This article is more for my Christian and Jewish friends and any others of us who see ourselves with moral character who also believe that marriage is a traditional institution meant for a union between a man and a woman. There is no doubt that the institution of marriage is meant for the procreation of children according to Christian belief. Certainly, there are many marriages that take place where there is no possibility of procreation. A couple can be past the age when it’s practical or possible, and there are some women who cannot bear children. In some cases, those people adopt. Nonetheless, the institution of marriage is not meant to be a club or some kind of status symbol, but the joining of a man and woman in matrimony with vows of faithfulness and loyalty. In the Christian tradition, the only reason for divorce is the infidelity of a spouse.
What is the divorce rate in this country alone? The United States has the highest divorce rate in the world. Not all divorces are due to infidelity and even if they were, the prevailing attitude of people who marry has become an attitude where the decision to marry is based on the very lowest chances of success. There’s some kind of sexual attraction, some kind of balancing of the finances that looks good, or any other number of relatively nebulous things that might make for its success, but if it doesn’t work out, divorce is always an option and a very easily obtained option. That doesn’t sound like marriage is the sacred institution it was supposed to have been.
We now have others who want to marry, gays, for instance. We hear all the people who are against this say that marriage is meant for a man and a woman because it’s a sacred institution not meant for anyone but a male and female couple but we haven’t done anything to make divorce a difficult option. Perhaps, if we were so concerned about the sanctity of marriage, we would have been as outspoken about divorce laws pertaining to its ease of access as we now are about gays wanting to marry. Perhaps, if we had, marriage wouldn’t be looking so good to anyone at all unless there were the kind of commitment necessary to maintain the sanctity of that institution. It might not be looking like such a right to some. Sure, there are joint tax returns and the ability to visit someone in a hospital situation restricted only to spouses, but those are rules and laws that can be changed and probably should be changed anyway.
Some argue that allowing gays to marry will make heterosexuals less likely to want to marry and maybe that is a good thing. Maybe this is God’s way of showing us that we have disrespected the sanctity of marriage, and maybe it will be our wake-up call to do something about it. Our actions always have consequences and the consequences are sometimes very difficult to handle, but our own fate is often sealed by those actions or inactions, as the case may be. If we had honored the sanctity of marriage, its sanctity would have prevailed. We always wait until the boom is lowered before we notice the impact of our actions. Perhaps we should be more vigilant.