My Kingdom For A Good Babysitter

HELP!!!

I have something to admit ... I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old and we have never had a non-family babysitter.  My husband and I work full time so our kids have always gone to daycare, but we have not yet had a non-family babysitter in our home. 

How is this possible you ask?  Well, we just do not go out much.  If we really do need to get away, we ask Grandma and Grandpa who will usually help us out albeit the fair amount of guilt that is usually involved ... "Didn't you just have a date night?", "That was a over a month ago Mother".  My parent's lack of involvement with my children is an entire other topic for which I could write volumes.

 So here we are, realizing that to better our relationship with each other and make life a bit less predictable and guilt ridden, we need to find someone ... SOON.  My husband and I are very different people.  I tend to think people are for the most part good and should be trusted (given limitations of course).  My husband thinks that most people are actually bad and not capable of watching our children.  I used to think his avoidance of babysitters was financial, I have now realized it is much more related to his loss of faith in people. :>(  After many discussions, we finally decided to take the plunge and try to find someone anyway.

 We determined that finding a daughter of a friend or neighbor would be best as knowing the parents is important.  My husband would like to ask the girl a barrage questions and give her a list of rules including "No Drugs".  I think this is VERY insulting and I would not feel comfortable with this.  I think that it would make the teenage girl feel like we had absolutely no trust in her and that we assume that she does do them.

 What I am looking for is a way to ask some questions and set some boundaries so that my husband feels comfortable, while maintaining a level of trust with the teenage girl of choice.  Any ideas?

 Thanks,

Jennifer B.