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Anita Shreve Book Giveaway

September 21, 2009 01:45 PM EDT (Updated: September 21, 2009 01:46 PM EDT)
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Gather is giving away a prize pack of Anita Shreve books. Here's what you can win:

A CHANGE IN ALTITUDE

Margaret and Patrick have been married just a few months when they set off on what they hope will be a great adventure-a year living in Kenya. Margaret quickly realizes there is a great deal she doesn't know about the complex mores of her new home, and about her own husband.

A British couple invites the newlyweds to join on a climbing expedition to Mount Kenya, and they eagerly agree. But during their harrowing ascent, a horrific accident occurs. In the aftermath of the tragedy, Margaret struggles to understand what happened on the mountain and how these events have transformed her and her marriage, perhaps forever.

A Change in Altitude illuminates the inner landscape of a couple, the irrevocable impact of tragedy, and the elusive nature of forgiveness. With stunning language and striking emotional intensity, Anita Shreve transports us to the exotic panoramas of Africa and into the core of our most intimate relationships.
You can also win a copy of the following Anita Shreve books:
  • Body Surfing
  • Fortune's Rocks
  • Testimony
  • The Last Time They Met
  • The Pilot's Wife







For your chance to win, tell us about a time you made a decision to forgive someone.

Gather will draw ten respondents who comment at the end of this post to receive a set of these books. Comments must be posted by Sunday, September 27th.


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Comments: 73

Ashley M. Sep 21, 2009, 1:49pm EDT
I have read Testimony for a book club. It was a book that could have been far better.

I have never had to make a conscious decision to forgive anyone. I am a forgiving person by nature. Life's too short and all of that.

I think a lot of people get hung up on an official "forgiveness" protocol they have planned out in there head.....if he apologizes....I'll forgive him, but that is not the way real forgiveness should work.
Tiffany v. Sep 21, 2009, 1:52pm EDT
I chose to forgive my dad. I was beyond mad at him for over a year for some things he said. (To personal to get into here). I have only been reconnected with him for 9 months now. I forgave him a few days before my wedding to my current husband....who I have been married to for 9 months today.
For your chance to win, tell us about a time you made a decision to forgive someone.

I was about 17, and this other young man and I had gotten into a fight over money. Although he owed me money and was not intending to pay me, we got into a physical altercation. After that I realized that what we was fighting over was really minor and decided to forgive him and told him that we should squash the bitterness between us and he agreed. We remained friends and I ended up getting 95% of the money he owed me.
Mary G. Sep 21, 2009, 1:56pm EDT
Hard question I'm working harder on being more forgiving as we all make mistakes no matter who we are and its easy to say the words, but doing them is another thing. The last person I forgave was my ex-trainer, who scheduled somebody else when he had already scheduled me. I was furious to say the least and it did take time to calm down.

I did workout that day; however, had to make an extra trip to another city for training. The only thing wasted turned out to be time, which I don't have enough of each day.
Dagmara H. Sep 21, 2009, 1:57pm EDT
Thanks for another contest again.

I think if we are angry at someone it's taking so much energy from us that we could use somewhere else. That's why I am trying to forgive people right away not only because the negative energy but also to show them that each of us can make mistake and hurt each other without even knowing it. Life is too short to be angry at someone
April H. Sep 21, 2009, 2:06pm EDT
I agree with Dagmara, life is short and I try to forgive right away. We all make mistakes, and all need to be forgiven at some point!
DiAnA D. Sep 21, 2009, 2:09pm EDT
I chose to forgive my dad who abused me in an unforgivable way when I was as child. By forgiving him I have grown in my faith.
Marsha S. Sep 21, 2009, 2:11pm EDT
you know...I would have to say when I decided to forgive my first husband for years and years of abuse...and actually start praying for him.
Jennifer O. Sep 21, 2009, 2:14pm EDT
I think forgiving my husband for some of the troubles of the past has been a big thing for me although it is hard to do and hard to hold onto
Ann W. Sep 21, 2009, 2:23pm EDT
I had to forgive my mother-in-law who tried to destroy our marriage and has been extremely hateful towards me. It was hard and took a lot of praying on my part.
Ariel Storm Sep 21, 2009, 2:31pm EDT
I have forgiven my father who was divorced from my mother when I was infant, and lived near us as I was growing up even though he never even made an effort to see or contact me.
Teresa W. Sep 21, 2009, 2:31pm EDT
I have forgiven many people because I think we need to forgive people, mostly for religious reasons, God forgave us and all that good God stuff. I forgave my father for hitting me in front of my daughter when she was a little girl (something she actually remembers unfortunately). I forgave a close friend for turning on me and using me which she promised she would never leave me again and she lied. And actually, I forgive her now but she doesn't know that but I can't be friends with her again because of her atrotious behaviour since she "broke up" our friendship the second time. Forgiveness is something that is so important to do, I think, otherwise it hurts us more than it hurts the person we don't forgive.
Suzanne M. Sep 21, 2009, 2:44pm EDT
I don't like to hold a grudge and usually find that forgiving is easy to do. I forgave my husband for past mistakes when I remarried him ten years later. Our second time around is not immune to hard times, but with age we have learned to overlook each other's faults and focus more on the qualities that made us fall in love in the first place.
Donald M. Sep 21, 2009, 3:16pm EDT
It doesn't hurt the person we are angry at, but grows in us like a cancer. It will weaken our bodies and make us ill, to carry the anger. Sometimes it takes a long time to forgive. But forgetting seems to be so much harder.
I know from my own personal experience. Now my family is torn apart.

My brothers hated my Mom, but when she was dying they came around and stayed 24/7. all the while stealing her blind. She loved them so much, who doesn't love their children . By the time she passed away she was penniless. They had spent her life savings in Casino's. Yes I am very angry, but must forgive.
Lori B. Sep 21, 2009, 4:03pm EDT
Donald i can feel your pain I know it must've been hard your mom going threw that and you knowing what others were doing, people like that are a waist of oxygen but you're right it is hurting you anger is the 1 thing that can tear someone down. I hope things will get better for you i know you have to hurt alot from that.
When I was 16 I used to share morning conversations with my dad. This was something I thought was really cool, because most 16-year-olds didn't even like their dads. We would sit and talk before everyone esle got up and it was just our time to bond. One morning didn't belong to us and I found out something. It took me a very long time to forgive him. But in the course of time I learned a few things, I grew a little and I forgave my dad and we cold talk again. I'm glad too, because even though he has his problems I wouldn't want any other father in the world.
Lori B. Sep 21, 2009, 3:59pm EDT
I chose to forgive myself for things i done when i was growing up. I think i tried to grow up to fast and got in with the wrong crowd and once i grew up and i looked back on what a self centered person i use to be it made me so ashamed i spent the last 20 years trying to put other people and their feelings first that alot of the time it ends up hurting me to the point i decieded i had been a different person for along time and that was my teenage years trying to find my way and can no longer be everyones doormat. I chose to forgive myself i have 2 daughters now 16 and 12 and a wonderful husband i have to leave the past where it is and enjoy my latter part of life with my family. I think the hardest thing in reality to do is forgive yourself because that's one person you can't get away from. It wasn't that i was that bad of a person but i was self centered and took people for granted i was also 15-20 i'm almost 45 i think it's time for me to let it go. Just a note to end on i know in my heart i am a better person by far today and the love for my Mother is what origionally made me realize what a bad person i was and want to be a better person.
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tell us about a time you made a decision to forgive someone:
I have decided to forgive my sister for not ever talking or seeing my Mom when she was dying of cancer...even though it hurt my Mom so much. It's not my hurt to hold onto.
Joanne Vicente Sep 21, 2009, 4:44pm EDT
Many years ago, when I was married to my first husband, he would occasionally put a suitcase full of my stuff on the front step and tell me to get lost for a while, so he could be with someone new. I decided to forgive him each time, because I believed that, even though my current husband has been the man of my dreams forever, we made vows before God, and I thought that was inviolable. John and I hadn't been together because we were of different cultural and religious backgrounds, and we didn't think being together could be possible. Anyway, after 21 years, I'd forgiven him for that and many instances of abuse, and I decided I could be just fine on my own. John had been my closest friend for all that time, and although we both married the people we were "supposed" to, we were miserable. After a lot more years, John's priest convinced us we would be happy together, and we are. I'll never have a reason to try to forgive my husband for abuse, because we are truly friends as well as lovers. We sort of forgave each other for the differences and we're probably the happiest couple I know of.
Rita j. Sep 21, 2009, 4:49pm EDT
I forgave my father for never being in my life a few years ago and now we have a ok relationship
Sassy Cat Sep 21, 2009, 5:03pm EDT
I forgave a college professor for giving me an A in statistics when I really only deserved a B or C
Brittney R. Sep 21, 2009, 7:05pm EDT
I had someone close to me that I really trusted, and eventually I found out that almost everything in our friendship was a lie. It took me a few years before I realized that he didn't really know what he wanted out of life, and that's where his deception came from. Once I realized that he didn't know how to be honest with himself, much less with others, I slowly found myself forgiving him.

That was the point where I realized you don't always need explanations or apologies to learn how to forgive, just an open mind and an open heart.
d d. Sep 21, 2009, 8:16pm EDT
when my children need to say sorry, I tell them that I forgive them. I also tell them what is expected of them to be decent human beings. :)
Vikki M. Sep 21, 2009, 9:32pm EDT
I am not the most forgiving of people. I used to hold grudges as a hobby, but as I mellow as I get older, I've found myself letting go and forgiving much more than I used to. I can't think of a specific incident at the moment though.
Rachel W. Sep 21, 2009, 9:51pm EDT
Without going into too much detail, My father was a drunk that beat my mom. He disappeared when I was 16 years old and I never heard from him again. On my wedding day June 26, 2009, I found out that he passed away. In the following weeks I found out that his quality of life , well, put bluntly, It sucked and it was his own fault. I did find out that he punished himself for all the horrible things that he did in his life though. After learning more about him and his life for the past 18 years, I forgive him. I finally accepted that he was sick and needed help but didn't know how to get the help he needed.
Kat W. Sep 21, 2009, 10:33pm EDT
It took a year but I finally forgave my "friend" that was suppose to be my bride's maid for not showing up to my wedding.
Talea J. Sep 22, 2009, 3:02am EDT
We all know that humanity is a race prone to error and mistakes. In The Lord's Prayer, we ask for forgiveness of our trespasses as we forgive those that trespass against us. But it isn't just about choosing to forgive those we feel have wronged us. It's choosing to forgive humanity as a whole. When we practice forgiveness as a way of life, as we are told to do and should do, it becomes much easier to forgive those closest to us whom we care about most. It also allows us to forgive ourselves.
Linda T. Sep 22, 2009, 8:13am EDT
My ex played games with our children and put my new husband and I through hell. He filed numerous false charges against us claiming child abuse. It took us years of sorting things out with the courts and we lost quite a bit of money. Our children were given over to him and he placed them in foster care. Further proof that it was all for spite. Even the children shared by my new husband and I suffered. The whole family was traumatized. I hated him with every cell in my body and it was killing me. I chose to forgive him so that I could let go of the hate and move on.
Pam H. Sep 23, 2009, 10:28am EDT
My ex tried to get my kids to tell him that my now husband and I abused them, he went so far as to deprive them of food and drink while they were there on the few weekends he has had them. I have a similar comment below as yours.
Jennifer B. Sep 22, 2009, 8:28am EDT
My father chose to continue drinking, even after he was diagnosed with liver cirrhosis. I struggled for a long time to forgive him for that decision. Fortunately, we had a close relationship again before he died last year.
Tara C. Sep 22, 2009, 10:43am EDT
I had to forgive myself for my past. It's hardest to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made, but you have to. I've done and said a lot of things that I have regretted at once, but now I just realize if I hadn't have done them I wouldn't be the person I am today. I had to forgive myself.
♠~Dnbuster~♠ ~. Sep 22, 2009, 11:36am EDT
For your chance to win, tell us about a time you made a decision to forgive someone.

I had to forgive my parents for not believeing me about something that happened to me as a child by a family member. For years they said that the family member that hurt me would not hurt me in they way that they did. It took me years to forgive them. but when i finally did it made our relationship stronger.
Shannon W Sep 22, 2009, 2:12pm EDT
I forgave a friend that broke a vow of friendship. It was hard but overtime it got a little easier. Then again...once broken, you can never go back exactly how it was.
April H. Sep 22, 2009, 3:28pm EDT
For your chance to win, tell us about a time you made a decision to forgive someone.Forgiving my adult son was an act of love between him and I. Our love and his daughter are the bandage that holds the wound together long enough to heal. Forgetting is also an act of love; in his family therapy session, helping all wounded parties return to a full and functional life drug free. ( You see 5 years ago both my son & his wife were practicing Herion addicts, and when my grandaughter was born addicted and blind a s a result was too much to take , So I took custody of my grandaughter and was estranged from my son. Forgiving my son allowed him to get help and divorce his wife and start a new drug free life, with his daughter( He has been clean 4 years now) unfortunately the same can not be said for his Ex who died of an overdose. And now we are working on forgiving her even though she did not make it in this life we must forgive her anyway so that my grandaughter will hold her mother in her heart.
Christine Zibas Sep 22, 2009, 3:39pm EDT
What a great prize. I'd love to win these books.

The last time I forgave someone was in the workplace. Working always seems to breed an atmosphere of competition and anxiety. People frequently become so stressed out and desirous of attention that they frequently behave in a manner that is usually uncharacteristic of their normal personality. A common problem is when people take credit for others' work and ideas. I have had this happen more than once, as I am sure have most people.

The last time it happened, I decided not to get mad or overreact to the situation. There's nothing that could be done, it helped the person (or so they thought) look good, and I had the satisfaction of knowing I had a clear conscience.
Darin Waugh Sep 22, 2009, 6:04pm EDT
The church I grew up in really stressed forgiveness. It's a part of me now, and I pracitce it often. Especially with people I work with who are often under a lot of stress and don't always think before they act.
cadi w. Sep 22, 2009, 6:09pm EDT
I forgave my boyfriend for making mistakes because life is short and it's not worth it to waste time getting angry about someone you love.
Lisa K. Sep 22, 2009, 6:31pm EDT
Back at the end of high school and into college, a friend of mine frightened me with his behavior. Many years later I found out that he'd been drinking heavily at the time. He's now a recovering alcoholic and I've forgiven him for the things he put me through. We've been trying to rebuild a friendship over the last few months.
Marie L. Sep 22, 2009, 6:42pm EDT
I made the decision to forgive my parents for not being the parents I needed as a kid -- that was a hard one!
Patti B. Sep 22, 2009, 6:42pm EDT
Pilot's Wife was very good...I enjoyed the movie featured on Lifetime
Amber C. Sep 22, 2009, 7:10pm EDT
I forgave my uncle for stealing my medication. I didn't have a lot of money, and I was waiting for disability to accept me or reject me, and on a night I stayed at my grandparent's house, he came into their house while we all slept and stole my medication. It was easy because he lived next door and had a key. I forgave him before he ever asked for forgiveness. Which was a long time after the incident.
Shannon R. Sep 22, 2009, 11:40pm EDT
Wow one book would have been plenty but an entire set? That is so amazing. That would give me plenty to read for awhile. I am so excited. I hope I am a chosen winner.
Janet "Jax" B. Sep 23, 2009, 12:58am EDT
I think forgiving ourselves for past mistakes is more difficult than forgiving others. In order to move on, I have had to forgive myself of a BIG mistake I made about 17 yrs ago. Forgiveness does not mean that there aren't consequences, as I live with the consequences of my actions every day....though I have forgiven myself.
Pam H. Sep 23, 2009, 10:26am EDT
Jax, you are so right. I have had a hard time forgiving myself for things I have done in the past. While I can forgive others for things they do to me, I have a much harder time forgiving myself for the things I do to myself.
tammy b. Sep 23, 2009, 8:50am EDT
I have always known the power to forgive. I don't ever remember it being a concious decission on my part to forgive. Awhile back, it seemed that nothing could go right in my life. Things that I thought was one way turned out to be another. (such is life). I didn't even realize that I was carring so much anger and hate around. Years had came and gone, when one day I woke up and I felt a 100 pounds ligher. I hadn't asked for the releif it just came. Slowly things turned around, and got better. Seems like I was myself again. Was able to let things go like I used to before all the things started to happen to me. Now, I can't stay mad about anything for longer than the moment.
Ruth Luce Sep 23, 2009, 9:14am EDT
Wow, these sound like most excellent books!
Forgiveness.
Well, it's taken me pretty much all my life but firstly I've forgiven myself for all the bad choices I've made. I just ain't perfect but I have learned from everything.
I made the decision right after the initial shock wore off to forgive my ex-husband for taking away everything that was any good from me and for taking my son's mother away from him. That's something that he is going to have to live with and someday will struggle to find a way to forgive himself for.
Cynthia J. Sep 23, 2009, 9:17am EDT
A friend of mine borrowed some money and never paid me back and left town years later she came back and never said a word about it. It was enough money that I could not let it go so I asked about it. She had totally forgotten about it and paid me back a little at a time. It was hard for me to forgive her about the whole thing, but I finally did.
In 1999, my brother was at a party....he and another "party goer" got into an altercation and the guy stabbed my brother. He (brother) was rushed to the hospital, but he died that same night. It took me a long time to put the anger and hatred towards Chris' murderer behind me, but I did. When I finally was able to forgive this person, I was able to grieve for my brother instead of being focused on the one that took his life.
Alex In Wonderland Sep 23, 2009, 10:01am EDT
I forgave my boyfriend for something he did when we first started dating and 8 years later that forgiveness has given us a family. Other than that I've never had to make a big decision to forgive anyone but I am forgiving my children on a daily basis- for spilling the milk that shouldn't have been in the living room, for not listening to me or calling names. Having to forgive regularly and honestly makes it easier to forgive for the bigger matters when they come around.
Winona Morris Sep 23, 2009, 10:10am EDT
I'm pretty much a forgiving person, unless you REALLY do me wrong its easy to forgive.

The first thing that comes to mind is my friend Crystal. She was friends with a girl who just HATED me in school, therefore Crystal "hated" me too. But Crystal and I had a class together and formed a loose friendship.

Then, after a fight in the school lunchroom with the other girl, I ended up with Crystal as a best friend. I guess I could forgive her the petty things she might have said while friends with the other girl and we're still friends today.
Pam H. Sep 23, 2009, 10:24am EDT
November 11, 1996 my ex husband told me he had fallen in love with my best friend. the initial hurt was tremendous and I experienced so many emotions during the next ten months leading to our divorce.

One day, I decided I could continue to hate him and her for the rest of my life or I could forgive them. I also decided that not forgiving them was not hurting them at all only hurting myself. At this point and thereon, I forgave them.

I found out day before yesterday that after twelve years, he has not forgiven me. This to me, is so sad. We have two sons, he has had his cell number changed so his sons will not have it for fear I will get it. Now come on, if I have made no effort to contact him why would I start now. No thank you.

He needs to learn a lesson in letting yesterday be yesterday and today and tomorrow the now.
Linda T. Sep 24, 2009, 12:50am EDT
Despite all the stunts my ex pulled my second daughter tries to maintain a relationship with him. In the Spring she had asked him to attend some of my grandson's tee ball games. His excuse was he knew I hated him and would not want him there. I told her to inform him that I stopped letting him rent space in my head long ago. He did attend one game. Hard as it can be I also greet him and acknowledge his presence.
Pam H. Sep 24, 2009, 12:13pm EDT
One year at Christmas time I went shopping with my Mom, two sisters and my niece. He was in the department store we were in and he proceded to shout profanity at my family including my Mother. Oh and she did not take to that well, niether did I. We immediately went to the check out just to get away from him. I don't even live in the same town as him anymore. I moved two counties away and proceded to take my KIDS to him so he would have visitation.
Kimberli T. Sep 23, 2009, 1:16pm EDT
I'm still defining what forgiveness is because I don't believe the explaination I got as a child was really what it is. But, whatever it is, I've been working on forgiving my father and my brothers for a lifetime of pain they have brought me. Oh, and my ex. But, really I'm thinking forgiveness is about not letting the past make your future suck. It's about realizing that what has happened doesn't define you, it developes you.
Trish A. Sep 23, 2009, 6:47pm EDT
Years back there was a girl who tried to come between my boyfriend (now husband and I). For years I carried bad feelings toward her. Fast forward to a funeral of a dear professor and she was there. All of a sudden I got up and asked to speak to her. People were nervous. I told her I no longer wanted to harbour bad feelings. She smiled and said something like, my goodness we were just stupid kids then and now we're happily married with children. We hugged and a weight was lifted. Way too long to hold on to a grudge.
Patti M. Sep 23, 2009, 7:34pm EDT
I had to make the decision to forgive my mother. She let me know many times that no matter how hard I tried, nothing I did was ever good enough. I look like my father, I have his personality and I was a dadd'y girl. She admited that she treated me that way because even though she divorced him, she felt she was stil living with him. We are fine now.
J G Sep 23, 2009, 7:51pm EDT
Never ever given the opportunity for revenge.
Kimberly Ripley Sep 23, 2009, 10:04pm EDT
I had to forgive my ex-husband. He simply can't help the fact that he's a complete idiot and of a far lesser mentality than the average moron. Once I did this I felt light as a feather!
Jan S. Sep 23, 2009, 11:32pm EDT
I'm not good at forgiveness - giving or receiving. I've come to believe that forgiveness is sometimes a process that takes time. Having forgiven, we are not required to allow that person to hurt us again, however.

The hardest forgiveness for me was to the man who committed a crime against my child.
j - Frugal Mom - r. Sep 24, 2009, 7:44am EDT
Tell us about a time you made a decision to forgive someone.
Like Jan, I'm not good at forgiveness either, and to be honest there is one person I wish I could forgive, because I know it would make my me feel better. So far it has not happened though, but I hope it will one day.

Nevertheless, I had two friends from middle school, who were the only friends of mine to continue with me on to public junior high. They thought that making fun of me was the way to get popular, and my first year in junior high was miserable.

Although we never became friends again after that, I have since forgiven them. The anger just kept eating me up, and forgiveness really has been a release of some sort.
Robin O. Sep 24, 2009, 8:07am EDT
For your chance to win, tell us about a time you made a decision to forgive someone.

I made a decision to forgive people so I didn't harbor resentment and anger inside myself.
I found if I didnt' forgive them, I couldn't forgive myself. I have many family members who won't forgive themselves for the awful things they did to me... that I forgave them for.
So no one talks to anyone else it has divided the family. How sad.
Pam H. Sep 24, 2009, 12:15pm EDT
I think my family has not forgiven my ex husband and I just think it is time to let it all be in the past where it truly is.
Jenn P. Sep 24, 2009, 12:40pm EDT
I chose to forgive my sister...

we had a falling out. About something she did behind my back. It was involving money. But I didn't think that was worth not having her and my nieces and nephew in my life. she is a great sister..
Missy Clay Sep 24, 2009, 1:11pm EDT
I as raised to believe that the hater suffers more than the hated. To forgive is to release yourself from the negative and move on.
Mary M. Sep 24, 2009, 7:42pm EDT
This book sounds fascinating! I'm sure the rest of her books are enthralling too.
Sheila Deeth Sep 25, 2009, 7:00pm EDT
He... didn't know what harm he was doing; had been hurt; didn't know what he needed; deluded himself...
I... thought understanding was forgiveness, then learned I needed more.
God... forgave him for me, then I asked Him to help me forgive myself as well.
Karen A. Sep 25, 2009, 9:00pm EDT
It's not easy for me to forgive and forget. But I do "forgive" my first fiance for breaking off our engagement 6 weeks before the wedding. Because he dumped me, I was able to meet my husband, who has been a wonderful partner for the past almost-29 years! My ex, I have found out, is twice divorced. Hmmmm...
Angel sent from God Secret Sisters Sep 25, 2009, 10:36pm EDT


I forgave myself first then I forgave as many people I could that hurt me....some I would not be able to get a hold of but in my heart I forgave them..
Karen R. Sep 26, 2009, 4:48am EDT
I forgive the person who ran into my van a few months ago and caused it to roll and flip and land on the drivers side. Even though she fled the scene of the accident, she was caught and confessed. I could have been killed in the accident, but was not. As long as the settlement is good in my lawsuit, I forgive her. I don't know if she was distracted or why she was speeding and ran a light and hit me. I do not wish her harm, but I do hope she learned a lesson and will always drive carefully in the future.
Frances Virginia M. Sep 27, 2009, 3:16am EDT
I try so hard to forgive others and sometimes I even manage to do it. One instance that I needed to forgive in particular is the time my husband was not faithful to me. I did forgive him but I must admit that you can never really trust them again. Unfortunately we are divorced now.
Joan C. Sep 27, 2009, 5:11pm EDT
My husband and I returned from shopping to find our mothers had been "discussing" us. I was so upset over what his mother said my mother said (she said,she said) that I went to my mother's house but when I opened my mouth, nothing came out. Twice. I went back home and wrote her a long letter expressing my anger. Then I tore up the letter and decided there was no point in being angry. I forgave her. Later she asked what the "visit" had been all about. I simply told her I had been angry but everything was okay now. We still have a very good relationship.
elizabeth sherman Sep 28, 2009, 9:03pm EDT

I Think we all need to forgive, each other we don't want too became an angry person. I've learned that its better to love and be kind even when other are not.
Stefanie Plum, Gather Partner Team Sep 29, 2009, 2:02pm EDT
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