The latest issue of Babytalk magazine, a free publication focusing on mothers of infants, has dared to break the Great American Breast Taboo. On the cover of a recent issue is a picture of an infant actually breast-feeding. The nipple is obviously not exposed, but it is clear exactly what is transpiring. This cover has sparked a furor and outrage over the publication of a photo of an actual female breast fulfilling its natural function. The full text of the article, and the offending cover can be viewed at the following link:
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/14065706/
Somehow I, a sixty-five year old male, married with two daughters, avoided being infected with the twin American cultural viruses of racism and love/hate of the female breast. On the same day that I read this article about the uproar over the publication of a photo of a baby breast-feeding, I went to my local swimming pool for a swim and was surrounded by women of all ages exposing as much of their breasts and butts as humanly possible without being naked. One lovely young teen-age girl of somewhere between the ages of 14 and 21, who can tell today, had the smallest Bikini swimsuit I had ever seen. She was tall and well proportioned and seemed to be determined to expose as much flesh as possible. When her suit was wet from swimming, the effect was even more dramatic, but no one seemed to even notice. You could not see any nipples in the pool area, unless one of the women chose to bend over, which happens on a regular basis, but I guess that is acceptable because they did not intend to expose their nipples.
With the exception of the United Kingdom, America is almost alone in the world with this obsession with the human breast and sex in general. I have lived in Europe and it was refreshing to see a more rational cultural view of human sexuality. My sister was having her kids when I was growing up and I regularly saw her take out her breast and nurse her babies. I guess that is how I formed my attitude about breasts; they're for feeding infants the best, most nutritious, food. I worked as CFO at a baby products retail chain for several years. The stores all had areas where nursing mothers could sit and feed their infants. The area was secluded, but not hidden. The strange part about this is that the owner, a man, and the vice-president, a women, both found the process of breast-feeding disgusting, but they overcame their personal feelings to provide a important service for their customers.
States are passing laws to allow public, discreet breast feeding because women were being arrested for public indecency and the like for breast feeding in a public area. Some areas insisted that if a woman needed to breast feed her child, she go into the bathroom. The image of a women sitting on the toilet breast-feeding her baby is somehow disturbing to me. Our best friends have five children, all were breast-fed, and she nursed all of her kids in front of me and I never saw any portion of her breast. Nursing blouses are available that allow a woman to breast-feed without exposing any of her breast, but some people even object to that. Even Seinfeld had an episode where a woman discreetly breast-feeding in a hospital offended Jerry and another man. It's in the culture.
For decades the medical and scientific community has been emphasizing the need for women to breast-feed their infants to ensure a healthy start to life. In addition to the benefits to the child, nursing stimulates the women's uterus to return to its normal shape after childbirth and intensifies the mother/child bond. The production and sale of baby formula is a major business today. Even in the poverty stricken Third World, baby formula makers tried to get mothers to substitute their formula for breast-feeding. Some mother cannot breast-feed and some babies need special formula, but many mothers simply choose not to breast-feed. Breast pumps that allow working mothers to express and store their breast milk for feeding are readily available.
What is the origin of our contradictory, and unhealthy attitudes about breast-feeding? Why does our society frown on discreet public breast-feeding, but celebrate the exposure of the female breast, except for the nipple, in almost every other venue? Why is millions of dollars expended every year for breast augmentation? Why are we the primary consumers of child porn in the world? According to the FBI, more than 50,000 women, most from Eastern Europe, are held as sex slaves and prostitutes in the United States. Where did all of this come from and where are we going? I look forward to your comments.


Comments: 33
You know before I had kids, I had all these strange thoughts about breast feeding -- that I would never do it in public, that I would stop when the baby was six months old, etc. Once I actually HAD a baby, it was a whole other deal. I breastfed just about anywhere and frankly, I don't know what the big deal is. Half the time, you're totally covered up anyway, because you've either got a large, comfortable shirt on, or a blankie over your shoulder, or something. They even make these cool apron-like things now that you tie around your neck so that the baby is sort of cradled in it, but you're covered up. So frankly -- I'm with you; the hysteria over it eludes me. I can only think that it must come from our puritan background.
I grew up in Massachusetts. Our neighbor was from Georgia and she said that in the South, the attitude is a lot more relaxed -- you were much more likely to see women nursing babies on the bus, etc. I don't know if that's still true; that was 40 years ago.
I think it probably has to do with the sexualized nature of our culture today -- EVERYTHING is sexual, so it must make some people uncomfortable, seeing something "sexual" out in public like that. Weird, but there you go.
Good article!
A naked man or woman is no different than a naked dog or naked cow or naked horse.
http://www.gather.com/viewArticle.jsp?articleId=281474976770659
In this day and age, there should not even be an article about this. (I am not criticisizing this article, rather the need for it.)
I feel like the USA is reverting to the dark ages.
"I'm totally supportive of it — I just don't like the flashing," she says. "I don't want my son or husband to accidentally see a breast they didn't want to see."
how can you be supportive of it, if you have that coming along after it? and who is the policeman for her husband and son seeing things? she should be teaching them that breasts are wonderful things to nurture kids with. argh. she's just perpetuating her own myths and our cultural stereotypes.
Oh, so if they are waiting in hopes of a glimpse then it is okay to nurse in public?
Lady, there is no breast that your husband and son don't want to see. "
Glad somebody noticed the elephant in the room. Adam, I agree with your first comment as well.
I agree with Carol on the bathroom scenes....! unnecessary, to say the least.....and I think Adam has made a very insightful remark.
Too funny. (I wish I'd flashed him.)
It saddens me that many think of it as inappropriate. I've found that many of those who object to it still regard it as "fringe" behavior, despite the fact that hospitals heavily promote breastfeeding to new mothers. When are people going to realize that breastfeeding is just NOT naughty behavior?
Would you dare to EAT in public?
Would you deny anyone the right to EAT in public?
I got a NO to both questions. And in bathrooms? I might have to revise that paper again (if I can find it) and publish it, or just write a new one. Would YOU eat, sitting on a toilet? Why expect anyone else to?
And what about men who go topless? They have nipples too, you know. Why do men have nipples? What do they need them for?
And women who have a FUNCTION for their breasts must keep them hidden! It's awful!
It's also hot as hell in Guelph right now, and I'm carrying around many extra pounds on my chest. Covering that up only makes me more uncomfortable!!!
My Gather notification for both of you should say...you sparked a revolution.
Feeding the next generation is why breasts were designed.
In parts of Africa, mothers "iron" their daughters breasts as soon as they start to develop to keep men from raping them. This is done with hot rocks to stop growth, and thus make the women less attractive to potential abuse by men.
Biologically, breasts do have two functions. Feeding our offspring and attracting a mate. And the mindset and posturing is very different.
One sees more breasts on a beer commercial in one day than s/he can expect to see in a lifetime.
It infuriates me that people think they have the right to have an opinion regarding how a woman feeds her child. Why don't more women breastfeed? It is not because they are so stupid that they would consider the bull ride, it is because society does not support it. Breastfeeding is work. Moms that work must pump, and that is work.
Then again, I formula feed (supply issues), and I get dirty looks on occasion.
In a society that values "a woman's right to choose" why is it that a mother's choice in how they feed their child not valued? A baby is being fed. It is a beautiful thing. A child is loved. What is your cause for concern? Find the beauty, smile, and carry on with your own life.
In France, women breastfeed regularly. 18 years ago, I breastfed my son, in front of my father in law, who had asked me not to breastfeed in the same room.
Why did I? I had a nursing shirt, a cloth to put over part of my son's head and my breast area.
My father in law had no idea I had actually been nursing. He thought my son was sleeping at my breast.
At my town pool, a few years ago, I regularly saw women from France breastfeed at the pool. Nobody had a problem with it.
Not sure why it was only the women from France and not the local mothers who were breastfeeding at the pool, but that's what it was.
There are ways to be discreet.
My mother had brought up this discussion with me about 45 years ago, saying this country had a big problem with breastfeeding in public.
Glad to see we've made progress. Even if that progress has been small.