by Tami G.
Member since:
March 28, 2009

Consequences for what you do!

January 09, 2010 06:41 PM UTC
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I have to ask what are people thinking when it comes to their conduct & its consequences. I have read in the last few weeks about the following teachers.  A male teacher, who won Disney’s distinguished teacher 2002 award, was arrested for sexually taking advantage of a young boy he befriended at a Boy Scout camp. He committed suicide the day his trial was to start. A young female teacher befriended a  girl in the 6th grade & had a sexual relationship with the 12-year-old. Defying the parents & sneaking into the girl’s home. A young female teacher was found dead at a friend’s house of a heroin overdose. A female teacher’s aid had some naked pictures taken of her on her cell phone. Somehow, she lost her cell phone & the pictures showed up on the high school kid’s cell phones where she worked. In another incident, a mother of 2 had a daycare service in her home. She was arrested for growing marijuana in the home. According to family members, she suffered from severe depression & the pot was to calm her so she did not have to take medications while watching the kids. Wow, that is a lame excuse!  What is wrong with these young people, do they not realize there are consequences for everything they do?  What are these young people teaching our kids about life? I just do not understand what is happening here. Not only are they doing these things but also they have clean records when they start out. No wonder parents are afraid to send their kids to school, clubs, sports teams, & sometimes church or Sunday school programs. Where are the morals of these people? Then we wonder why people have become over protective parents. If I had young kids now days, I would be over protective also. For those who died what a terrible way to be remembered. Not for the good they did, but instead the stupid mistakes they made before their deaths!

Comments: 24

Marsha C. Jan 9, 2010, 9:08pm UTC
it's a sad world
Tami G. Jan 16, 2010, 1:47am UTC
It sure is.
Elizabeth S. Jan 9, 2010, 10:08pm UTC
I don't think most of us think in terms of consequences of our actions. I can personally testify that the majority of my problems in life have been the result of my own actions or inactions. I see it in others frequently. My neighbor, the heavy smoker, has COPD. The relative who helps her kids out so much that she runs up high credit card bills while they keep spending themselves into trouble. The student who stays up late at night, skips meals and makes bad grades in high school. The speeder who gets multiple tickets each year.

The only difference in your post is that we want our teachers to be role models. We don't pay them like stars, we don't support their authority, we hire them straight out of college but have huge expectations. There's bound to be a small percentage who did grow up with no or lax morals. I'm just glad these got caught. Makes me wonder how many others are doing these things without being caught.
Tami G. Jan 12, 2010, 5:46pm UTC
But if the parents lack the know how or intelligence kids can & sometimes do help with instilling morals. It is important to not only teach things but to also instill moral consequences of the actions of things kids do. Teachers are not babysitters but are with your children for about 7 hours a day. If a teacher fails to show consequences for actions then how can things be taught? Kids always want to know why & someone has to answer that question no matter who or what profession they are. Was your neighbor taught about the consequences of smoking? Probably not becuase it has not been a big deal until a few years ago.
J. Reid Jan 10, 2010, 10:09am UTC
All too few people today have learned consequences, rules and boundaries, that is the sad fact of the New World and society in general.
Tami G. Jan 16, 2010, 1:51am UTC
I just feel like every few years things get more laxed & people can get away with more do to their rights etc, so we complain & then it is now law or what happens & it seems normal after a while. Then the same senerio happens again & we complain for awhile then it is a given & then one day you wake up & killing cops is no big deal for criminals, kids cannot be punished by school officials as parents will sue. So what protected rights do the so called good people have?
J. Reid Jan 16, 2010, 10:44am UTC
Nah, descent folk were raised to be more civil to others and those who are hell bent on forcing their "Rights" upon others are of an upbringing where they were not taught how and what to respect of others. They have become narcissistic and all due to the open and everybody is good crap where everyone wins and no one is allowed to experience the word NO or have ever failed at anything.

Parents who were never taught restraint, limits and boundaries cannot teach it, and society is left with a decline in personal responsibility and respect for anothers view.
J. Reid Jan 16, 2010, 10:45am UTC
I must say I think we are on the same page yet, we are pinpointing a different nexus.
Tami G. Jan 21, 2010, 1:28pm UTC
God only knows no child was ever destroyed because a parent said no, but with parents now days no basically was not in their vocabulary but definately is not in their childs. There are really no rules for them, no teacher can set kids straights & even if you have proof of a child doing wrong it was not their child! My parents would have punished me if a neighbor even suggested I didn't behave or have manners. Not now days!
J. Reid Jan 21, 2010, 2:47pm UTC
Exactly! Yet, I find that the age of this behavior reaches far beyond grade school. There in lies the problem.
Amanda "middle of nowhere" C. Jan 16, 2010, 3:16am UTC
Thiis is a very good article. I do think that many people live only in the moment and have to deal with the consequences later. I also think it is important for parents to teach children about consequences even if it is a painful lesson.
Tami G. Jan 21, 2010, 1:31pm UTC
I do not feel that a teacher is the parent or wants to take their job, but they are with the kids way more than most parents. I also see a lot of parents who work all the time to make ends meet & they seem to feel guilty so they buy or give extra privileges to make themselves feel better & make it more difficult for their children to mature into great adults.
Amanda "middle of nowhere" C. Feb 15, 2010, 7:06pm UTC
I understand where you're coming from. I think you learn that every action causes a reaction, good or bad, by the time you're in middle school or else you've missed it. Maybe that will come out in behavior like the teachers' or perhaps an addiction or violence. Good post.
Deb J. Jan 21, 2010, 9:03am UTC
It seems like more and more people are just living in the moment...and are not even thinking about the consequences of their actions and then when it catches up with them ~ they bail out (suicide). Sad...it's like 2 lives ruined!~
Tami G. Jan 21, 2010, 1:34pm UTC
That is true since they have never been reprimanded or told no, that does seem like the perfect answer to their problem. Only thing is it is a permenant solution to a temporary problem.
René Allen Jan 26, 2010, 5:51pm UTC
This is a POWERFUL ARTICLE Tami Please share this with us in PROPHETIC PULSE ~ A Paradigm Shift.

MORALS, INTEGRITY, CHARACTER, UPRIGHTNESS . . .

ALL traits that TEACHERS should have.

Why grown people find kids to be sexy or sex objects says a lot about the priorities in their life -- obviously they are oversexed to the point of perversion. SAD ~ very sad. Also punishable by law, and it should be. That kind of behavior is unacceptable, and should not be TOLERATED at any time, any where.

Thanks for this Article Tami.
Kasey Klein Feb 1, 2010, 7:47pm UTC
I'd like to think the people you list are the exception, not the rule. Far more teachers DON'T molest their children than do.

For example, we can talk about the three murders that took place in New York City over the weekend OR talk about the 5 million people that DIDN'T commit a murder.

I agree, the acts you cite above are bad. I also think we should avoid witch-hunting because of where the NEWS focuses our attention.
Tami G. Feb 7, 2010, 9:59pm UTC
I am not witch-hunting but instead stating that these were a few good people who had done good in there life. They for some reason acted wrong & it not only took their lives but ruined many others lives in the process. This is where the consequences come in. Had they looked or thought about the consequences perhaps they would have acted differently & would not have had to take their lives and be remembered that way. You are right it is not the rule but the exception & it is the exception that has shamed the family name not to mention taken a life of the person who did wrong & also messed up a child's life & their family.
Kasey Klein Feb 8, 2010, 6:19pm UTC
I understand what you're saying, Tami. It just saddens me, what we've become as a society. A handful of years ago, my wife and I were at the Philadelphia Zoo. I was watching the bird exhibit -- a large cage enclosed in a building, my wife, Jean, was off taking pictures.

A child, a girl, maybe ten years old, pointed, asking me a question about a bird. I didn't turn to her. I simply said: "Ask your mother."

It saddens me that I couldn't share what I knew with the child, interacting as human critters in the meat suit should interact. But, the very sad truth is, many, many people witch-hunt, finding perverts and pedophiles everywhere they look, even when no perverts and pedophiles are around.
Tami G. Feb 14, 2010, 4:05pm UTC
I know what you mean it is sad. You could have enlightened that child but with the risk of being hauled off to jail for trying to seduce a child is a sad sad thing in this world. My thoughts are that when things like this first started to happen we were taught to understand that this person has problems. We should have delt with it like they used to by holding people responsible for what they do. Our kids & grandkids would be safer, these people would be held accountable & if they needed help they would get it in an institution not where kids will be enjoying themselves.
Kasey Klein Feb 14, 2010, 4:21pm UTC
Hauled off to jail -- or chased into a bell tower.

The Fire -- Literary Fiction
KC says it so well when he said
But, the very sad truth is, many, many people witch-hunt, finding perverts and pedophiles everywhere they look, even when no perverts and pedophiles are around.

I can't help but wonder in some of these situations if they didn't kill themself because they was actually innocent or like many of us made mistakes in our life. For instance the growing pot in our house. Said right there in the article her family said she suffered from depression. I know many who smoke it for the same reason to calm. Because this was a babysitter its any different then a parent who does the same thing?

Another situation what about the ones that really didn't commit the crime of sexual abuse? I know if someone accused me I would be devastated. I don't think I could commit suicide but I've never walked those shoes to say. Not saying they wasn't guilty either. Sure we should pay for what we did in life, maybe this was their way of paying. Maybe they thought someone is going to get to them one way or another. Never know what these people think
Kasey Klein Mar 6, 2010, 4:08pm UTC
Hey, Renee.

Yesterday, I posted an existential short story on this very topic -- witch-hunting. A gift to be admired.
Nurse Nancy S. Mar 3, 2010, 1:52am UTC
I think everyone of those listed above, plus many, many more have some serious issues in their lives. The things they do, I am sure, are end products of either, anxiety, depression or maybe even some mental illness. I do agree that it is a shame to be remembered for their tragic actions rather any good they may have done.

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