HELP!! My head is spinning!!

Help!!  My head is spinning.  I have a decision to make and it is making me crazy.

For twenty six years I lived in southeast Virginia while my parents lived in northern Wisconsin.  My son has lived in New Hampshire most of those years and in the last 12 years has been growing his family.  I moved to New Hampshire a year ago, but still live about 2 hours away from my son's family.  Thanks to gas prices I am only able to see them about once a month.  I understand it is easier for me to get to them than it is for them to pile a baby, a pre-schooler and two fighting pre-teens into a Suburban for a day trip to Grandma's house.  Who would want to be in a car with all that for two hours?

The other good news is that this past week my widowed mother moved bag and baggage (actually she is still waiting for the truck with bag and baggage)  near Hartford, CT to live a mile from my sister (the family caretaker) and she is now two hours away from me in the opposite direction of my son.  I am excited to have her so close.  For the first time since 1979 I have all of my family near me, not including my brother who insists he cannot be around both of "the sisters" at the same time.  He is an "oops" baby and my sister and I give him grief about his "mama's boy" status. He lives in Austin.   But I digress - - - -

Here is the dilemma.  I have a week of vacation from August 21 to 25 plus the weekends preceding and following.  Nine days to spend with family. How do I divide my time?  I also need a day or two for myself.

My mother wants some help to get her new apartment together and would like me to come down to her place first in order to help.  She says if I go see the grandkids first that I will be too tired when I get to her.  However, after we discussed that plan I found out that the big summer powwow is at Foxwoods the end of the week and my sister, brother-in-law and mother and I all want to go to that.  I had hoped to take my oldest granddaughters to it this year, but my mother is not quite ready to be inundated with her energetic oldest daughter and two scrapping pre-teens for a night.  Big sigh!! 

I can't afford the gas it would take to run back and forth from Hartford to central to New Hampshire and back again.  So I need to budget the time and gas wisely.  I am just beside myself.  I want to be able to do it all – have a great vacation, be a great grandma and a wonderful daughter and still have time for myself.  I am stuck in the middle.  HELP!!!! 

Any suggestions would be considered?   Any free plane tickets to a free week at a Tuscan villa would also be gratefully accepted.  A week all to my self looking at old museums and churches is beginning to sound very appealing.   (Mike, I am just kidding. This is not a plea for money.)