Troublesome People

You are right, I never take it personal. Negative people are often that way because of their own life. People who have to argue, are often the same people that have to be right all the time. We all have bad days, most of us don't live in them. Others do which is sad.

I know several people like this. :|

I agree with you 100%! Its rather sad.

i don't know if that is that simple but there is something there for sure..turmoil inside comes out!

yes my sister is like this with me sometimes i would like to smack although I love her but she can be so annoying sometimes and thinks she is my mama at times

This "troubled themselves" theory, though TRUE, is something that people around me tend to use to justify the actions of the troublesome people.

My take on it is this:

Just because you're suffering doesn't mean I have to suffer.

Thanks for asking a good question and raising a good point.

I do my damndest not to take it personally, but there are two people in my life (my parents!) who know my every buton, and push those buttons at will, when they become bored, or atleast that's how it appears.

I've reached the point where I am beyond thinking they have good intentions. The closest people are often the ones who drive those around them totally nuts.

But I have gotten pretty damn good at not taking the REST of the world personally.

As for my parents, they live far enough away that I don't have to worry about them on a daily basis.

I had a good talk with Dad this morning, which is somewhat unusual, but what the heck. They're both unpredictable now.

We will always run into pessimistic people now and then. The trick is to not allow one of them to be full time in your life. If you do, it will just drag you down too.

Thankfully I don't have contact with many troublesome people, but I agree with Leah, just because you're suffering doesn't mean you have a right to make me suffer. It's okay to disagree with me but don't be mean for the sake of meanness. I bite.

Unfortunately I have a person like this that I have to deal with almost daily. She's never happy about anything, is always complaining. I tried for the longest time to put a positive spin on the things she said, but she always came back with negative things. Now I just try as hard as I can not to spend much time with her.
That's an interesting theory about her being troubled. I used to think she just liked the attention she got by complaining. I guess that may be her trouble. She isn't getting enough attention somewhere else.

I hear you. So far I haven't had that problem. The people I have picked or picked me are very nice. That goes for you as well. I always love your articles.

I can't agree more.

Sorry I've been AWOL for a few hours

Paul, I was not talking about you. I don't think you've ever said anything hurtful. I was more thinking of people I interact with in person.

Yes, and I'm related to some of them!

negativity breeds negativity...:)

Thanks for the great comments. It appears that some of us have had more negative experiences than others and that some people take things more personally than others do. Sometimes it's hard not too and sometimes it's a lot easier to just keep distance.

When I started this thread this morning I was thinking of people I know on a personal level. But I see that some members interpreted it to be about comments on articles. I guess it applies both ways.

Linda I've reached the same conclusion that you have about troublesome people, they can't be happy with themselves if they're always finding fault in others. There definitely must be some underlying, deep seated pain governing their disagreeable behavior.

It is hard to do, but just ignore them.

in real life i have to deal with a lot of negative troubled people. gather is my excape im glad i havent met anyone like that here. (knock on wood)

Boy is that saying ever true! I have worked with the public for years and I always met difficult people. There wasn't a thing you could do or say to please them. I wonder just what made them that way and why they wanted to cause trouble for everyone else. I tried the "kill 'em with kindness" ruse, but it didn't always work.

IN an old Rutger Hauer movie, 'Blind Fury', at the very climactic scene, a duel to the death between the hero and a katana-wielding assassin, there was a short moment in which the two antagonists are locked in a razor-edged impasse, face to face. Rutger Hauer smiles and says, in Zen-like simplicity, "Unreasonable men... make life... so.. difficult!" Always liked that one!

I work with the public now who come to me already angry. Trying not to take it personally comes really hard to me. Some you can change their attitude with the slightest bit of kindness. Others you could give gold to and they would still be unhappy. I swear it seems like some days those are the only people I talk to. The ones I could lick their feet clean for them and they would say I missed a spot.

That is so true. I have learned that when I find someone like that I smile at them, or say a kind word, rather then give in to the temptation to give what they gave. Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't. And Sometimes I just use them as a character in a story and figure their loss is my gain.

I love that line Julian. I'll have to remember it.

I worked with the public for years Serena. So I know exactly what you mean. But many of the people I dealt with from a social services perspective were troubled so I made allowances for them.

That's a thought Pam. I don't write stories but maybe I should start. (Just for the therapeutic value).

Yes, I know people like this. They quite often are also "drama queens." Everything has to be a big drama and even little incidents become BIG HUGE PROBLEMS. People like this I avoid like the plague - if I can. In some cases they're relatives and I can't avoid them.

yes they definitely are troubled people who cannot see any good in anything.

I know many people like this and because of my own dealings with depression, I often wonder if the need medicated! LOL

I like.

I have came across quite a few in my time so far. I have worked with the public in the past and let me tell you Oh Boy is all I can say. How hard I had to bit my tounge
I have no clue what is behind there anger but they sure want to pass it on to others

"Troublesome people are often troubled people."
so true, they dont have peace within, so they feel the need to build themselves up by trying to tear down someone else