by Nichole - oh so broke - K ..
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September 27, 2006

Pregnancy Questions / Worries?

April 25, 2008 01:37 PM EDT
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I guess I will start off by saying that by nature, I'm a worrier. I worry about everything. I also have GAD which adds to this worry. Anyway, the last few weeks I've been freaking out about my pregnancy and probably for no reason...

I'll be 17 weeks on Sunday and I thought a week ago or so I felt the baby.. or what I would assume would be the baby. It kind of felt like an octopus poking around in there one early morning.. I haven't really felt too much after that, especially in the last week. I know it's normal to not feel it this early, especially if your a first timer like me.. but I just want to feel her/him?

I don't go to the Dr. again until May 7.. then I will have an ultrasound and hopefully find out the sex of the baby.. and hopefully be told that everything is fine and normal. I'm just really anxious and am counting down the days, practically by the hour!

Are most first time moms to be usually this worried? I just keep thinking.. What if? I hate thinking what if..

I keep telling myself that the last time I went I heard the heartbeat, I was told everything is going PERFECT and I should be happy and content.

Also, there are days I swear I'm not growing and that I'm getting smaller. I know that really can't be.. but my mind is weird.

Am I normal or am I really freaking out mostly for nothing?

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Comments: 20

Susan S. Apr 25, 2008, 1:46pm EDT
don't allow yourself to worry, focus on the positive
Steph A. Apr 25, 2008, 1:50pm EDT
You're normal - most first time moms get worried about everything. I probably drove my doctor crazy my first pregnancy. But I wouldn't worry too much about not feeling the baby moving this early on, especially with your first pregnancy. You still have abdominal muscles, which makes it less easy for you to feel the baby. By your third, you'll be able to feel every hiccup!
Nichole - oh so broke - K .. Apr 25, 2008, 1:53pm EDT
Thanks for the reassurance :)
I just keep waiting for the days to pass.. so darn anxious for US and well.. kicking :)
Larry M. Apr 25, 2008, 1:54pm EDT
Freaking out for nothing is par for the course. Your hormons and other bodily changes are playing havoc with your brain chemistry. That said, it is perfectly fine for you to take medical advice whenever your emotions tell you that there might be something wrong. That's what we have doctors for. One time in a hundred there really is something wrong and prompt action on your part can save the day. So ride it out and keep a journal about your feelings and so on for your own future reference (you can always laugh about it later :-) and know that your odds are excellent of being just fine.
Kristen C. Apr 25, 2008, 1:57pm EDT
Hi Nichole! I'm 17 weeks today with my first pregnancy. I thought that last weekend, when i was lying down on my couch, that i felt SOMETHING that could be movement... most people say it feels like a flutter, but I didn't think so... more like something just moving, so maybe more similar to your octopus comparison! When i start to worry about the babies (I'm having twins), I remind myself that I'm doing everything I possibly can to take care of myself, and that is all that I can do right now. That said, I think it's very normal to be worried.
Kristen C. Apr 25, 2008, 1:59pm EDT
BTW, I have my big ultrasound this coming Wednesday, on April 30th! I can't wait to find out the babies' genders - I just hope they cooperate. A friend of mine recommended eating or drinking something with a little sugar before the ultrasound, to make sure the babies are awake and moving around!
Bridget ♥ Apr 25, 2008, 2:04pm EDT
That's totally normal! I'm a worrier too and did it the entire time I was pregnant - BOTH times! LOL! It's only natural!
Tabitha M. Apr 25, 2008, 2:30pm EDT
I worried through my entire pregnancies. I wish I'd relaxed a little more, but from the moment I found out I was pregnant I loved my babies so much and wanted things to be perfect. Hang in there!
Nichole - oh so broke - K .. Apr 25, 2008, 3:57pm EDT
I've been trying to remain "calm" lol.. I do keep looking at the bump every time im in the bathroom.. why I don't really know. It's not going anywhere. I don't exactly feel like something's wrong more so than I just am frustrated? I gues I just want constant reassurance that things are okay.
Thanks for the US tip, Kristen, I'll give that a shot. I'm supposed to drink a ton before the US. I'm just not sure I can hold it for that long!
Carol Lloyd Apr 25, 2008, 5:46pm EDT
focus on the positive
Erin S. Apr 25, 2008, 6:55pm EDT
You have to read Misconceptions by Naomi Wolf!
Michelle C. Apr 27, 2008, 4:59pm EDT
Well, to be honest, I worried non-stop with my first. It was difficult. The worries were non-stop... you know, most of it is from the hormones messing with your mind. Then again, sometimes, its just the worries of being a Mom....
Michelle C. Apr 27, 2008, 5:00pm EDT
Yep,that's the feeling or the baby squirming around. Its like a butterfly feeling in your stomach or a flutter feeling
Mary S. Apr 27, 2008, 5:04pm EDT
First, congrats on the pregnancy!

Second, that sounds like the feeling I had with each of my kids (I've got 4). At first, I thought there was a spider on my stomach and started freaking out. Turns out, it was my daughter's first movements.

Don't worry - those light little feelings will lead to stronger kicks and hits soon enough!
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Rae M. May 6, 2008, 8:43am EDT
It is perfectly normal to be worried and unsure as a first time mom. There are so many new things happening to your body and you don't know what to expect, and if you are feeling is right. You can feel comforted in knowing that if something is going to wrong in a pregnancy it usually happens within the first 6 weeks. Best of luck, I am sure everything is just fine.
Krystal Harwell May 28, 2008, 4:57am EDT
I know exactly how you feel! i was like that earlier this year when i was 4 months, and now here i am ready to pop any day now, and he's punching and kicking like crazy! lol. hope everything is alright!
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Kathryn M. Jun 5, 2008, 2:53pm EDT
Stop worrying and use this time to eat and sleep as much as you want to. This is the only time you can do that and not be considered a bum, lol.

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