Gays and lesbians have been allowed to serve in the U.S. military since the early ‘90’s, under the Don’t Ask - Don’t Tell policy enacted by President Clinton. And the policy has worked. Allowing gays and lesbians to openly serve in the military is going to create a myriad of problems.
Its well-documented that there are a significant number of heterosexual men who are going to commit sexual harassment. Well, the same is true with gays and lesbians.
In college, my sister was a victim of same-sex harassment. It was almost as traumatic for me as it was for her. Her roommate would have partners in the room and engage in sex acts, despite there being a rule that males could not be in female dorm rooms and vise-versa. But there were no rules against gays and lesbians having a partner in the room. And when she didn’t have a partner, she would often masturbate while my sister was in the room alone with her. Her roommate worked hard to perpetuate every negative stereotype of the “butch” lesbian. She acted more like a caveman than a female college freshman. My sister was traumatized by the experience.
My sister was afraid to report the abuse, because it was embarrassing and she was worried about being labeled as a lesbian - if she reported same-sex harassment.
Her roommate's behavior was inappropriate for a college dorm, and it would certainly be inappropriate for a military barracks.
There are no rules with regard to announcing your sexual preference in a college dorm room, despite the lack of privacy. But many experts agree that there should be no language of a “sexual” nature in the workplace. Announcing your sexual orientation is sexual in nature. And the military is a workplace for millions of Americans.
If gays and lesbians are allowed to serve openly, there cannot be any socially unacceptable behavior as I’ve described above.
Notwithstanding the aforementioned, I have a friend who works as a domestic abuse counselor. It is her experience that the rate of domestic violence among lesbians is several times higher than gay males - and probably as much or more than heterosexual couples on a percentage basis.