Last night I wrote a post about a cab driver who projected a lot of attitude when I gave her good reasons why I NEEDED her to turn the pounding music in her cab OFF, and not just DOWN.
"But don't you want to feel the best?" she asked. If I wanted to feel the beat, I would not have asked her to turn it down.
My mother and a number of others have expressed opinions stating that I can be extremely intolerant of the imprefections of the public. Am I really, or am I simply intolerent of the behaviours my family would not tolerate in me? If I was raised to think it was wrong for me to behave in a certain way, and for very good reason, why would it be acceptable for others to behave that way, and why should I have to put up with it? Not just me, but anyone!
Why should I have to put up with foul-mouthed teens etc. in public? I can swear like the stereotypical sailor, and in about 15 different languages, but I think before using that ability.
Why should I have to put up with out-of-control screaming and running children? Is it impolite to ask themother of a particularly LOUD and quick-moving child to please keep the child closer to her and quiet, because I am unable to move safely with the child constantly running infront of me, and that her screaming hurts me? I'm NOT talking about the crying infant that the mother is doing her BEST to quell, I'm talking about the little girl in the mall last night who's mother was trying to get her sister ahead of her to slow down. The little girl that that screaming "SARAH!!!" at the top of her lungs, was going to help the situation. If that child were me, and my sister tried to "help" in such a way, Mom would tell her to mind her own business, and not to interfere.
What about the guy standing next to me talking to his friend in a tone that suggested he was yelling in my ear, even though he probably didn't intend to do that? People are so much LOUDER these days, and they don't even know it!!!
What about the car that stops at a red light half way through the crosswalk, blocking my path? I could just walk around him, but wouldn't that be J-walking? Isn't J-Walking illegal? Aren't I entitled to use the crosswalk? You can bet I asked him to back up a bit, and when he coudln't because there were cars behind him, I motioned for THEM to back up too, so I would not miss my light. When they saw where i was standing, they did. I THANKED THEM!!
I am not saying that we should stop raising polite children. What I'm actually saying is that we need to raise MORE polite children, and put an end to the ignorant society in which we arel iving. What I am also saying is that for as long as this ignorant society exists, well-raised children are going to have a very hard time. They are going to have challenges with fairness issues, and understanding their rights. They are definitely going to resent the people who raised them to be wonderful people, yet who blast them for intolerence, when tey refuse to let go of the principles their sainted parents taught them.