Did you watch the Oprah show the other day about the man whose Mother sexually abused him? The show was pretty intense. I had never heard too much about male children being abused in this manner and from my understanding it is pretty prevalent but not talked about too much by the abused.
A few years ago we knew about a man who married a woman who had two little girls. From early on this man would bathe the girls and they were already too old to be bathed but this continued on for a few years. As the girls grew into adolescence this man would go with his step daughters to shop for bathing suits and would sit there as they tried on bathing suit after bathing suit.
Soon thereafter if the older of the stepdaughters had a blemish on her back she would call her step father into the bathroom to remove it while still in just a towel after her bath or shower with the door closed I might add. The mother of the young women never intervened or said a thing about this inappropriate behaviour.
All along this was done in the presence of visitors or relatives alike. When the young woman started dating, the real problems began. The stepfather wouldn't let the older of the two young women date. It was almost as if he were saving her for himself...
Little did we know that our suspicions would be true. Once the young woman graduated from high school she opted to report her step father to the police for incest. She had indeed been sexually molested and abused from the very young age of ten years old!!
Because the man was well known in their city and in the media, everything was kept on the down low. Nothing much was ever made of the issue and all charges were dropped against this man because of his relationship with people in government in their city.
Today this woman has NO relationship with her mother. Her mother chose it this way. She has grandchildren from this her oldest daughter but couldn't care less. She cares and loves her man more than her own child. She once told us that she knew that when she met this man that she would get pregnant so that she could keep him and so she did and they had their one and only child together.
I can't understand this as I don't understand so many other things about people and the way that they act and the choices that they make.
What do you think of this? Do you know anyone who has been a victim of incest?