While I talk ABOUT adult situations, I don't go into graphic details. I am NOT going to flag this video, because I consider it a public service announcement for any parent who wants to protect the "innocence" of their children, both female, and male. I includ a link to a video that goes into graphic details, which I consider to be a part of this public service announcement, but the video is not embedded in this post. You are responsible for whether or not you choose to click and watch, or not to.
I'm watching a documentary on CBC TV now, called "DOC ZONE - Sext Up Kids" about the sexualization of children. Society is out of control. Lingerie for children? Bratz dolls? I was shocked by the $h!t that was talked about when I was on the playground (I found the word "puberty" shocking until I went home, asked my MOTHER about it, and she told me the facts), but it's pretty damn tame, compared to what they're talking about on this documentary. OMG!!!!
Watch the episode here.CBC - Doc Zone - Episode - Sex't Up Kids
I posted the following message on Facebook, just now.
I am four years younger than she is, and by the time I got to upper-elementary, then middle school, and highschool, I wanted to stay as FAR AWAY from my peer group as possible. I knew I would never be interested in peer pressure, but I wanted to avoid the annoyance of having to put up with it.
At 15, I met my BEST platonic friend in the whole world, a 65 year old German man, who was like a much louder version of my Morfar (Maternam Grandfather). This worried my mother to no end, because her 15 year old daughter was spending so much time with a 65 year old man, and why was this 65 year old man so friggen "interested" in her 15 year old daughter? What did that "inteest" mean? She may have been over-protective, but he, being a father of two, and a grandfather of three, totally got that. We're still best friends, and he was my "best friend of honour" at Walker's and my wedding.
Why were we so close? Because I was thoroughly pissed off with my generation, and felt I'd run ahead of them. Sexualization of childhood had not hit as hard as it has now, but I saw it coming. I got out. I got away from my peers, and stayed away.
And then I met Walker!! I kept him secret from my family for a while, and didn't tell them about him until we were already in an extremely successful relationship.
It's still hard to believe my parents, and teachers wanted me to associate with my peers more. They also got on my case for being such a feminist. They thought I hated men. Excuse me? You see the way our sex culture is objectifying women, telling them that it's all about pleasing the guys? That it's all about what the GUY wants? A teenaged feminist daughter who has a number of older platonic friends, who gets along with men, allbeit older men, and who seems to have a knack for figuring out someone's character? Parents out there. If you have a daughter like me, go down on your knees, thank God, and kiss the ground on which they walk. You are truly BLESSED!!! Fortunately my parents came to realize this in time, and I'm glad I stuck to my guns, and as the old song goes "I did it MY WAY."
As a child being "adult" meant not being childish. While kids were wearing clothes with cartoon characters on them. I was dressing rather plainly (nice pair of black pants, and a red sweater, for example). While they were reading teen books, I read the newspaper. While they were listening to the newest hits, I prefered cultural festivals, and classical music. They went to night clubs, I went to the coffee shop. For me THAT was being an adult, not discovering sex in all the wrong ways, and all the wrong places.
On November 5th I wrote a post called Text Messages Are 99% Useless!!!!. That's not to say that texting is a dumb idea, that is to say that the majority of texting is done by teens and tweens, completely out of touch with reality, and on a slippery slope towards trouble. One girl on tonight's documentary mentioned sending and receiving a total of 70,000 texts in ONE MONTH!!!!!!!! 99% of the time I will not text. I have my phone with me, and can check e-mail from ANYWHERE. For a couple of 2-6 month periods I did not have a computer, so my phone was my sole method of staying on line. Needless to say, I became very proficient with my iPhone. I texted Walker downtown once, when we were to meet at a certain place, but couldn't because of construction unknown to us when we made the arrangements. It was too noisy to make a call. I texted him another time when I was getting in a taxi, coming home to pick him up to go somewhere, and I wanted him to be at the door when I got there. When we had neighbour problems, I'd text him warnings, if the guy was on the porch when I went out. A phone call would have been overheard. For me texting is not a back-and-forth means of communication, but a way to get a quick message out instantly. Seventy thousand texts a month? Can you imagine?
A pre-teen relative of mine is on FB, but I happen to know that her account is highly private, she only connects with RELATIVES, she's friends with both her parents, and everyone in the family monitors what goes on on her account. I would love to friend her myself, so we can stay in touch, but those on here who are also connected to me on FB, know that I use it as an outlet for a lot of my political rants, and other things that I would feel uncomfortable posting around her; not because of what I think of tween's in general, but because I know my family.
Anyway, that's my rambling rant for the day. I urge all parents of young children, teens, tweens, and even grown children to watch the CBC video. Pass it on to EVERYONE YOU KNOW!!!