... but you found out in the past they hit their former boss after losing their temper and went to jail for 45 days because of it.... not yet knowing the rest of the story (because I don't know it yet, so I really can't fill you in here)...
Would you be judgemental and automatically assume you should forget this situation? Once a hitter, always a hitter and who know if he could hit you?
Would you wait until you find out the situation and determine from there? Maybe there was a good reason for what happened, he could have just gotten into a really bad situation and you may have done the same had it been you?
Or assume they paid their price to society, they don't have any other hitting in their past that you know of (this person would have told you that or your neighbor would), so why not just go for it?
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Personally, I'd run like hell. This would make me lose interest in the person.
If this had happened 5 years ago, maybe. Right now a part of you will always wonder who is next. You don't need the stress in your life.
How long ago did this happen? If it was a one-time situation in his long-ago youth, it's like not to be a problem, otherwise...
i don't know how long ago yet. when he told me it was enough of a bomb so i didn't pursue it at the time. i was too shocked.
...Im currently in a situation where a drug dealer got help from the clients and they lied about who swung first, and 9 people who saw it my way, have moved out, and the last 2 are afraid that their vehicles will be damaged as well.
...If someone grabbed a tree branch and threatens to kill me, I will defend myself. WOuldnt you?
...I have had bosses that have pushed, shoved, and poked fingers into my side. I hvae been called every name in the book. I quit those jobs, and filed a complaint on each abuser. (2 of the 3 were fired for doing exactly what I described and lost a lot of money.. The third, his company went out of business.)
...People can be pushed way to far with name calling
...SOmetimes a violent response happens because someone is pushed way too far. Like what has happened to me, a few3 liars can cause someone innocent to be charged.
...You have to find out what happened.
...Ask yourself this, has he ever showed you any violent actions? Has he been verbally abusive towards you? IF not, then see his side of what happened..
...I know that my choice of words are being colored by the way I feel about being charged with common assault, with 9 witnesses scared off.
...My moral code forbids me to swing first.
I hope that it works out ok, The main part is how he treats you.
If he is abusive towards you in any way, what he says will be the first thing to show you his nature.
...I totally understand the reason why. I was in an abusive relationship. my wife was the abuser.
I've beaten the ever-living daylights out of my share of my (59 or 60, to the best of my recollection --- my parents once placed me in a reform school and I was an immediate target for bullying, although I won nearly every fight).
That said, I've never once struck a woman, and have never even so much as been tempted to do so. If the boss was a man, I'd find out the rest of the story before passing judgement.
Oh, and of those 62 total fights, I started not a single one of them.
Depends on a lot of things too. For all I know, some fancy attorney hired by the company made what the boss did to the employee look like what the employee did to the boss. 45 days is a very short sentence for aggravated assault so I would assume there's probably more to it than I know.