This is an ongoing story about a custody battle involving a friend of mine's daughter and her children. I knew her great grandparents and grandparents on her mother and her father's side. Lacie asked me to pass this on and so I am going to. This is her story. What would you do and do you have any suggestions. Thank you. Salud
My name is Lacie. I am the mother of two, beautiful babies. I was a stay at home mama, that was with my babies everyday of their lives. And for over a year, they have been the victims of a horribly unjust custody battle. My ex-husband has a history of drug and alcohol abuse, domestic abuse, and was diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder. He spent time in rehab and he was on house arrest for eighteen months as a result of receiving three DWI's.
In April 2009, I hired a private investigator who recorded him drinking and driving with his girlfriends minor child in his truck. His current wife, who was the bartender serving him drinks on this night, has a history of her own involving drugs (methamphetamine) and weapons. My ex-husband's alcoholic father, molested his daughter throughout her childhood and my children have been left alone with this man. During the court proceedings over the past year, I begged and pleaded with the judge to give him supervised visitation. Motions were filed to have psychological and home evaluations, as well as mediators requested, and all were denied by the judge with no explanation. We had a forensic psychologist provide her recommendations. After the judge would not even consider her recommendations, I was told these evaluations were not necessary and in turn I would give their father unsupervised visitation or risk lost of custody of my children.
I made the decision to stop visitation in May of 2010, following being assaulted by the, then girlfriend in front of my children while dropping them off for their court ordered visitation. I had to leave my children there through the weekend. On the Sunday when i picked up my children with a police escort, my three year old's bottom was raw and bleeding. I took him to the emergency room, had it documented, and filed a report with CPS. I stopped the visitation then and filed for an emergency hearing to assess this situation. This request was denied and in turn a court date was set for July. When we went to court in July, the judge would not look at any of my evidence and instead I was held in contempt for stopping visitation and as a result, given twenty four hours in jail. Tragically at the July of 2010 court date, he awarded custody of these precious babies to my ex-husband following an exhausting fight for my children's safety. The only visitation I was given was supervised visitation, every other weekend for 2 hours at a court ordered safe house. The judge told me I was losing custody of my children because I was too "overprotective". How can a mother be accused of being too overprotective when it comes to her children especially when dealing with an abusive, manipulative Alcoholic, a violent, drug Addict, or an alcoholic Pedophile? On that day, I made the decision to set aside my own well being and protect my children by leaving with them and going into hiding.
On Oct. 23,2010 we were found and CPS came and took my children to him. I would try to call my children everyday and was very rarely allowed to talk to them. My calls would usually go unanswered or my ex-husband would get on the phone and bully and threaten me. I have recordings of every conversation.
On Nov. 13,2010, I had my first visitation with my kids. Unknowingly, earlier in the week he filed phone harassment charges against me. He had the warrant served while at the visitation with my children. After he had me arrested, he gave me two days a week to talk to them. He told me that if I called anymore than that, "he would have me arrested again".
During one of the phone conversations, I have a recording of my children saying they were left at the grandparents home, where the pedophile resides, overnight . I have pictures of my ex-husband drinking while he's had the kids, which were against the judge's orders. I called the judges office to let him know what he's doing, and was told that he would not speak to me until I had papers filed and all parties were present.
In Lafayette, the District Attorney's office also picked up criminal neglect charges on my ex-husband as a result of him not paying his child support . They served him with his warrant on Monday Feb. 14, 2011. On Tuesday the 15th, the wife told me I would not be able to see or talk to my children until I took them back to court. They cut off my court ordered supervised visitation and phone time with my children. On Feb. 9, 2011, I filed motions on behalf of the kids safety and well being. When my papers came back to the clerk of courts office. The judge had not signed my motions, but instead had a change of venue attached on the court's behalf. The judge gave a court date of March 21, 2011, to hear why the change of venue should not happen. Less than a week before the court date, my ex-husband's attorney called to inform me that because she has court in another parish, they would be requesting a continuance. I told her then, I would not be ok with delaying our court date. I also, faxed the judges office to let him know that i objected to the continuance. And that i had a civil right to have my motions heard on behalf of the safety and well being of my children. I also put in the letter that it had been forty one days since my ex-husband has let me see our children and thirty five days since he has let me talk to them. I told him in the letter that i was aware of the supervised visitation center sending the judges office a report saying that he stopped my court ordered visitation. That same night, he let me speak to the kids for the first time in over a month. But not before bullying and threatening me again in front of them.
On Monday, March 21, 2011 I went to court to let the judge know I was objecting to the continuance and I wanted my motions heard. He would not hear anything I said, but wanted to know if I had served my twenty four hours in jail for contempt of not sending the kids in May. I told him no, and he had the bailiff take me to jail. I have contacted the Governor's office and CPS once again. What is being done to these babies is MATERNAL ALIENATION. This judge is aware of what my ex-husband has been doing, and has done absolutely nothing to protect these babies. These babies have rights!
I am writing our story in hopes that what has been done to my precious babies, opens peoples eyes to what happens to women and children all the time. Our fight is not over and will not be until these babies are safe and back home. I am asking from the bottom of my heart, that you pass our story along.
My family and I are creating pictures, and jewelry to sell to help with upcoming attorney fees. We are also planning on having plate lunch fundraisers. If anyone has any ideas or would like to help out with the fundraisers or in any other way please feel free to contact me anytime.
All proceeds made from our efforts will be used to help bring these babies home.