by Candace W.
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February 8, 2008

Today is the 43rd Anniversary of the National Organization of Women, but...

October 29, 2009 12:07 PM EDT
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Today marks the 43rd anniversary of the National Organization of Women, dedicated to securing equal rights and opportunities for the female gender.

However, men and their attitudes about female roles in relationships and marriage haven't kept pace. Could this be one of the reasons there are so many single women in the United States?

Many men hold fast to the 1950s ideal of a submissive apron-wearing woman that "knows her role" as explained in this timely article on modern relationships. With women filing 75% of the divorces in the U.S., could this conflict of needs be a factor? If a woman wants to eventually marry and have a family, must she sacrifice her personal desires for self-fulfillment to meet a man's expectations of the perfect submissive wife?

 

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Comments: 3

Ron Amos Oct 29, 2009, 12:18pm EDT
It's a self perception problem, a man is taught from childhood to be obedient to women so when he does what he is told he feels like a child again. Unless he had a really happy childhood and was well treated by the women around him he grows up angry expecting what he can't have. At least that how my life has been, if I wasn't obedient to my mother I got the hell kicked out of me, never have liked women much since. Instead I just chased my tail trying to figure out what made my mother so mean. By the time I got it figured out she was dead so "What to do?" Hell I don't know.
Leah Christensen Nov 28, 2009, 12:56am EST
And what about women being taught from childhood to be obedient to men? My GOD!!! If I played the traditional submissive wife to my husband, as much as he loves me, I might as well just marry my DAD!!

So I think it's time that one stops submitting to the other, and people walk as equals, no one leads, no one follows.

As Albert Camus said
Don't Walk behind me I may not lead
Don't walk infront of me I may not follow
Walk beside me, and be my friend.

I worked this quote into my wedding vows, when my husband and I got married.
Marilyn M. Dec 11, 2009, 3:28pm EST
I don't know. God's instruction book shows the best ways to thrive and survive, since He did create us. I think the Proverbs 31 Woman is the ideal - submissive when it's important, but a heck of a business and money manager.

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