Another family fight... *sigh*

You know I feel really bad for my step father and his kids.  I want to start by saying this - I am not judging in this post, more like expressing sympathy for those involved.  All parties have their fault in this case including my mother, but it's just sad.

My stepfather is a person that believes love is bought, the bigger the gift the bigger the love.  His kids being raised that way have turned out like crap in my opinion, that's slightly judging but I mean that they don't know how to express love.  They expect the gifts and are in return passing this along to their kids.

Well he put himself in debt many a times with eyes for cars bigger than his wallet.  He went to get a car and was told he had NO credit score - he'd need someone to cosign.  His kids having the same money ideas as him had problems of their own, so all that was left was my mother.  So she agreed, (actually find out later his name isn't even on the loan, it's all her!) with the condition that he and only he use the car.  This also had footing in the insurance since, he and her were the ONLY ones covered by it.  Anyone else drives it and wrecks it insurance doesn't pay a dime.  He agrees but it's soon found out that he has been letting his kids drive the car.  Mom gets mad threatens to take the car back he promises it'll never happen again.

Fast forward what 2 years now.  - She knows the kids have been driving the car but can't prove it, she continues to urge him to refi the car and get her name off.  Then she doesn't care who drives it.  But that hasn't happened.

My step father goes out of town for work every now and again, my mother says he has to bring the car to her house (they don't live together, long story).  Normally he does, this past week he doesn't.  Mom gets a call his youngest daughter is driving it with no headlights on.  She calls him he says you know she doesn't have a ride to work this and that sob story.  Mom says look my name is on the car you know the deal, have her drop it off.  Next day Mom is told she is again driving the car, this time they are at the movie store renting a movie.  This means they are clearly driving it not only to work but for pleasure.  She calls my step dad, no answer.  I believe it's another day or two before he answers and says they are dropping off the car.

They drop off the car out front of my mother's house with no key.  Mom calls asking for the key so she can move it into the drive way where is it supposed to be.  He gets all defensive, she states I want the keys it's part of the deal.  No keys come.  Mom knows the daughters are going to come over and use the car while she is at work.  So mom asks the neighbor to park their cars close to the car so it can't be moved.

Today someone calls the cops and reports they are unable to move the car.  Cop comes and gives the neighbor two parking tickets.  Marks my step dad's car and says it has to be moved in 24 hours or it'll be impounded.  She can't move it because she has no keys.

She calls step dad tells him, he says his kids lied to him.  They said they dropped off the keys to her.  She sets him straight I am sure in a not so friendly manner and he calls the girls.

Mom gets home to find the keys and a note in her mailbox.  Now I can't post what the note says, not even if I flag it.  They call her the C word underlined, a skank and a few other not so nice words.  Call her a liar say they hate her ect.

All over a car!  If they had done what they were supposed to in the first place this wouldn't have happened but they are blaming my mom.  Now my step dad isn't going to stand up for her, he'll let his grown kids talk to her that way.

Now here is the part I have a problem with, they are calling her the names but the one driving the car lost her boyfriend because she slept around on him.  She has two kids by him, doesn't seem to matter.  The middle child the other daughter, kicked her boyfriend out, oh yea she is living at daddy's house.  They don't have money for cars but it seems like every weekend on their facebook page they are going to another bar.  Shouldn't these girls be at home raising their kids, setting examples for their kids?

I am not perfect, but I don't think I could speak to very many people that way.  There is probably only 2 or 3 and that's because of the way they treat me.  Still I don't think i would stoop to childish name calling levels and I hate you.  What are we 10?

It just makes me sad for these kids, if their moms were at home doing the "right" thing they'd have cars, maybe even dads instead  they might follow the same path ahead of them.

Tonight I'll be praying for their kids, I think they'll need it.

I've also left them a message on Facebook saying I don't appericate them talking to my mother that way.  I think it's time they grew up and moved out of their daddy's house.  *Yes both of them (and their kids) live with him.* And that I'd pray for them.  Partly childish I know but that's my mom!