~~~~Ignorant Things People Say:
1. It’ll get better.
I’ve heard this advice the most.
And quite sincerely, it’s offensive.
I mean, how can it possibly be better without my sister?
But Never Ever better without her beautiful presence on
2. Time will heal.
When one is grieving & lamenting & weeping, one does not want to hear
this simplistic, stupid, unremarkable statement.
Think about it.
What will time heal?
visualize she’s in China, and imagine how you’d fill that void.
The utmost voice of
ignorance & idiocy.
& just plain, unbelievably, incredibly, hideously sad.
4. What would
Kay want you to do?
I don’t care.
I’m mourning the loss of one of the greatest people
in my universe.
I don’t give a shit about that right now.
5. Don’t ask
yourself Why…Ask yourself Why Not?
No. No. No. Don’t say this.
Somebody recently stated this.
I wouldn’t lie.
I held my tongue, but desperately wanted to scream…
me to declare “Why Not…”
…. as my sister was pumped 3 times in the back of
the head with bullets?
Her boys have NO mother. I have NO sister. My parents have One less daughter.
you’re not feeling better in six months, you
may need medication.
I was told this the second week after Kay’s murder.
As I still walked in darkness & fog.
As I still could barely get out of bed.
been getting away with this all these years, Dr. Stinkin’ Thinkin’ ?
Shame on you.
He also looked me strait in the face and announced
in his Stinkin’ Thinkin’ know-it-all voice…
“She’s Not Coming Back.”
Thanks for that counsel, asshole.
Things People Say:
1. I’ve come to mourn with you.
long as it takes, I’ll be here waiting.
3. I love you.
4. I love you.
5. I love you.
—Dear, Reader, have you ever walked through the shadow of Death?
Kay, Polishing my Toenails. No Love was Greater. She was murdered by Mike Peterson on May 26, 2010. The Mourning Never Ends.
——For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.
Click here NOW. Do. Not. Wait. One. More. Minute. >>http://www.thehotline.org/get-help/help-in-your-area/
In Memory of Kay
My Website: http://myinnerchick.com