by ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ

Member since:
April 26, 2007

Happy 25th Birthday Dustin

March 01, 2011 02:05 PM UTC (Updated: March 04, 2011 09:19 AM UTC)

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Dustin should have turned 25 today. But he remains 16 forever in my heart.

I choose to hold tight to the good memories.

And I will smile each time I see a butterfly, a bluebird, or feel a breeze on my face.

I know he is close.

Hold your loved ones tight and tell them you love them every chance you get.

You never know when it may be the last time.

Happy Birthday Dustin.

I Love You,

Mom

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Melanie B. Mar 1, 2011, 2:09pm UTC

So very sorry for your loss.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 2:16pm UTC

Thank you very much Melanie.

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Kim B. Mar 1, 2011, 2:10pm UTC

Birthdays are so hard to get through. He was a very cute boy. *Hugs*

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 2:17pm UTC

Yes they are Kim, all of the what if's and who would you be today. I was so proud of him.

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Chris E. Mar 1, 2011, 2:14pm UTC

Carol I can't even imagine how hard this day must be for you. One day you will be with your son again.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 2:18pm UTC

Chris, It is tough, you always wonder what they would be like today but I have to hold tight to the 16 years of memories and know that one day we will be together.

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DarkBeauty 73 (Melanie) Mar 1, 2011, 2:16pm UTC

Sorry for your loss, hugs.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 2:18pm UTC

Thank you very much.

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Denise L. Mar 1, 2011, 2:37pm UTC

I hope my Ryan is there helping Dustin celebrate his birthday. (((hugs)))

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 2:39pm UTC

I believe Denise... he is there.
Good to see you.

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Nana to Seven Cutiepies Mar 1, 2011, 2:48pm UTC

Hugs to you on this difficult day Carol. I know you are feeling pain along with the happy memories today. You are a tower of strength and bring a smile to my face each time I come across one of your wonderful posts sharing the blessings of nature.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 3:23pm UTC

Thank you so much Nana, your words and support means more than you know. I am glad I can bring a smile. :)

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Priya P. Mar 1, 2011, 3:06pm UTC

I knew you would right to him today. I thought about you all day yesterday. Big hug to you. Happy birthday Dustin!

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 3:24pm UTC

I always write to Dustin, not just on his birthday.
I kept the post kind of short this year.
Thanks very much for visiting!

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Pam S. Mar 1, 2011, 3:26pm UTC

So sorry for your loss.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 3:50pm UTC

Thank you Pam.

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lynn a. Mar 1, 2011, 3:42pm UTC

Happy Birthday, Dustin. Carol, I'll be sure to burn the candle for him. No doubt he is in Heaven and your beloved Dustin is happy.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 3:50pm UTC

I believe he is Lynn. Thank you.

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Bernard C. Mar 1, 2011, 4:47pm UTC

Happy Birthday to Dustin Carol - sorry to hear of your loss :(

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 5:33pm UTC

Thanks Bernard.

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Ruthi C. Mar 1, 2011, 5:29pm UTC

Happy 25th to Dustin and blessings & a bit o' sunshine to you, Carol.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 1, 2011, 5:33pm UTC

Good to see you, I could use a little sunshine.

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Dotti P. Mar 1, 2011, 6:04pm UTC

Happy 25th birthday Dustin...so sorry for your loss.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 2, 2011, 8:52am UTC

Appreciate the comments Liz.

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Renee (Pres of Baby James Foundation) ~. Mar 1, 2011, 6:16pm UTC

Sorry for your loss, Happy Birthday Dustin

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 2, 2011, 8:52am UTC

Thank you Renee.

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Janet "Jax" B. Mar 1, 2011, 8:13pm UTC

I agree that Dustin must be happy now....and I hope you have the best day possible.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 2, 2011, 8:53am UTC

Your comments mean more than you know Janet.
The best I can do is hold on to the memories.

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Diane Huizenga Mar 1, 2011, 8:55pm UTC

I am forever sorry for your loss, Happy Birthday Dustin.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 2, 2011, 8:53am UTC

Thank you for being a friend Diane.

Diane Huizenga Mar 2, 2011, 10:39am UTC

And I thank you as well, more than you know.

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Linda T. Mar 2, 2011, 1:25am UTC

I know his birthday must be a tough day to get through. I believe he would be very proud of the strong and courageous woman you have become.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 2, 2011, 8:55am UTC

Yes it will always be tough Linda. I must believe that he knows, that is what keeps me going.

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elizabeth evans Mar 2, 2011, 8:41am UTC

I love that you still celebrate his birthday and not his death date. I do the same with my son on April 26th. He will be forever 22.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 2, 2011, 8:58am UTC

Elizabeth, We share a bond that no parent should experience. His death date is not a celebration, however nine years later feels like it was yesterday.
Life throws us curve balls doesn't it? So unfair to refer to our children with a forever age, almost like they are stuck in time. But, it is what it is and we must continue putting one foot in front of the other.

elizabeth evans Mar 2, 2011, 9:06am UTC

That's what we do...put one foot in front of the other...till we meet again.

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Heidi S. Mar 2, 2011, 10:40am UTC

Happy Birthday, Dustin! Blessings to you, Carol, you are so strong you inspire me.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 2, 2011, 6:11pm UTC

Thank you so much Heidi!

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Rose T. Mar 2, 2011, 6:08pm UTC

I am sorry for your loss; yet, seeing the etchings on your heart living on and going forward graces all you touch. Thank you for allowing us to be a part of your sorrow. Blessings my friend!

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 2, 2011, 6:12pm UTC

I appreciate your kind words more than you know.

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Ellen T P. Mar 2, 2011, 7:13pm UTC

My dearest Carol, I am not sure what to say, because, I don't know what it is to loose a child, my heart is with you, my mind was thinking about you today while I was at work, I read this before I went, and it stuck like glue in my head, Happy Birthday Dustin, and you are a strong very strong women for putting yourself out there to help others. Death isn't easy for any of us, but we are supposed to die before our children, so holding you close to my heart tonight...and forever in my thoughts friend...

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 3, 2011, 9:19am UTC

You are kind Ellen. You are right, we should not outlive our children. After you lose your child, especially your only child, your world is shattered. I will continue picking up the pieces and moving forward. What else am I to do? I know Dustin would want me to be happy and help others. Thank you again for your support.

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Connie C. Mar 2, 2011, 8:26pm UTC

I am so sorry for your loss.

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ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 3, 2011, 9:17am UTC

Thank you Connie.

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DiAnA D. Mar 3, 2011, 7:54am UTC

God Bless..

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 4, 2011, 9:14am UTC

Your comments are appreciated.

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☃ Shannon K. Wendt Mar 3, 2011, 10:41am UTC

So, so sorry for your loss.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 4, 2011, 9:14am UTC

Much appreciated.

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elizabeth evans Mar 4, 2011, 7:29am UTC

Featured in Angels on Pillows.  

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 4, 2011, 9:14am UTC

I am honored Elizabeth, thank you.

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Donald M. Mar 4, 2011, 2:14pm UTC

I am sorry for your loss. We never think we will lose our children, not this way.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 4, 2011, 2:18pm UTC

No, you are never prepared to outlive your child.
The worst nightmare ever..... forever.
Thank you for your comments.

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Marilyn (PaintsOnSlate) S. Mar 6, 2011, 6:13am UTC

I am thinking of you at this special time of year and am so sorry for your loss. Your happy memories of him must help you move forward. He will forever be in your heart.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 6, 2011, 10:11am UTC

Your support means more than you know Marilyn.

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ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 7, 2011, 8:54am UTC

Thank you for visiting Don.

Amber C. Mar 7, 2011, 6:52pm UTC

Thanks for the reminder to hold on to our loved ones, Carol.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 8, 2011, 10:11am UTC

You are so welcome Amber.

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Alison H. Mar 8, 2011, 5:37pm UTC

Sorry for your loss. Yes, I believe he is with you. I sometimes feel my mom or my dad are around and helping me.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 8, 2011, 5:42pm UTC

Thank you Alison. Sorry for your loss as well.

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Debbie W. Mar 10, 2011, 9:20pm UTC

((Hugs)) to you. So sorry.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 11, 2011, 9:09am UTC

Thank you Debbie.

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Pamela Marks Mar 11, 2011, 1:18pm UTC

this was very beautiful Carol. Hugs to you.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 11, 2011, 2:51pm UTC

Thank you very much Pamela.

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Tina Coruth Mar 14, 2011, 11:35am UTC

I'm so sorry, Carol. I can't imagine this pain. Dustin is safe and secure in your love as you hold those happy memories in your heart. You are such a source of comfort and strength to more people than you know. Hugs to you, my friend.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 14, 2011, 1:57pm UTC

Thank you Tina for your continued support.

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Teresa T. Mar 15, 2011, 7:19pm UTC

It has to remain rough for you. Just remember the good times.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Mar 16, 2011, 11:35am UTC

Yes it is Teresa. If it were not for the memories I could not go on. Thank you.

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Winona (the crazy rat lady) Apr 7, 2011, 12:47pm UTC

Happy birthday to him, and touching that you know he is still so near.

(leaving my comments for A Ten We Send)

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Apr 7, 2011, 12:48pm UTC

Thank you Winona. It is difficult on most days but I have to keep reminding myself that he wants me to be happy. And so another day comes.

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Elizabeth S. Apr 15, 2011, 4:01am UTC

May you find comfort in your memories.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Oct 22, 2011, 11:24am UTC

Thank you.

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Jeanette Cheezum Oct 21, 2011, 7:35pm UTC

What a tragedy. So sorry for your loss.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Oct 22, 2011, 11:25am UTC

Yes it was, thank you Jeanette. This is why you are so blessed.
I have 16 years of memories nobody can take away.

Jeanette Cheezum Oct 23, 2011, 5:09pm UTC

Hold on tight, Honey.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Oct 24, 2011, 11:49am UTC

I'm holding Jeanette, thanks.

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Michelle Ayers Nov 10, 2011, 10:42am UTC

hugs to you!

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Nov 10, 2011, 10:46am UTC

You are so kind, thank you!

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Kathryn Flynn Nov 23, 2011, 3:38am UTC

What a terrible loss for you. He was so young. My son is 23, just two years younger than your Dustin would have been. Yes, one foot in front of the other. That is all anybody can do. You are very brave, my dear Carol. Hugs for your loss and your continued journey.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Nov 25, 2011, 11:52am UTC

Yes Kathryn, each day is putting one foot in front of the other. Holidays are the worst times of all. Thank you for your support. You are blessed to have your son.

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Stacey (Jesus is coming soon-are you ready? ) U. Feb 15, 2012, 2:36pm UTC

It gives me comfort to know that if my loved one knew Jesus as their Saviour I will see them again in Heaven.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Feb 15, 2012, 3:53pm UTC

I get some comfort but since he was my only child, it is very tough.

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Ann Marcaida Feb 15, 2012, 4:05pm UTC

Oh the autumn time is coming
And the trees are surely turning
And the light in my heart
Where you live is brightly burning

Will you go lassie, go
And we'll all go together
Where the boundaries of time
Shall be broken down forever
Will you go lassies, go

You drew lately to this world
And you danced across so lightly
In this life you were a jewel
And you shone you light so brightly

Now it's time for us to part
Yet I can see your face so clearly
And your spirit in my heart
Has planted there so dearly

You passed quickly through this world
And you danced across so lightly
Now your life shines like a star
And you shine you light so brightly

This song was written by Jed Marum for a young friend's funeral using the old Wild Mountain Thyme melody and imagery. (From the CD "Soul of a Wanderer).

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Feb 15, 2012, 4:10pm UTC

Ann, This is beautiful.. I am headed now to listen to these lyrics. I am so into music, it is very therapeutic. I love the last stanza. Perfect, thank you so much!

Ann Marcaida Feb 15, 2012, 4:16pm UTC

If you want a copy of the song, let me know, and I'll send you one.

ʚϊɞ Carol ʚϊɞ Feb 15, 2012, 4:22pm UTC

Oh my goodness Ann. I just listened to the entire version of this song, called "Sarah's Mountain Time". Funny, this was released in 2002, the year I lost Dustin. Nope, I do not believe in coincidences. All I can say is Wow!