Statistics proven fact: 1.8 million woman are battered each year, making the battery single largest cause of injury to woman and death in the United States alone. Domestic Violence can be physical, emotional,verbal, financial, and even sexual abuse from partner's the person who may lived with. Well, this story I need to share as parents concerns. A few year's ago our middle daughter Jada met a man online. At this time our daughter and her daughter, (our granddaughter) resided with us, she separated from our granddaughter's father and going through a divorce. The divorce was finalized after a year. We told our daughter she can stay at our home as long as she need to be. We believe the divorce was hard on her for the marriage only lasted two year's and their was a child involved that the divorce really bothered her but she didn't want to talk about the topic so we didn't pressure her. We just left her know whenever she is ready to open up we be here. They both were young and I believe they rushed in the marriage to fast and married because daughter got pregnant. Which are not reasons to get married, we try to explain to our daughter. Jada's divorce was finalized on June of 1998. In the year of 1999 is when she decided to go back to school to follow her dreams so she is attending college now. She still attending college.
"I know dad and mom. I want my baby know their father. We understand Jada. Still it is not reasons to get married. Marriage is a big decision to make in your life. Jada was trying to cope with her divorce and raising her daughter as a single parent. She had her ups an downs and bad days and good days. A year after the divorce Jada decided to go back to school. She applied for a few colleges and finally got accepted into a college in West Virginia. We always encourage our children to follow their dreams and never give up. You may fall a hundred times but don't remain down, get right back up on the horse and keep trying. It has been over a year now since Jada and my granddaughter moved to West Virginia and she calls me about once a month. With school and working and being a single mother raising her child alone she is pretty busy. Every chance we get to talk I ask her how are they both adjusting and how is school doing? We always end our phone conversation, "I love you Jada, "I love you to Mom and love you pap and MeeMee, Tylen say.
January of 2000, she and my granddaughter came home to visit and brought a friend along with her. She introduce us to her friend. "Of course; we are going to ask questions. What parents wouldn't. "Dad and Mom, this is my male friend I met online. I bit my tongue. I turned my head to look at my husband and he looked back at me and we just shooked our heads. Jada asked us if he can stay over, we said yes, but with rules. Your male friend will sleep in the back bedroom and you and Tylen can sleep in the far front bedroom and not sneaking in each other's bedroom in the middle night. Jada had no problems with respecting our home and our rules because the fact it was our home and she knew our beliefs in our faith. They stayed with us for a week and in the that time, as funny as it may sound now as I say it, my husband gave Jada's male friend the "Father's third degree questions. Poor guy, but it only shows we cared and were concern for our granddaughter and daughter well being. Jada and I sit down and had a mother and daughter talked. I asked her a few questions. I know you have mentioned, Jada; that you met this young male friend online but mom has to asked, where online? "Mom, please don't tell dad, "Okay, Jada, this don't sound so good what you're going to tell me. So hit me with it.
"Mom, before you say anything, let me finish my answer. I met Carson on a dating service website called, "Plenty of Fish. I didn't know what to say. I took a deep breath and silent for a few minutes. "What! Plenty of fish, you know what that name sounds like. This site sounded like a place you meet a bunch of nuts on it. The way the name of the site sounds. It ended up a few months later he moved in with her and my granddaughter in daughter's apartment she was renting in West Virginia and when she called again, she hesitated to tells us but she finally broke down and told us. Now we don't get into our children's business for they are grown Adults and we trust we raised them well enough with morals and respect and taught them good judgment. We supported our children regardless what decision they made. We love them unconditionally and allow them to make their own mistakes for them to grow and learn from them for that is what makes them stronger.
Second part of this story tomorrow.