We were having a quite morning when all of a sudden Princess started Barking. Dennis went to the door and said someone was on the porch with papers, which means he wanted me to answer the door. I thought it was just a delivery or something but it ended up being my mother in law. She had come by to drop off cards for everyone's birthdays. We had a short visit with her as she was in a hurry to get to the store to pick up a few things.
When she left Dennis wouldn't even open his card from her. For one she addressed it to his name and not his Nickname from birth, two he was still miffed even after I reminded her the girls party was on Saturday, because she didn't even call to wish them a Happy Birthday but had time for other things that day. Dropping off the cards was nice but she could have done it while the girls were home, even if she had to wait till this weekend so she could visit with them for a while. Three Dennis expected her to stop by or call on his birthday not before, or at least not this far before his birthday, along with other things that are on his mind.
The longer things have gone on with his sister not allowing us in her life, and since she lives at home with mommy with her kids with his mother paying for everything, ok she might get some child support but only if one of her 3 kids 3 daddies are paying at any given time. If we call to say we want to visit or drop something off, his mother rushes right over here. For years when we didn't live close I would call weekly and try to set up a time to see them but they were always busy or someone was sick. I get sick all of the time but by what they said they even get sick more often then me, which is mighty hard to do. When we moved back into the area we were excited to be able to see them all more often, but instead my sister in law turned into the wicked witch.
To be honest I don't know how my mother in law puts up with what she does or doesnt' do. Believe me we have heard lots of things from my mother in law and when you are afraid to be away from your daughter too long as she might kill the kids, then there is something wrong. I guess she has really become the parent so to speak to all of her daughters kids, I have heard my neice say my parents many times and then change it to grandparents, as well as my mother in law say things before my nephew was born that she had to get things for her girls. The last time I checked she only had one daughter and one son. Oh well what can you do. As I have said I love my mother in law but I sure don't understand her.
I did however open my Birthday card and it was quite beautiful, which was really nice. Samantha opened her card and in it found 20.00 which she was happy about. My kids don't get money all that often so between the money she got from her boyfriend and that she has a bit of spending cash the next time she wants to get something. She doesn't ask for anything for herself too often. Mainly just things for Lilly like Diapers, wipes, that sort of thing. Prom was the first time she had asked about going shopping for something for herself in quite a while and you know from that post my husband was more then happy to take her to get a dress for her special night.
She had asked why Grandma didn't come over the weekend and I said I didn't know, but she had put in overtime on Friday, and on Monday. She said well there was Saturday, and Sunday, and we were home both days, she could have called. My daughter is 18 now and she is very smart, she can see the diffference in the way she is treated. Actually they all can except for Dorothy, even Deanna notices things and will never forget several years ago when she ran over to her Aunt to say Hello and she pushed her away. That was when things became personal. Somone can be mad at me or my husband for what ever they want to make up or make real in their minds because when asked they won't say what the problem is, but don't take it out on our kids. The person just makes themselves look worse than they already do.
She won't be happy till she had Mommy all to herself, and it might just be sooner then she would like to think. I know Dennis went and sat in the van for quite a while after she left. I think he was going to drive over there. I thought he had gone up to bed but realized he didn't say goodnight, or give me a kiss. I happened to look out the window and noticed him in the van. I checked on him once and then over an hour later again to make sure he was alright. I don't know how one person can cause so much wickedness in a family but she sure has found a way to put everyone through turmoil.
Sorry to make todays News into a rant but I know some of you have been through this sort of thing and you all keep me along with my faith in God from going off the deep end. Believe me I know lots of information that could do so much damage but do I air it? No I don't. I only air what has hurt our family personally nothing more, although I might have slipped up a few times I am sure. I do blog alot and over many many years so I am sure on a off day I might have said a bit much, but hey this is my life and my families life and I try to hold nothing back. You can tell from my posts about Siblings Seperated that I have been through a lot and believe me this thing with my sister in law is a small thing compared to that.
By the way I changed my post title from Wednesday News from Marksville to Ranting news from Marksville.