by Tresa M.
Member since:
October 11, 2008

I Am Very Sad This Morning

March 11, 2013 10:07 AM UTC
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I am very sad this morning.  Last night I was on facebook and someone had posted that a girl from my school had committed suicide yesterday.  She was just 16 years old.

I was not close to her or anything, but I did know her and I did like her.  We have been going to school together since elementary school.

I am so sad and confused by this, I am having trouble understanding it.  A lot of teens talk about committing suicide but most don't do it, I don't think most of the time they really want to do it, it's just that life seems so empty sometimes.

This is so sad.  I am hoping people stop and think how much they hurt everyone around them when they do something like this.  I also hope that kids stop throwing the word suicide around so much and realize just how serious it is.  I feel sad because she obviously felt she had no where to turn for help.

I am so glad I have my parents, my brother, and my good friends to talk to me when I am feeling sad, I never realized just how lucky I am.

Comments: 26

I am sorry to hear that. Suicide is so sad.
Tresa M. Mar 11, 2013, 10:19am UTC
Thank you
Phill Senters Mar 11, 2013, 10:15am UTC
So sad. She was so young.
Tresa M. Mar 11, 2013, 10:19am UTC
Yes, very sad.
Jean R B. Mar 11, 2013, 10:16am UTC
Tresa you are lucky. You have people that love you. I have seen a teen commit suicide. It is horrible but that teen left a note behind giving reasons for her suicide. The fanily would not show the note to anyone. You see sometimes the truth hurts.
Tresa M. Mar 11, 2013, 10:21am UTC
It is so sad that she felt that suicide was the only answer. If only her parents had take time to listen.
M. Bradley McCauley Mar 11, 2013, 10:42am UTC
Thanks for posting this. We all need to keep an eye out for any teens we know who seem especially unhappy---actually for anyone we know but especially teens.
William M. Mar 11, 2013, 10:56am UTC
I'm sorry to hear it and understand you being sad.
Hev L. Mar 11, 2013, 11:47am UTC
I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope you get some answers soon though.
Rayda Renshaw Mar 11, 2013, 12:01pm UTC
A friend of mine once said that those who commit suicide don't really want to destroy themselves, they just want the pain to stop. I spent much of my life feeling like I wanted to commit suicide and I have to say my friend is right. I didn't want to destroy myself, I just wanted the pain to stop. The sad thing is that teens don't have the full brain development to be able to fight those urges as well as maybe an adult might. They are at a vulnerable time in their lives and if they don't have vigilant parents, sometimes they may cave into those urges. I'm sorry you are dealing with this but know that there is an understanding God out there and He has taken your friend into his loving arms. Her pain has ended.
lena k. Mar 11, 2013, 12:12pm UTC
so sorry to hear this
ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 11, 2013, 2:58pm UTC
Awareness is so important. Sorry about your friend.
Darin Waugh Mar 11, 2013, 3:22pm UTC
So sad! Your reflection is right on!
Rae M. Mar 11, 2013, 3:23pm UTC
I am sorry sweetie. I wish I knew the answers as to why people do this. I just know someone must really be in pain to go to such measures. I guess the best we can do is when we see someone who is sad try to talk to them. I think sometimes the right person talking to a desperate person at the right time can make all the difference
Karen E. Mar 11, 2013, 6:09pm UTC
She must have been in a lot of pain.
Beth J. Mar 11, 2013, 6:46pm UTC
Thank you for sharing on Helping Out One Another
Larry H. Mar 11, 2013, 9:57pm UTC
The way I was treated at home I am surprised I didn't run away, and become a picture on a milk carton. (they didn't have them then)
Janet "Jax" B. Mar 12, 2013, 12:52am UTC
It's sad...and it's a very selfish thing to do. You will feel however you feel....whether it's sad, angry, etc.
Betty S. Mar 12, 2013, 2:08am UTC
I know the feeling all to well of helplessness , I tried suicide when i was fourteen years old and lost my Mother to cancer. Again a couple of times as an adult.. i did not have it in my mind to hurt are be selfish.. I just wanted the hurting to stop..i finally did give up and get help and thankful that i did.

I am so sorry to hear about this young girl taking her life. so many of our kids are being bullyed at school, online and about anywhere else they go.They take until they feel they can't take anymore so they end it.
Tom W Mar 12, 2013, 11:57am UTC
I am so sorry to hear about this. Very sad and tragic.
Tresa M. Mar 14, 2013, 3:27pm UTC
Thank you everyone, for your kind comments.
Nora D. Mar 14, 2013, 4:22pm UTC
It's so terribly, terribly sad......and so young! It seems like these days both parents are so darn busy working at jobs outside the home, they have no idea what's going on with their kids.......I know there have been several suicides around our city, in some of the suburban schools.....this school year, alone, there have been 6 or 7 suicides.....all boys......in middle and high school......it's so very heartbreaking.........everyone needs to keep their eyes and ears open for any kind of signs and then try to get help for these kids. It hurts.......really really bad, doesn't it?
Truth Always Mar 14, 2013, 4:27pm UTC
I think that so many kids dont have anyone to look up to.... Many times they are abandoned by either one parent and sometimes both parents... many parents are on drugs and dont have the time to care for these kids so the grandparents are now doing this... Some kids need an outlet themselves this is why, many turn to drugs, then the depression, the money, helplessness, no reason to live... so many reasons can make a kid do this... Its sad...
Amber C. Mar 15, 2013, 7:46am UTC
It's hard for teenagers to sometimes see past the moment. I know I often though about suicide when I was a teen. I hope more people are open to asking for help. I hope somehow you can heal and move past this eventually. It's understandable why you are so upset.
Holly K. Mar 22, 2013, 5:09pm UTC
I'm truly sorrow for this Tresa.
Paula C. May 5, 2013, 5:31am UTC
Tresa, you and your classmates are in my prayers. I have been where you are today, and it hurts. Lean on each other, and your families. Do what you can to make sure that her life means something. If her story keeps one young person from believing that they have no hope, her story needs to be told! (Don't know what kind of music you like...but Rascal Flatts has a song called "Why" on their Unstoppable album. It really spoke to my heart even though it has been more than 25 years since my classmate took his own life. The song actually helped me heal all these years later! I love ya kiddo....

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