Precisely Why Selflessness is Important in Relationships

A final truth of romantic relationship is genuine success and fulfillment require a few seemingly paradoxical capacities: the capability to act from one’s individual power and the ability to be selfless in one’s treatment of one’s partner. To paraphrase, we reach relationship nirvana when we carefully and evenly honor both our partner’s and our personal spirit.

The incredible nature of couple hood is that it performs well merely to the degree that we connect power and selflessness inside our own breast. When we absolutely step into our own strength, are true to ourselves, and reside in our own dignity can we selflessly respect our beloved. And only when we selflessly recognize our beloved can we have the full blessings of relationship. Only the twin vehicles of personal power joined with selflessness are equipped for carrying us to enduring, mutual satisfaction with a partner.

Essentially the most direct and inevitably least difficult route to extensive personal power and selflessness is a spiritual path. If we turn ourselves over to that which is noticeably bigger than ourselves and bigger than anything nameable, fearfulness begins to dissolve, letting our power to emerge, and personal need begins to dissolve, allowing us to look after our partner’s interests just as much as we look after our very own.

Place Yourself in the Arms of the Universe

Over and above being our own heart’s care provider, when we're lucky enough to have religious belief, then we can be dependent on and place ourselves in the arms of God, of the Universe. As carefully as possible, we can give ourselves to God’s care, to the good care of the Universe.

Within the entrance to relationship, throughout the marriage ceremony, most couples relationships include acknowledgement of the religious or spiritual aspect that marriage is in a way sacred. The idea here is to constantly remember that initial impulse.

Instead of looking to our companion, who is inherently as limited as we tend to be, to care for us, we can set ourselves in the hands of that which happens to be limitless, thoroughly bountiful - and comprehensively reliable.

Ramana Maharshi, one of the 20th Century’s wonderful spiritual masters, identified deep religious faith to be like a young cat that enables its mother hold it and even carry it around by its neck. The kitten puts itself fully in its mother’s care - and is fully well-tended.

Giving ourselves over to the care of the Absolute liberates us from looking to our partner, and in some cases to our limited self, to become our father or mother. We trust the Absolute to try and do whatever it needs to do with us. Anywhere our life goes we are tended to by the Ultimate, which really is an alternate way to say that we turn our minor self over to our Great Self.