficult time.

I am so sorry, Kyra. Cancer is so difficult to deal with. Take care of yourself too. It's very hard to watch a loved one suffer pain and illness -- especially when that person is your mom.

Thoughts are with both of you. I'm sure you both cherish the time you have together.

Kyra,
I lost both my Mom and Dad to cancer, and you are definitely (still) in my prayers. Cherish each and every moment you have with her.
Gentle Hugs,
Marilyn

Dear, Kyra. You are such a joy to know, you're always supportive, positive, and just plain nice. I'm new here, so I was unaware of your mom's illness. I'm so very sorry to hear about your mom, but what a testimony! Her will to live with quality of life is admirable, and I'm glad she's beat the doctor's prognosis.

I lost my dad to lung cancer (also not a smoker) 9 years ago. It was the toughest thing I ever went through, and strangely enough it seems like it just happened. But his stellar example of humanity and passion have inspired me to be a better person. My mother's aunt, like your mom, was just diagnosed with unoperable colon cancer that returned after we thought she was fine. They are giving her two months, but she isn't accepting it and will try to fight, with God's will.

I just prayed for your mom, really really hard. I hope in some small way it contributes to the wonderful wishes and prayers of your friends in the above posts and that she finds a measure of relief today.

More than anything, I want you to know we're here for you. If you need to talk, to vent, to be cheered up, don't hesitate to post or email me at aaron.lazar@yahoo.com. You need support at a time like this. Although it's so hard on your mom, it's also very hard on you, and you must try to take care of yourself, too. Don't hesitate to ask for help. We're here for you.

Your poem was honest and heartfelt. It choked me up.
Warmest wishes and big hugs.

I am amazed at how you are able to cope with this and still manage to share your wonderful smile in your posts. I wish you the strength you need to get throught this difficult time. Take care...

Kyra, I did not know about your mom. That explains a lot. You and your mom are very brave. I'm sending hugs and love and light all around.

Prayers be with your whole family, especially mom. The strenght of everyone has gotten her this far.

Kyra,
My prayers have been offered for your mom. May God grant all prayers for her and relieve the pain she is suffering.
I also prayed for you and your family as you must also be needing some divine help.

I was also unaware of your mothers plight. I will lift her up in prayer and you also.

I am sorry Kyra. I didn't know about your mother. I will pray for you and your mother/family

Oh goodness! All these beautiful replies....I'm in tears.

I will come back to this sometime soon....when I'm not so weepy and reply on a more personal note to each of you. BUT tonight, just know....that you have touched my heart in a beautiful way. Thank you!

Kyra, Im so sorry to hear that your mom and you are going through this. I know your courage and kindness and love and believe these will help you through this time. My prayers and thoughts are with you.

Kyra,
You know how I feel about you. I am going to email you my phone number.
You call me whenever you want.
I will pray for your mom, you and your family.
((HUGS))
Jackie

God is faithful and good. He is no respector of persons. He has helped ny dad with this same illness. Now he takes no treatments and at last C scan they said no more lung cancer was there. to GOD be alll the glory. May he give your mom peace and love today

Thank you for Sharing Kyra, I am so sorry about your mom, Pain is terrible to have to deal with and I cannot even imagine what she is feeling. I however understand her as I would choose the same thing should I ever have an illness that is terminal. I will put your mom in our special prayer list tonight. You have been blessed as has she that she has so far lived longer than medical professionals thought she would. God is the one who chooses our time and no one else. Until then she will remain with us on earth but I am praying it will be with lots less pain. Love and hugs. Jen

Kyra - - yes...your mom will be in my prayers - and your family, too. As you know, I just lost my Mom a few weeks ago, ironically she had the same diagnosis. (but my mom was 81 and in no shape to battle the cancer) I praise God that your Mom has been given this precioius time to be with her family. She sounds like a strong lady with lots of love surrounding her and prayers covering her. Wish I could give you a hug right now, Kyra...I know you are feeling the prayers.

Lord, thank you for your grace and love. Please ease this pain that Kyra's mom is experiencing - and replace it with an overwhelming sense of your peace. I pray that as she sheds her earthly tent, that she becomes robed in glory as you welcome her home. Comfort her family. Thank you that in all things you continue to cradle us in the hollow of your hand. In Jesus name.... Amen.

Tara~Thank you for relating your story to me. Although I hate to hear that you have been through this.....knowing I'm not alone....knowing that others (my friends) understand and have 'been there', really does help. Thank you!!(((Hugs)))

Sue B~Thanks for your sweet reply and prayers.

Victoria,

Thank you for relating your loss to me...over in my poem article. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. :( I know exactly what you mean when you say that you never thought you'd have to experience losing a parent so soon. It's hard...it's really hard. It sounds like you are an optimistic, strong woman...I know your dad is very proud of the way you're holding up. (((hugs)))

Thank you so much for your prayers, and even more for these beautiful, heartfelt words you have taken the time to type out to me. Now that I know what you and your family are going through....please know that you will be in my prayers as well.

Sue P~As I said to Tara...although I hate to hear that you have been through this...it does help to know that you understand. Thank you so much for sharing your loss with me. Know that I greatly appreciate your very nice reply, & your thoughts/prayers. Thank you!

Jennifer~Thank you so much for your heartfelt reply. Writing this article and the flooding of warm thoughts from friends (like you), has really helped me these last 24 hours. Thanks!

J F ~ We (my siblings and I) have taken full advantage of the extra time we've had with mom. When she was first diagnosed, I instigated an every Sunday 'get together' at my place. At first, we thought this would only be for 4 to 6 months. Being blessed with over double this time has really allowed us to relax and enjoy the 'good days' with mom.

To reply directly to what you said..... Yes, we (my siblings and I...and mom) all cherish the time we have together. Thank you for your reply and thoughts.

Kyra, I'm sending your mother healing thoughts and prayers. I believe in miracles. I BELIEVE IN MIRACLES. Get some lavender oil and rub her down with this and she'll relax - if she doesn't like it on her body, then just on her feet. Enjoy every day with her and tell her I send her a big bayou hug (from Bayou Pacific)...many blessings to you and your family. Salud.

Thank you sweet Marilyn. I remember back when you and I first talked about my mom's illness. You were the very first person from Gather that I shared this with. You were such an angel to me then, and still are. Thank you so much for your loving words and prayers. They mean so much to me.

Aaron, In your reply you said..

"Dear, Kyra. You are such a joy to know, you're always supportive, positive, and just plain nice."

I could take my name out and type in Aaron and it would be exactly how I feel about you. In the short time I've known you, you have made a very nice impression in my life. I'm so glad to know you and to call you my friend.

Thank you for relating the loss of your father and your aunt's diagnosis with me. As I told the others above...although I HATE it that you have had to bear this pain and that you will soon go through it again...it's nice to know that you understand where I am and what I will go through.

Your prayers DEFINITELY help...don't wonder about that. I felt them very strongly last night...as did my mom...she told me so. Thank you for your email....and sweet thoughts & prayers... and most of all the offer to 'be there'. Thank you!!!

David~Thank you for that VERY nice compliment. I'll be honest with you....I don't always have a smile on my face. ;o) I do feel that I am more optimistic, happy and grateful than I am anything else...on most days but I do have my very grey days. After all, I am human. I think knowing this...that I am human....and cutting myself the slack to not 'be perfect' all the time is what keeps my spirits high more than low. It's funny, I tend to see all the beauty in the world....all the little things...more clearly when something tragic is going on in my life. I feel it's true that...to know great joy you have to experience great sorrow. That doesn't mean I'm unhappy when things are going smoothly....on the contrary. I love it when beautiful things are happening to me. When life seems to be rolling along smoothly. BUT I think that having very sad things to look back on....seeing how I weathered the storm....seeing the comfort that was offerred to me from my friends...helps me to know what life is truly all about. I ALWAYS feel that.... "I am right where I'm suppose to be". Everything I am is because of what I've been through and who those circumstances have brought into my life. I regret nothing I've ever done or anything that has ever happened to me. It's all a part of life. It's a cycle...you can either choose to 'go with it'... be open and 'live and learn' or you can choose to get angry, bitter and let it consume you and destroy you. I've seen the latter happen to too many people I care about.

Goodness, I just rambled on. Didn't I? *blush*

I feel much better today than I did last night. The smile is back on my face. Thank you for David...my friend...for your awesome compliment, thoughts and well wishes.

Thank you sweet Layla. Your hugs, love and light....mean a great deal to me. I feel it and accept it gratefully.

Rob, Johnny, Mark and Anne Marie~Your thoughts, prayers and well wishes have touched my heart. Thank you!

Thank you Tony. You have been such a great friend and support to me through this tough time in my life. I can't even begin to tell you how much it means to me. Thank you! (((hugs)))

Awwwww...Jackie...my dear, sweet friend...yes, I know how much you care for me and I hope you know the feeling is mutual. Thank you so much for your love, support and prayers. One of these days...I just may take you up on that phone call. Thanks! (((hugs)))

Jennine~Thank you for your heartfelt reply. I really appreciate your prayers.

Judy~It is a bit ironic that your mom just passed away from the same diagnosis AND that you were one of the 1st people that I connected with on a personal level here at Gather. :o) Coincidence??? I think NOT. ;o) As with so many other big and little things that have happened in my life.... I know that you and I have crossed pathes for a reason. Your sweet words and understanding of me and what I'm going through, and will go through, mean more to me than you will ever know. Already, even before we knew we would have this in common, you touched my heart. Now, in a profound way. Thank you my friend! (((Hugs)))

Miz Mariana~Have I told you lately how precious you are? Well....YOU ARE! Thank you for your sweet words, thoughts & prayers. I'll try the lavender oil on her feet. I bet she'd like that. I don't think I could massage her anywhere else though. Her skin is very delicate now...very thin and she gets bad rashes from just about everything she comes into contact with. :( BUT she does LOVE a good foot rub and as far as I know...she hasn't had any rashes on her feet. Thanks for this awesome idea. BTW~I already have the oil. :o)

Kyra, I am so sorry to hear this for the first time. You and your mother will be in my thoughts and prayers. My mother also chose quality of life and I have walked a similiar path as yours.
Also, as a hospice nurse years ago I have seen some amazing miracles. I will be praying.

I hope I replied to everyone. I don't always reply to everyone personally in my articles but since you all took the time to type up such heartfelt, touching replies...I just had to. In doing so, it's been very therapeutic for me. Thank you!!

Thank you Debbie. I'm sorry to hear you've experienced this too. Thank you for relating this to me. It's so nice to know that I'm not alone in this..that there are many others out there that understand and care. Also, thank you for your prayers.

I watched my father slowly die of cancer and it is a really challenging experience. My prayers are with you and your family.

Kyra, my prayers are with all your family at this time. Cancer is a horrible thing. Hopefully your mom will beat this thing. With enough prayers.

Laurun~Thank you for sharing. So sorry to hear that you and your family had to go through this as well. Your prayers are very much appreciated. Thanks.

Carol~There is really no chance of 'beating' this cancer. She isn't even trying anymore. BUT thank you for your well wishes and especially for your prayers.

Kyra, I've just had a word with Big G. about your mother.

Love and light to you and her.

I am Magi~Thank you for your prayers, love and light. All these things are eagerly accepted and greatly appreciated.

Kyra, I know what you`re going through, I had faced the same during my Mom`s crisis, it`s really tough to bear.

Remember, it`s worth and no regret to show your affection and the value for your living Mom than to show when it`s too late.

God bless your Mom & yr fly.

Kyra, I'm so sorry. You and your mom will be in my prayers. May you both experience a day filled with joy.

Anila~So sorry to hear that you have experienced this type of pain. Thank you for sharing this with me. It helps to know that others understand.

You're right about showing your affection while she is living....I am doing so and I feel so blessed that I have the opportunity to do so. So many others lose their loved ones so quickly and unexpectedly....this must be so much harder to deal with.

Thank you for your heartfelt reply and warm wishes.

Thank you Chris. Your thoughts and prayers are greatly appreciated.

Kyra, you have a smile that I feel I've known for a long time. It's warm and gentle. My prayers are with you and your family.

Shona~Thank you for this awesome compliment. I don't see your smile...but I feel its lovely warmth. I've accepted your connection request and I thank you for it. I have a feeling we'll be best buds in a short time. Also, thank you for your prayers...they are very much appreciated.

I'm so sorry to read of your Mom's illness. Humor got me through many of the long days of my Mother's illness. She could still laugh long after she was unable to talk. We'd crack jokes about the doctors and nurses and visitors walking by her room. She said laughter helped her pain. Humor is good medicine, but sometimes it's hard to find it. My prayers will be with you both.

Will hugs help?

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Thank you Donna. I agree...laughter is awesome medicine for the heart and soul. Thank you so much for your kind words of concern and prayers.

Moggy~hugs ALWAYS help! Thank you! Thank you!! AND (((hugs))) right back at ya.

(((I will have all I know pray for you and your mom and family)))

Thank you sweet Charity.

Your mother is in my prayers too. Stay strong.

Thank you Cinnamon.

Kyra, I hope your mom is feeling better today, I've been thinking about you guys.

I lost my mother to colon cancer last month. It's really a tough thing to go through.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

((((hugs))))) for you too Lera.

While we're spreading all of this love, my mom went in for tests yesterday for breast cancer, she gets the results this afternoon so please send some good vibes our way. Of course we're hoping for the best, both my mom's mom died of breast cancer and her sister has it now and is not doing well at all. :(

Best wishes to your Mom. Best wishes to you. Be what ever she needs from you. Never let her doubt your lve for one minute. And listen to Jackie ` she is the best!

Very touching poem for your mother Kyra (I followed your link). My thoughts are with you. My wife lost her mother to lung cancer 10 years ago and we lost my grandmother a few years back, she also refused treatment, to the same. I'm sorry for her pain and yours. I'm sure your Mother appreciates your strength through this difficult time.

I'll be praying for your mom. Have you considered hospice care? I know several people who have had relatives with terminal illnesses and they have been very well cared for through a Hospice program. Pain management doesn't have to be refused just because she has refused chemo/radiation. I'll be praying for you and your family too.

hey kyra...oh i did not know this about your mom. i am so terribly sorry. what a beautiful soul you are. you are going through all this and yet you reach out constantly to others...like you did with me. you and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers. i so wish i had more to offer you...

Moggy~I'm so sorry that I missed your post until now. :( I said a quick prayer for your mom and then sent you a private message. I hope she's doing alright. AND I'm so sorry to hear that cancer has ripped through your family. This is such an awful, awful disease. :( (((Hugs)))

Lera~I'm so sorry for your loss and all the pain. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.

Thank you Terry. I am trying my best to do and be all that she needs. Oh and you ain't tellin' me anything I didn't already know about Jackie. ;o) She's the cream-of-the crop in my book. :o)

Thank you Atticus. It's so sad and shocking to hear how many people have lost someone to cancer. Thank you for sharing your experience with me. I'm so sorry for your family's loss.

Janna~mom has been receiving Hospice care... ever since she turned down treatment....over a year ago. Hospice has been coming to her once a week, until about 2 months ago and now they come 2 to 3 times a week. Yes, she is loaded up with all kinds of medicines for pain, but still has really, really bad days. Since she refuses to come live with me or anyone else....I have to think that she doesn't always take her meds right. :( Thank you so much for your prayers my sweet friend. I feel them and they are greatly appreciated. (((hugs)))

Synch~Thank you sweetie. Your thoughts and prayers are more than enough. I assure you I (we) feel them and they mean the world to us. Thank you for your sweetness. (((Hugs)))

oh Kyra... i'm so sorry for her pain... i'm praying for her to be comfortable as she continues her valient fight .... God bless her whole family too...
hugs and love to you and all your family and friends...

Kyra,,,I see my sister suffering with pain ...and my prayers to your mother and your family.

Thank you necee. Sorry that I'm JUST NOW seeing your sweet comment. (((Hugs)))


Thank you Shirly. Your prayers are very much appreciated. I thought her passing would get easier... and some days are... but some days are A LOT harder. :o( When the "blue days" hit... they hit HARD. I'm so sorry to hear that your sister is suffering. I don't know the situation but I just said a prayer for her and for your family. It's always hard to see someone you love in pain. :o(

I just edited this article to reflect the fact that my sweet Momma has gone to Heaven. She passed back in July 2007. I also added links to the articles that I've written (about her) since her passing.

Thanks to everyone here who has reached out and shown me love and conern. You will never truly know how much I appreciate it. The past couple of years have been... painful and having my Gather buds... to talk to... to play with... to cry with... to just "be there".... was a GREAT comfort. Thank you all!!! BIG (((grouphug)))

Kyra I am so sorry for your loss it never seems to get easier when you lose someone you Love. I just lost the only Mom I ever knew I was raised by my grandma from 4 yrs till I got married at age 19. She had a severe stroke that paralyzed her throat muscles and she couldn't hardly swallow or talk. I feel so lost without her and can't believe that she is really gone. I am here to listen if you need an ear.
Trena