If you read my post that I sent earlier today then you know that along with a bunch of other bad stuff today my 9 year old's vice principle called me today to tell me that my son had thrown a fit after someone was mean to him today and ended up pushing another kid. After talking to my son I now know what really happened.
While the Vice Principle just thought the kid called him a name the kid was actually taunting him and teasing him. Then my son got angry and starting jerking his body around and moving his hands around and he accidentally smacked his best friend who standing by him trying to calm him down. He did not mean to hit him, and I believe him that he did not mean to hit him. That is his best friend and he would not just smack him or push him because someone else made him mad. My son is also not violent. His older brother teases and annoys him all the time and he has never hit, pushed, or punched him ever. He is more of the run away and cream type. LOL And no my older son is not hurting his little brother he just thinks its funny to tease him get a rise out of him, which is mostly just in fun, but I can certainly see how annoying it is and he gets told to stop fairly quickly.
Anyways when I heard the name of the kid who was taunting him from my son, I remembered hearing that name a couple of times in the last couple of weeks, just kind of in passing my so mentioned that this kid had done or said something mean to me and 2 days ago he said that this kid told him he hated him, and yesterday he yelled something negative out in front of the whole class about my son, and my son told me this after school yesterday before this even happened today, so I know my son was not making anything up today to save his own hide. I asked him if this kid picked on him a lot and he said, "Yes, he picks on me all the time, and I didn't mean to hit Sammy I felt really bad and I apologized to him." He was chocked up when he said it and Sammy said it was OK he knew it was an accident. I really wish the Vice Principal would have called Sammy in and got his side of the story.
So I called the Vice Principle after school and told her that I had talked my son and that she should be aware that this kid has been picking on my son for some time. So she is going to talk to my son's teacher and make her aware of that and have her keep an eye on that kid and my son. My parents never stuck up for me and it really hurt because like my son I was small when I was in elementary school and I got picked on a lot and I often got blamed for things when I was actually the victim, and my parents never stood up for me once. I am not going to let that happen to my son. I am no hell raiser, but I believe my son was the victim today, not the guilty party.
By the way this kid is a whole head size bigger than my son.
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Comments: 16
I can not condone my son having a quick temper like that, but I can't allow him to be picked on either. This was not a quick name calling or a comment, the kid was actually taunting him.
Your son needs to learn how to protect himself. He also needs the reassurance that his family will back him if he ever takes a swing at someone who is bullying him.
I am so thankful our son is grown up/an adult.........it seems like schools and kids anymore are getting way out of hand.
We found a perfect remedy though: homeschooling!
Inadvertantly, I had gone to the one person who actually could do what she did... and I am sure she was aware I had no clue she could do anything because I was looking for advice, not demanding her to do something. It also helped too that she knew my son personally via his being the camera person doing the filming. The school board meetings he filmed was broadcasted on local tv.
So if the principal doesn't listen to you and this does not get resolved... if they refused to make changes needed, like I had asked the school for... then try talking to someone on the school board.. about it.
In my opinion they have to do something.
My other son was trying to graduate on time. He lost some courses due to moving to Florida and some he failed because he had a seizure disorder. I tried to get our Doctor to send him to a Neurologist but she refused to give me a referral. As soon as we moved to Florida and my husband had a job with benefits.. I took him for his entering school physical and that Doctor sent him for tests... and indeed he had a disorder.
My other son took night courses and summer courses. The summer bus stop was not as close to my home as the normal one... and because the medication he was on for his seizures he needed to be picked up a the usual stop. I tried to deal with the bus dispatch about it. They decided to have another bus pick him up but he would have to sit at the school for over an hour in the empty auditorium... waiting for the class to start. My son had seizures and I asked would you put someone in a wheelchair there and make them wait an hour alone and she said "of course not"... and I said well then with my son having a seizure disorder, why would you do that to him? It was on record with the school, and he had accomodations... She said it was the only thing she could offer. I said well, then I think I ought to call a lawyer. Oh, my now she said I was to get a medical note from his doctor and then they would do what my son needed. So I got it and sent it to the person in charge with a letter about what had happend and how wrong it was to do this when he was in the school and it was on record there.. and how unhappy I was with the attitude and response. I got a call and it was resolved right away. I have no idea why people do not understand a seizure disorder is a valid handicap... she just didn't want to make the change and thought I would give up. Not this mama, nope. :) I made sure to find out who was in charge and let them know what happened. Sometimes we have to go over people's heads to get things done as well as mention lawyers. :)