by Jennifer T.
Member since:
July 13, 2010

When does it get any better?

August 29, 2012 09:23 PM UTC
views: 0 | 8 people recommend this | comments: 61

Work was terrible tonight.  Something bad happened there and I don't agree with how it was handled.  I don't want to go back. I want to call them tomorrow and tell them that last night was my last night but I can't because of the financial situation that I'm in right now.  Things haven't been this bad since those first few years right out of high school.

But it's not all about the money.  It's about a lot of other things.  It's about the reasons I'm in the mess right now.  It's about my horse.  It's about relationships and it's about the house. If I could quit working at my second job, that would make some of those other things better but they certainly wouldn't help the financial situation.

So, how do I sort this all out?  I've been praying a lot and every time I think things are getting better, they get even worse.

And how do I get out of working this second job? That's what's bothering me the most right now I guess.  I'm really getting scared to be there and I need to be at home more, for the sake of my family.

 

Comments: 61

M L M. Aug 29, 2012, 9:26pm UTC
Why does your job scare you?
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:27pm UTC
It involves parents and kids and unpleasant circumstances and there's lots of emotions involved.
M L M. Sep 1, 2012, 6:52pm UTC
I can see why that could become dangerous, especially when the kids are unruly and the parents are in denyal.
Kim B. Aug 29, 2012, 9:29pm UTC
Sorry things are so bad at your job. I know how you feel, I wish I could tell my boss to shove it, but then I would be out in the street with nothing and two pets depending on me. I pray a lot too. Today was an exceptionally bad day, maybe it's the Moon.
I hope things get better for you soon.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:28pm UTC
I hope they get better for you too!
Connie Chun Sep 1, 2012, 10:41pm UTC
Sorry to hear about the job situation. As if the economy isn't bad enough, the boss has to make it even more difficult. And yes, our pets are like our children, and they are the reason to keep me going and strong.
Debbie W. Aug 29, 2012, 9:31pm UTC
Jennifer, your safety is more important than anything. If you think what ever happened will continue and it will impact your safety, you need to get out. I don't know what happened but is it something that could be reported to a local or state agency?
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:30pm UTC
We are the agency and some of the clients aren't very good at following rules, then they get mad at us for having rules and some of them like to throw threats around.
Connie Chun Sep 1, 2012, 10:42pm UTC
Oh my! If only you can have video cameras all over the place to record such threats!
Katryn D. Aug 29, 2012, 9:35pm UTC
there's not much information to go on for advice...
Tim T. Aug 29, 2012, 9:37pm UTC
Exactly!
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:30pm UTC
Sorry! I can't say too much due to the nature of the place I work at.
Katryn D. Sep 1, 2012, 6:59pm UTC
I can understand that...but not sure what kind of advice to give...just hang in there I suppose, things have to get better...that's what I keep telling myself through all my issues...
Tim T. Aug 29, 2012, 9:36pm UTC
...trying to figure this one out. Why not start looking for something else while you have that job so you can leave if these feelings continue.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:31pm UTC
I'm trying to get some things figured out and I'm hoping to be able to quit by Christmas time or maybe even sooner.
Nora D. Aug 29, 2012, 10:01pm UTC
Jennifer, if things are that bad, GET OUT of there....leave.......there is nothing worth risking your life over.....I know....there was one time I HAD to get out of a job......the supervisor and I got into it....I was soooo mad, I didn't speak to anyone the rest of my shift....it bothered me so much, I went home, and told myself, that's it.....I refused to let myself be treated so badly.....the next morning, I called the place and told the people that I quit........gave no notice at all, and I didn't care a bit......I was never so happy in my whole life.
Is there any chance you can look around for other jobs? Can you go and talk to somebody "higher up" without getting into trouble?
Please...please.......if you're that scared to be there, quit and walk out. Nothing is worth risking your life over.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:35pm UTC
I hate feeling that way. I don't like being scared all the time. It's not a bad place and I like working there but it's getting too risky for my comfort I think. I'll try to get out of there as soon as I can.
Nora D. Sep 1, 2012, 6:39pm UTC
Nothing is worth risking your safety or your life.....please get out ASAP......you've got me really worried about you!
Rose Hill Aug 29, 2012, 10:01pm UTC
Can you anonymously report the situation while looking for another job?
Although if it is not safe, it's not a good idea to put yourself in harms way - you can't fix anything if you are hurt or in trouble.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:36pm UTC
It's more the clients that come in that can be scary and I'm not a very confrontational person.
Shaunee C. Aug 29, 2012, 10:34pm UTC
I hope everything turns out for the best.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:36pm UTC
Thanks! Me too!
Kevin E. Aug 29, 2012, 10:50pm UTC
My thoughts and and my heart goes out to you. I wish I had answers for you but sadly i don't I am sorry.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:37pm UTC
It's okay. I just need to figure out a way to make between three and four hundred dollars a month there and then I can quit. I'll just keep thinking! Something is bound to come up right?
Janet "Jax" B. Aug 29, 2012, 10:59pm UTC
I guess I don't know enough about the situation to give informed advice....but if you feel threatened then you shouldn't be there.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:38pm UTC
I just need to quit that job. Hopefully by Christmas. It's been way too stressful for me and my family.
Sophie S. Aug 29, 2012, 11:20pm UTC
Was there some sort of situation where your life was put at risk? If so, I would say its time to walk away from that job. I can't say that you are sure to find something else right away, I know I certainly haven't. I was laid off with my entire department and then told I was going to be kept on with the company as a freelance worker, only to get one or two projects a month, when I was averaging ten, and no benefits at all. To make matters worse, both my parents have been laid off as a result of my dad getting sick so things are super tight here and I am looking for every way possible to earn money. Still, no job would be worth putting my life at risk for.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:39pm UTC
The place works with kids and parents in unpleasant circumstances and emotions are very volatile there. All it takes is one very mad parent coming in......
Sassy *bacon makes me happy* Cat Aug 29, 2012, 11:20pm UTC
It is easy for me to say because I am not in your situation, but from what I read here...

You are not safe at that job and you need to be home more for family.

I think your safety and your family are more important than that pay check.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:40pm UTC
I think you're right. I need to find something else to do.
Tessa D. Aug 29, 2012, 11:37pm UTC
sorry - prayers
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:40pm UTC
Thanks!
Emma Renshaw Aug 30, 2012, 12:47am UTC
"It's the character that's the strongest the God gives the most challenges to. Now, you can take that as a compliment." - Return to Me
Hope this makes you smile <3 chin up, k?
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:40pm UTC
Thanks.. that DID make me smile :)
Emma Renshaw Sep 1, 2012, 7:01pm UTC
lol good
Karen E. Aug 30, 2012, 1:10am UTC
I can't help. Sorry. I think there is some good advice above...
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:41pm UTC
Yep, there sure is!
Rayda Renshaw Aug 30, 2012, 1:45am UTC
Sometimes we have to take a leap of faith, my friend. There are other jobs out there. Start looking. In the meantime, if things are that bad at your second job, give them notice and let them know exactly why. If they give you any grief, talk to a lawyer. Employers are required by law to keep you safe at work. If you don't feel safe at work, then it is the employer who is liable. You need to stand up for yourself and self-advocate or else find someone who will advocate for you. No job is worth that kind of grief.
Nora D. Sep 1, 2012, 6:38pm UTC
I totally agree with you.....nobody could have said it any better!!!!!
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:42pm UTC
Very well said! I think they need to do more as far as safety is concerned. Most clients are okay but all it takes is one who has been pushed a little too far.
Heaven M. Sep 1, 2012, 6:51pm UTC
What Rayda said!!

I'd like to add..
One of my coworkers, who only worked for a few days a week, made a good chunk money working for dr.s from home. They basically give you a huge stack of bills and you mail them.

You can take this on by yourself, or it's sometimes available right under your nose, like somewhere in town who does it on a larger scale hires others to take on part of the load.
And you can work from home.

It doesn't hurt to look into it :)
Marsha C. Aug 30, 2012, 1:48am UTC
I don't know what is going on, but have faith!
Things will work out. I will add you to my prayers on the situation.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:43pm UTC
Thanks for the prayers!
Betty S. Aug 30, 2012, 2:25am UTC
Praying that you'll be safe and all needs will be met. Take care of yourself. Your family needs you!
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:43pm UTC
Aww.. thanks!!
♥ Christine aka stine1 ♥ Aug 30, 2012, 5:02am UTC
Ouch....
is there any chance you might look for another second job before quitting your current one?
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:44pm UTC
I'm working on it. I need to find something else or get into a place where I don't need that income.
lena k. Aug 30, 2012, 11:44am UTC
i don't know what happened but if you fear for your life you should leave things will work out its not loseing your life over i will pray for you good luck
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:44pm UTC
Thanks!!!
Pamela Marks Aug 30, 2012, 11:59am UTC
somtimes you have to take one thing and work on it one step at a time instead of looking at everything even though they all may need to be done you need to at least concentrate on one. Pick the most important thing you would like to get done, or the smallest and start working at it.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:46pm UTC
I think I'm starting on my house. I've been working on this one room and as I decluttered it, I put things on ebay. I made $127 in August. If I could make a little bit more, that would help with more than one problem - I would be cleaning up the mess, I could quit that other job, and I would be home with the family :)
Diane Huizenga Aug 30, 2012, 5:47pm UTC
Hope things work out for you
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:47pm UTC
Me too! Thanks!
William M. Sep 1, 2012, 2:59pm UTC
I hope talking about it helps you make up your mind or at least eases it some. I wish you the best.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:47pm UTC
Thanks! Talking it all out always helps :)
Heidi S. Sep 1, 2012, 3:10pm UTC
I think you have take a step back and consider your priorities. What I have learned (in a very, very painful way over many years) is that you have to put God first, then your family, and then your job. Once you are "right" with God, other parts of your life will fall into place. If you are doing something that you feel goes against your integrity or morals (whether it be with God, your family, your job, your place in society) - you have to stop because it affects your spirit in a negative way, which spills over into everything you do. For me, leaving my big-paying job at a company that became corrupt, dishonest and dishonorable was the first step in the recovery of my spirit. Take care of yourself.
Jennifer T. Sep 1, 2012, 6:49pm UTC
Yes, there's lots of negativity flowing in my house right now and I need to get it out! I will keep working on those prayers!
Heidi S. Sep 2, 2012, 10:25am UTC
:)
B.Lynn M Sep 12, 2012, 6:03pm UTC
I understand how you feel. Life seems to throw a lot at you when it is already overwhelming. It is hard to hang in there but be strong and hopefully things will smooth out in time. Whatever happens be at peace with yourself and and the decisions you make.

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