Growing up in these times with the world going in circles and in shambles, our young generation don’t know what roads to take no more. Good percentage of children wonders, what will their future hold for them. With Adults acting out their own violence behavior, children are watching and searching for role models in their lives that can encourage them on the right path.
Growing up my own grandma, rest her soul. I can recall when my grandma would sit down and share with us stories of her own childhood memories. Today thinking about them stories she would share are now part of history in my Adult year’s. Back in grandma’s days, they didn’t have the new modern technology we have today or Tv. They live off of the land and neighbor’s would help one another when in trouble or in need. We attend church faithfully every week as a family and sang those old time gospel and preaching. Granted now, I am not against change for some change is good but some change is not necessarily need to be. If we look at our government, we can see so much corruption but the Bible says, we are to respect those who are in Authority. What is going to be like five year’s down the road for our young generation and their children.
Will there still be plants or trees? Corruption in our schools. Some children today, are so frightened to go back to school for they know what lies ahead of them. Those children that are constantly being bullied and harassed and even discriminated because of how they dress or on their personality and their abilities to learn. My opinion; learning starts from home. Parents teaching their children on how to treat another human being. Parents who dreads the thought of even sending their children back to school. Children who lives with one parent, because of divorce or may have one parent or two in prison and being raised by their grandparents. Whatever the case may be in the children’s life they are still searching for their own identity and discovering their own lives. Children with chip on their shoulder’s and don’t know where to turn to because in some cases they can’t turn to their parents for one may be absent or both so in some of these cases they may turn to none else than their grandparents.
What is our government and teacher’s and other Adults teaching our children? It is okay to hurt our planet by pollution. I came across a story about a young girl who silence the world by the speech she wrote and spoke and shared it with congress, our government and I believe even share with the President of our great nation, United States of America. She was concern of her outcome of her future. She ask: What examples are Adults and leader’s of our state of United States America’s and in other nation setting before young generation who are watching not only their actions but the words they speak. “Are the teaching us it is okay to lie, okay to steal, okay to destroy our air, animals and innocent lives? Is okay to treat humanity like animals would in the wild? Such powerful speech the young girl gave on concerns of all young people.
My granddaughter and I would sit down and have little chats about her future. See, my fourteen year old granddaughter has learning disabilities and because of these disabilities she so much dread attending school. She misses a lot of school days only because the face most of the days she attends school she is being teased, bullied, and harassed and even a few teacher’s of our granddaughter’s has called her names. So one day as I was waiting at her bus stop for her bus to arrive which usually around 3:15 Pm. “Oh finally bus 13 arrived which is the bus my granddaughter rides on. As she was getting off of the bus I happen to noticed she was crying and very upset. Now she has to wear uniforms to school and her parents don’t have the money to buy her the best uniforms but they are washed and clean and she would be well groomed.
I would ask, Mandy; how was your day in school?
“Oh grandma, “Why do I have to go to school where the kids are so hateful and mean?
Grandma: “What do you mean Mandy? How are they being mean to you? Why are they picking on you?
Mandy: Grandma, they call me names on the bus and in school.
Grandma: “Well do you tell your teacher?
Mandy: If I tell my teacher grandma, it only gets worse, for they than would call me a snitch. And besides grandma, I did tell my home-room teacher and she done nothing. Ms. Johnson says, that I should just ignore them and walk away. “Grandma, I have tried that and it don’t work. Do I really have to go back to school tomorrow?
Grandma: Mandy, I am sorry but yes sweetie, it is the law for you to be in school and it is important for you to have a good education.
Mandy: If it is the law for kids to go to school than Why does the government do cut backs in education?
Grandma: Mandy, I believe they do cut backs on all schools. It is called a budget. I wouldn’t know the correct answer to that. As for the kids who call you names and bully you. Sweetie, they are not bad kids, they just make bad choices and some of those kids may be vulnerable as you. Kids want to fit in the crowd, so some are followers and some are leaders but Mandy, you need to follow your heart and do what you think is best for you and the right choice. Two wrong don’t make a right. “Come and sit down here beside grandma, padded my hand on the sofa to motion Mandy to come and sit beside me to share a story similar what she is going through for her to see that her grandma experienced the same ordeal when I attended school. It is not just the public schools that kids get bullied but happens in private schools too.
When grandma attend school, I also dreaded to get up in the mornings to get prepared and dressed for school. I know Mandy, you may be thinking and want to say, “Oh grandma that was back in her times and even the thought that grandma also was once a little girl for grandma they were agent times. When I in the first grade, my classmates would tease me too, and call me all sorts of names anon the playground, my classmates, a few of them would bullied me too. Grandma would cry also. There is old saying, Sticks and stones hurt my bones but names never hurt me. Mandy, name calling would hurt more than the hitting. See Mandy, name calling belittles another human being and the confusion in another child’s mind makes them think they are the person that their classmates are calling them. The simple fact they think they think that way is because grandma would hear them every day to and from school. In some cases; sad it may sound, grandma would bottle up and become isolated, a loner and when the teacher dismissed us to go out to the playground or for lunch I would go to the very far end of the playground to sit by myself and at lunch time I look for a a empty table to sit at. I still would hear the other school kids little whispers and jokes and they either point at your grandma and yell towards my direction where I was sitting, screaming out, “retard, “Ob, and other hurtful names. I was a student who wanted to learn but couldn’t concentrate or focus on the subjects the teacher was teaching. I had trouble comprehending on the subjects. As grandma got into the higher grades it only got worse. The kids were older now so new name calling directly at me and I lived in fear walking to and from school. It got to the point in my life that your grandma could no longer take it no more. When I was in the seventh grade, I was done.
Mandy: “What do you mean grandma, you were done.
Grandma: I quit school. I am a drop out. It is not what I wanted to do or would it be my best choice but I felt like your feeling right now. School was hopeless and you start questioning yourself. “Is this all worth it? I know Mandy, I walked in your shoes and I walked down that road. I never shared this worth you but your old grandma has a learning disability too.
Mandy: “Oh grandma, that never crossed my mind because grandma, every time I would come to you, you know what to say and what to do. Your advise and choice of words are so comforting and understanding. “Grandma, would it be inaccurate to ask you this question, and would I be stepping out of line?
Grandma: Mandy, you know you come to me anytime and ask me any questions or just want to have a little chat or advise. Mandy, I must say though, grandma may not have all the answers you are searching for or not the right answers. I can assure you Mandy that grandma and pap will always love you no matter what. We love unconditionally. So fly away. “grandma, what kind of learning disabilities do you have?
Grandma: Well, your grandma lives with dyslexia. That would be a whole new story at another time.
Mandy, I don’t want to see you choose to quit school because of some few classmates bad choices. Pap and grandma wants what is best for you and we want to see you get a good education. It is your choice and we hope you make a right choice. Need to stand up to your classmates that makes your day miserable and unpleasant while in school but we hope you choose your words carefully and we know you will. You have a good head your shoulder’s and so determine to want to learn and you have a dream. Remember grandma shred with you earlier that two wrongs don’t make a right. If you’re having a problem with your teacher than you go above her head. Grandma is so proud of you Mandy that you came to grandma instead taking it upon yourself. So if you’re so uncomfortable and don’t feel safe anymore going to school, grandma can and will home-school you. You have to remember that being home school is not a way to lounge around or have you’re way. I hope you understand. You don’t have to give me your answer out right now for grandma wants you to take a few days to think about it.
It shouldn’t have to come to this point in no children’s life where they they are taken away from the surroundings of their friends or should they live with that fear hanging over their heads walking to and from school. With the decisions that our government and other’s in congress, teacher’s and even parents, the last thing should be on our children’s mind at this time their trying to get through their school year’s is what will their future become. Children today, are being corrupt by movies, Tv shows, peer pressure, politic’s and I can go on and on down the list. Our children needs to know they are gone to be protected and feel safe in their home, at school, wherever they are at. Feel secure that they have a future. All children should be treated equally as any human being. All be treated fair and treated with humanity. Did you hug your child today?
Get back into family get together. Plan a day out of a week and have game day, sit down together to have a meal together. Know what is going in your child’s life..what they are thinking. Try to take a hour out of your busy schedule and sit down together and have a family meeting. Be more involved in your children’s life: Who they hang out with, their interest, Listen. Our children are precious gifts that were blessed from God. Precious jewels that are very rare. They are part of our love between both parents. So in divorce cases: don’t ask your children to pick sides or be the messenger. Even though I am a grandma, I am still learning to educate myself to better understand and supporting the newer generation. I have trouble learning the younger generation slang words and their ways. It s not what a person says or do or wear or their disability, love comes in many shapes, colors, sizes and loves comes from the heart. I may add one more thing: My husband and I love being grandparents and proud of our children.
It shouldn't be on our children't minds so young, worrying what their future holds for them. I do realize that children these days grow and mature faster than I did in my younger year's. Husband and I had this little chat this morning, and we wonder too, and also concern of our own grandchildren's future. Government doing cut backs on education and how our school system had to run the schools on a budget and even how the all schools being run. It does concern me: What will my grandchildren future holds for them. In some cases children who left home to build their lives and future had to come home to live with parents again.
Will they even have a future?