Iâ€™m at the board meeting for a local charity and itâ€™s time for their annual Las Vegas Night. Every year Iâ€™ve been in charge of ticket sales, all the tickets: general admission, drink and betting chips. This is my favorite job, I get to be at the front table and meet everyone as they come in the door. I feel that this is a great opportunity to chat people up about the organization and what we do, make sure they take some of our brochures about programs and encourage people to learn more and become active in our organization.
Okay, so Iâ€™ve got this job down pat and Iâ€™m feeling pretty good about it, then I get a call from the chairperson of the event who says that she also needs me to be in charge of beverages this year. I really donâ€™t want to do this, I feel Iâ€™d be overwhelmed if I also took this on, also I donâ€™t want any alcohol in my car or house, which would be necessary. I donâ€™t want to see it, lift it or look at it.
How do I get out of this? I know this woman, sheâ€™s smart and fast with rejoinders. I donâ€™t feel comfortable having to verbally spar with her, I feel at a loss.
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