Chris was suspended today for fighting. He was suspended just before Spring Break, as well, turning his Spring break into 14 days as opposed to 10. Yesterday was the first day back.
Both fights were with the same kid. Both times, the other kid purposely antagonized Chris (according to the school, NOT Chris- I take the school at their word when it comes to things like this, because Chris has perception issues, and perceives things to be worse than they are quite often).
In the first fight, Chris and the other boy were horsing around before class, when the other kid took a notebook of Chris's, and refused to give it back. He was taunting Chris, and when Chris finally grabbed it back, the other kid knocked Chris down- that part could have been an accident, we never heard for sure.
When Chris got back up, he was angry. That's another problem Chris has, and it goes hand and hand with perception. If he thinks the push was on purpose, he's going to be mad, and he'll retaliate. He threw a punch at the kid, the kid threw one back. They were broken up at that point, and both suspended for 3 days.
Today's fight sounds more one sided.
Chris and another kid were hanging out on the playground when this other kid (the same as before) came up, and stood in front of Chris, blocking him from getting to the kid he was playing with. The kid kept getting in Chris's face. At some point, Chris accidently hit the kid- that's according to all the kids who were watching, not Chris. The other kid started to chase Chris, then tackled him and punched him. Chris tried to run away, but once he started getting punched, he fought back.
Both kids are suspended for 5 days this time. From what I gather of the event, though, it seems to me that no adults were near by to stop it this time, and more than just 1 punch was tossed by both boys.
From where I stand, had Chris just laid on the ground and taken a beating, he would be in school still. That frustrates me. I don't teach my kids to fight, but I am also not going to let them just sit around getting antagonized and beaten on without sticking up for themselves.
I don't condone fighting. But, in this instance, I'm rather glad Chris didn't just lay there getting whaled on by the other kid, too.
He is getting homework sent home on Thursday, so that he won't fall further behind in school, which is nice, since the last suspension caused him to fall behind already, and he hasn't been able to make up from that yet.
When Chris got home, I asked if the other kid has been bothering him at other times, and he said no. He said they were never friends, but they just always left each other alone before the first fight.
So frustrating. I do feel Chris should be punished for his part in both fights. However, I feel like the other kid is kind of antagonizing him, and now he knows it works, what's to stop him from continuing to antagonize him? Next time it happens, it's a 10 day suspension, and Chris can NOT afford that.