I had to take two days to convince him not to turn me off Gather, let me explain the situation.
Someone called me a horriable name after I made a comment on their post. Will not go into which one, yet I made a comment and this person turn that comment into totally the opposite of what it was to mean, then turn around and call me vaulger names and got away with it publicly.
This upset him, stating about how that is slanderizim and all. He could not understand how folks could be so ignorant or high on them self to be blinded by the truth. He thought Gather was a good place for one to express one opinion, not to take that opinion and make you look ugly.
I had to tell him, I ignore this bull and let it roll off my sleeve, because I am the better one who know what I said is just my opinion and not have the attitude of I am right and you are wrong. I am better then that, and said if folks want to read only want they want to read then so be it. As longs as I know I am in control of my opinion and no one can take that away from me.
I told him I didnt want to let the evil of Gather win, for I would lose and those important around me would lose. That is not right either.
I guess what I am saying if you want to print evil garbage about other, then go ahead and lower yourself to the devil level. I myself will still be here and comment on anything I want, and hopefully those important enough to take my opinion as just a opinion, no one is perfect, and that is ok.
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This is party why I spend minimal time here on Gather these days........I have read some of the very inconsiderate, nasty stuff that's posted on Gather (but won't waste my time or efforts on commenting on them)........I just figure I have much more important stuff to be concerned with than dealing with such "hateful" inconsiderate people who seem to think they are the ONLY important ones on Gather.
Anyhow, I am so very sorry you've had to deal with such lowdown crap and hope that it will end, or maybe the person will leave.
It certainly is practice in letting things roll off your shoulders. Part of it, I think is when people don't have an open mind and they they hold the monopoly on truth.
Sometimes I do say things that need correction because I didn't know the whole story... I can only comment on what I read... but seems to me a lot of people are not only rude... they are downright cruel.
I'm glad you didn't go. If these people are cruel and we go, they got what they wanted... to feel power inflicting pain... and why should we give them their way. I find a lot of them get tired of their game and disappear.. so sometimes it's a waiting game.
It often makes me think, how empty is your life that this is how you choose to spend your time, hurting others....
Fortunately, I have such a busy, fulfilling life that I'm not able to be on the computer, or Gather, much these days so I can avoid a lot of the "ugliness" that takes place.
However, the idea that any man would allow/not allow his wife/partner to participate on ANY website is foreign to me. I certainly wouldn't allow anyone to legislate for which sites I visited/participated in!
It seems clear there are issues that go beyond the verbal sketch. Having said that, I wish to leave that alone, and just address that basic situation as explained. So let me see if I got the story. He took your comment the wrong way, then you told him so--whether in a manner that was polite, respectful, nonplussed, perplexed, bewildered, angry, overtly or covertly hostile, snarky, sarcastic, or some combination of these and others.
Regardless of your tone, simply saying one way or another that he had misinterpreted your words, put the ball in his court. He could have accepted your statement essentially at face value (i.e. a statement of fact) and responded accordingly. Instead you had to talk him out of believing that he knows what you meant, and you don't?! Or that if you're not self-deluded, you're -- what, intentionally dissembling?
Very sweet of your hubby to want to protect you but you are doing just fine the way you are and you have the right attitude.
I like the term you used! "Devil Level", is most certainly the correct term for people who try to hurt your feelings. You're a very strong woman and I'm glad you aren't letting these types of people get to you.
Very nice and sweet of your husband to stand up for you, but, you're standing up for yourself quite well.
i am so sorry that this happens to you, and to other good people here.....
it is best to just ignore these ignorant, mean people.....the majority of people here are wonderful
blessings