I have noticed more and more adults are acting like kids. Not in a fun playfull way but in a mean way. I act like a child when playing with my girls, its fun we all enjoy it and I feel getting involved like that is a good way to connect. I will also act like a child when a child is acting up. Lets say a child is having a fit and acting like a fool I have no problem saying oh well let me help you and doing it back. It lets them see how they are acting and makes them stop. But this is not the same, this is just plain mean.
Example- I had a chocolate party and we had parents bring kids to it. I mean what child does not like chocolate and what mom does not like chocolate. It was a lot of fun at first but then the it seemed some of the kids were more adult then the parents. As we were passing around some samples my daughter and one of her friends liked one a lot and asked if they could have another, before I could speek up a good friend of mine said when everyone gets one if we have left overs you guys have have another. I have no problem with her saying this shes a close friend and the girls think of her as an aunt. The chocolate goes around to everyone and the last 2 people were one lady and her daughter. They finished off the last of the chocolate. My daughter and her friend made that teen girl AHH sound and I told them to knock it off they didnt have enough for them to have more and they would be passing around more kinds anyway.
For the rest of the party the girls were good and sat next to me. I was very pleased with the way they acted and planed on ordering smoothie mixes for us to have a smoothie party or pool day or something fun later. Then came the chocolate bar. Everyone got up to dip things in, this didnt bother me I had told all kids no doubble dipping ahead of time and they were good. My friend was changing her baby so i told the kids to wait untill she got some to make sure everyone had some. They did but the chocolate was almost gone. I was in shock and asked the girls about it. I had seen them up at the table longer then anyone but didnt see them eat that much chocolate it had looked like they had been munching on the pretizles waiting. The girls said they didnt think they had eaten that much but may have and said sorry so i asked them to watch and ask everyone to hold off untill my friend got a turn. They did and i went about other things.
My friend had gotten her turn and had told me there was not much left when she got up there. She was not complaining just kind of shocked like I had been. I told her I didnt think the girls had eaten that much but i may not had been watching close enough and asked if she got some of everything. She did so all was well.
As the party was comming to an end they had a little of this and that left over so my oldest and her friend asked if they could have some. I said yes, sure they had eaten a retarded amount of chocolate and made that AHH sound but over all they were the best behaved kids at the party, Of corse my youngest was well behaved but she was tired and I didnt think she needed another chocolate smoothie, covered berry, covered coffee bean, or any of the other treats and she didnt ask so i just went on with life.
The next day my good friend called and we were talking about the party. This was a first for us and we both had a lot of fun and loved the lady who did it for us. We had planed on doing another. We got to talking about the kids at the party because some of them had annoyed her. I told her sorry I didnt know that many kids would show and told her how every time I turned around I had to kick a kid out. Parents herd about the party and I guess told kids they could come, I didnt know the kids, I was not going to watch them. She laughed and said she had seen kids and was glad I kicked them out. Usualy im a push over when it comes to kids but latley I had been able to put my foot down.
Then she said something that totaly shocked me. She made a comment about of the adults and her kid saying she found it more then rude that they had eaten all the chocolate when it got to them. I said oh wait what are you talking about. She told me that when my kid and her friend asked for another piece of a certan one and she had told them to wait the lady herd her and agreed but she was at the end of the line and when she had gotten it she shoved it all in her mouth and her kids mouth. She then said that there was more then enough for everyone to have more of it and she found it rude. I got a bit upset because it was the lady who laughed when the girls made the teen AHH sound. After talking for a while I just couldnt let it go, it seemed to childish to think of but I had to ask, Do you think she noticed them ask for more i mean she laughed strangly when the girls went AHH. She said she knows for a fact she herd the girls ask for more and was almost postive she had eaten it just because she could.
Come on now how rude is that? I know both ladys very well and I trust my friend totaly and dont dought for a second, I also know the other is a bit shelfish and has done things like that to adults and also gets jelous over some strange things.
This is not the first adult i have seen act in this way with children, but im totaly shocked when it happens (even when Id expect it from someone). What is wrong with adults? I never thought Id see someone steal candy from a baby but I got to see it (well pre teen anyway) and it bothered me a lot.
When you have kids you are no longer a child, you dont pick on kids, you dont take from kids. I cant tell you how many times I had boughten candy, cupcakes, pie, or other treats only to have a kid come over to play, I dont eat it with them right there I give them mine (i can go with out a cupcake even though they are the best cupcakes in the world LOL). Sure adults shouldnt give in to kids always, and we need treats too but you should have a limit.
You all think my generation is bad just wait to see what happens to the next generation. If the parents are that shelfish just think about what the kids are going to be like.
Oh and as for the missing chocolate from the bar, that was her daughter, A bunch of people herd me talking to the girls about them eating it all and had called me the next day to tell me it was not them but another little girl. She had filled a plate up with chocolate and when the berrys ran out she just started to eat the chocolate. I guess they didnt want to say anything with the mom right there and knew I was not all that mad but still didnt want the girls to get blamed.
I guess its true the apple dont fall far from the tree, but at least she didnt laugh when she found out my friend didnt get all that much chocolate.
I am still bothered by this, it has been like 4 days, not only am i bothered but im mad. I cant change the way others act but I can stop them from coming to any of my food partys again. If you cant share at a food party then dont expect to be invited.