My cousin Grace has now been in the county jail for four months. We just got the news that the state has given her two years for her crime. Her crime? Her 11 year old daughter accused her of child abuse. Child Protective Services came out and investigated her and found there was no proof of any child abuse. Her daughter called CPS a second time and this time showed them a bruise that she told them that my cousin had given her when punishing her. This time CPS put a warrant out for her arrest and had the sheriff’s department go out and pick her up.
I don’t condone corporal punishment for children at all. I do feel however that sometimes a swift swat on the butt will help unruly little ones from time to time. I don’t have any children of my own so I really couldn’t be objective about this one to be perfectly honest.
The truth of the matter is that Grace did not cause that bruise on her daughters arm, nor does she ever spank her children. I know that she has been known to yell and scream at her two kids (the other child, a son is 13). On the other hand, I do not live with them so I don’t really know the truth. My cousin told me that what had truly happened is that she had grounded her daughter and taken away some new clothes that she had bought her. Her daughter found a way to get even with her mother and went for it and called CPS.
Grace’s daughter is now left in the custody of her grandfather as there really isn’t anyone else to care for her. Her father divorced my cousin many years ago and now has a family with four more little children of his own and doesn’t provide for Grace’s daughter nor does he communicate with her or see her.
Since my Uncle by marriage is at work 12 hours a day and six days per week, Grace’s daughter is becoming more and more out of hand. She is alone most of the time so as everyone knows, while the cat is away the mice will dance. The last thing I heard was that she had gone to spend a couple of days with a friend and had come home with a pierced lip!
I had Grace’s daughter over her for a weekend before Christmas and she seemed nice and sweet enough. Not unruly or disrespectful whatsoever. I feel for her because all one has to do is look into her eyes to see the sadness in them. As much as I feel for her, I can’t take her in. I just cannot help everyone as much as I would like to. Furthermore with my anxiety and depression, I don’t feel as if I would be suited to try to raise a child.
What do you think of this situation? I am filled with sadness over the entire situation. I don’t know what to do and feel that you my Gather family could possibly give me some insight into this.
Oh, I know you are probably wondering about Grace and her conviction. This is her second stint in the correctional system. She had been out of the penitentiary for almost four years and had remained mostly out of trouble. Her first crime was for trying to bring across the Texas-Mexico border a truck full of marijuana. She was at that time given five years of which she served three years on that crime.
Supposedly the reason that CPS was so rough on her this time was because she was considered high risk since she was a convicted felon. This hardly seems fair to me but who am I to say? What do you think about all of this?