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by Ed Williams
Member since:
September 14, 2008

So You Want More Comments/Views/Points Here On Gather?

October 17, 2009 06:31 AM EDT (Updated: October 17, 2009 06:32 AM EDT)
views: 557 | rating: 8.2/10 (27 votes) | comments: 157

I’d be the first one to admit to that I don’t have a clue as to why I’m currently receiving the amount of views and comments that I am. It amazes me that over the past four or five weeks I’ve gone from an average of 100-150 views and maybe 30-70 comments per article to something like an average 1400-2300 views and 80-200 comments. I’m very humbled and grateful for this added attention, but do I understand why it’s happening? I really don’t, bottom line.

With that being said, I’m starting to have people here ask for my advice regarding what they should do in order to obtain more views and comments for their writings. Let’s face it, everyone who writes likes for it to be read, it’s the one common thread amongst us writers. When we aren’t read at a level we feel is appropriate we tend to wonder what’s wrong. I’ve already had Gatherers ask me point blank if they write stuff that’s too dull, too basic, too “raw”, and more. It’s damn near impossible to answer as my personal tastes are mine, hell, just because I think something is great or not is only my opinion, nothing more. Still, these questions are being asked, so I think I’m gonna offer up my two cents as to what I think one can do to both gain, and lose, an audience here on Gather.

Let’s start off by making something clear – when I began here a bit over a year ago I was receiving an average of 20-40 views and 2-5 comments per article. I definitely didn’t start out with a built-in audience or the proverbial “silver spoon,” and I promise I’m not Tom Gerace’s long lost brother. So what did I do?

Here’s what:

1. I started posting content at least once a week, and experimented with different days of the week to do so in. Once I found the days that seemed to draw best for me, I stayed with them. I think it’s very important to provide regular content if you want to build an audience, putting stuff up on an irregular basis will keep your reading audience exactly that – irregular. They won’t know when to expect you.

2. I joined groups and added friends. Think about it. Every time you add a friend your notices and comments show up in their feeds. And the more friends you add the more people that message gets out to. As regards groups, hey, look at it this way - if you post to a group that contains 500 members, that’s potential exposure to any and all of them regarding whatever you’ve just posted. Hell, I even occasionally audit my groups now. If I belong to one that has under 100 members, I check to see if it’s growing or on the decline. If it’s dying, I drop it like a bad habit, conversely, if it’s growing I make doubly sure that my articles keep getting there.

3. I “talk” to my readers. Truth is, I make it a point to interact with them, mostly because I enjoy it. Let’s face it, Gather is a social networking site, people want to get an idea of the person behind the writings, so one’s success is partially dependent on one’s interactions. For me, that means that I respond to comments, and if some comments turns into a “thread within the thread,” I make damn sure we keep that dialogue going as long as possible. The more human and approachable your readers see you as being, the better off you’ll be. You’ll ultimately find that a good conversational thread will draw as much or more for you than the article which prompted it in the first place.

4. Become friends with popular people on Gather. Hell, let’s face it, if your name and picture stops popping up on a page like Selene’s then people are going to begin noticing you. Post responses to their articles, suck up, and you’ll end up forming some really cool online friendships and also increase your potential readership.

5. Write stuff that has a fairly broad appeal. You might think that the lemonade you sipped with old Aunt Julia while you discussed the recent problems she’s been having with the corns on her feet is riveting stuff, but, believe it or not, most won’t see it that way. Not to mention the fact that old Aunt Julia might not appreciate having her warped old feet trotted out here for public scrutiny.

Now, those are some things you can do to help yourself – here are some things you can do that I’ll guarantee you will decrease your audience.

1. Use controversy and “Gather drama” as your means of drawing people to your page. Don’t get me wrong, controversy and “Gather drama” will draw for a certain period of time. Inevitably though, the issue(s) or people involved get old, people inherently don’t like to be upset all the time, hell, people don’t like being around azzholes period. Use this tact as your “hook” and your audience will drop off at some point. Hell, just since I’ve been on Gather I’ve watched certain people go from enjoying nice followings to almost insignificance, and I think it’s mostly due to them not paying heed to this basic tenet. Dallas was a great old TV soap opera, but there’s a reason CBS only gave us an hour of it each week. Don’t let yourself be lured into quick and easy views/comments through drama only to find that a few weeks later no one knows you’re out there. It’ll happen.

2. For God’s sake, if you don’t remember anything else here we’ve talked about today, remember this:

Don’t solicit money here on Gather!

I know Gather doesn’t directly allow solicitation, but I’ve seen enough discreet (more or less) panhandling situations here to float a ship. And in every case I’ve witnessed, the person involved does not increase their audience, in fact, over time they decrease it. Expecting online friends to give you money for whatever problems you’re experiencing at the moment might be expeditious, hey, you might even raise some money from it. Over time, though, it’s all gonna go downhill because the truth is that people don’t like hanging out with moochers, no matter how engaging or personality blessed they appear to be.

3. Don’t whine and bitch about the fact that you’re not getting enough attention! Wanna keep that trend going? Keep bitching. Most people like to keep kicking a whiny person’s azz, it’s just one of those weird laws of human nature.

4. Literary snobbishness impresses no one and draws even less. Plus, when you have to tell or indicate to people “who you are,” then most likely you “aren’t” or “never were.”

5. Don’t allow trouble making azzholes to entrench themselves on your page! Gather is like most social networking sites in this regard, you’ll find good people and then you’ll encounter some who are either antisocial or so desperate for attention that they’ll do anything in order to obtain it. If one of these types tries to “light” on your page, then punt them off however many times as it takes. When you force them to rely on their own drawing power then their ship is sunk. It’s always the right thing to do as nothing takes down a fun, positive thread any faster than some troublemaking misfit.

6. If you try to make people feel beholden to read your stuff then you can forget it. Bottom line, if you tell folks stuff like,

“Well, if you’ll read mine I’ll read yours.”

Your azz is already toast. People might read you out of obligation once, twice, or maybe even a few times, but they won’t continue doing so over any significant period of time. In fact, they’ll get tired of being asked. In the end, reading is just like sex – it’s best when done because the time and feelings are right, not because of a sense of obligation. And we’ve all done it out of obligation at one point or the other, so don’t act like we haven’t.

In conclusion, my dear and fellow Gatherers, I hope these suggestions help. Please remember that these are just my opinions, I’m quite sure there are more than a few successful Gather members who happen to have taken very different paths towards attaining the audiences they currently enjoy. I’d just ask y’all to keep ‘em in mind, have fun, and do the things necessary in order to make your audiences grow!

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Comments: 157

DIANE D. Oct 17, 2009, 6:37am EDT
Great advice,Ed. Good Morning.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 6:39am EDT
Diane, how are you, darlin'?

Smoochies,

E3
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Karen F. Oct 17, 2009, 6:44am EDT
Good morning Darlin'

Thank goodness I don't care if anyone reads my stuff or not because since I haven't been writing my story much, not many people read or comment on anything I put out there. I started Gather just because I like to write. I haven't written much lately because I just haven't had the time to sit and do so. I guess I need to stop and smell the roses some but life goes on whether I write or not.

Other than your wonderful and entertaining articles, it seems that the ones that get the most attention are the political and religious ones and I refuse to get involved in the back biting and trash throwing on those...quack. It is just not worth the frustration and the anger that passes through the Gather "friends". It seems that if ones opinion doesn't match theirs that it doesn't matter.

I'm not sure what I need to focus on but I will try to write again sometime...in the meantime I will just enjoy reading your articles and some of the others that appear on here. Have a great day...I must get ready for work.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 6:47am EDT
Karen, in the past week I think I've gotten 4-5 emails about getting more views and comments on articles. I really don't have a clue what I'm doing, but I've just tried to answer them here. We'll see what happens.

You're a sweetie, you be safe today darlin'!

E3

E3
Karen F. Oct 17, 2009, 6:55am EDT
You just have to loose the modesty and know you are an excellent writer and you have what it takes to bring humor and interest in an article. You write about things that others either dance around or are too afraid to put into words for fear of being slammed. You are my Gather hero...

big hugs Darlin'
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:00am EDT
Darlin', I appreciate it a lot, more than you know. I've just been getting these questions, it's like people think you have some kind of magic formula or something. I just write about what I like and try to promote it as best as I can. I do think anyone can grow their audience if that's what they really want.

Smoochies,

E3
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lena k. Oct 17, 2009, 6:52am EDT
i will try harder
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 6:55am EDT
Lena, not everyone wants a bunch of comments and views, and that's fine you know.

Smoochies,

E3
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Nancy * Oct 17, 2009, 6:59am EDT
If i got more than a couple of hundred views I'd be surprised. I talk about suff I know like my cats and my husband (well what little I know about him *grin*). I post when ever the mood hits me or a thought pops into that empty space btween my ears. I try to converse but sometimes I'm not sure what to say in return.

To be honest the points are nice, but it's the feedback I get... the conversation that mulls around stuff that I enjoy more than the points. When I post at facebook or live journal or even my own blog, I can't even be sure anyone has even looked at it because I get no feed back. I feel like some people are actually interested in my writings and photographs so I stay here.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:02am EDT
I think I most enjoy these article threads, the conversations are what make it on Gather for me. I enjoy mine more than I can say, sometimes they're thoughtful, sometimes wild, sometimes bawdy, or sometimes just plain wild!

Nancy, you're a sweetie - smoochies!

E3
Cindy A. Oct 17, 2009, 7:05am EDT
Nancy I agree with you totally. I am not here on Gather for the points..I am away from Gather alot, but when I am here, I do enjoy the feedback. I prefer to keep a smaller group of friends, so I can keep up with THEIR work more easily. I do love my fb though and I get alot of comments there....and I also keep my friends list short there too. Well said.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:07am EDT
Cindy, that's great, I don't assume for a second that everyone wants a zillion posts or mega attention at all. I like to try out article concepts here and talk to people, others have different motivations. My only point here was, if you want more of an audience here's some things to consider.

These serious articles don't lend themselves to as many smoochies, dammit!

E3
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Cindy A. Oct 17, 2009, 7:02am EDT
and lets not forget Ed, that you write with a great amount of humor! When reading your posts, I am always nodding my head, saying, yep, thats right..uh huh, I agree! You have a knack on touching people's funny bones and that is why when I am Gathering, I look for your works. Not because you show up in my feeds, but because you leave me wanting to read more. Few here do that. Your advice was wonderful, but you just "have" it...you can't teach that to people. You either got it or you don't..you got it.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:03am EDT
Cindy, I ought to smooch you right out here in front of everybody!

Triple smoochies and a big thank you,

E3
Nancy * Oct 17, 2009, 7:15am EDT
yes, you do write with a lot of humor. One of the biggest reasons I read and comment on your posts, Ed, is you make me laugh.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:17am EDT
I'll get back to humor with tomorrow morning's article, but I felt like I ought to try and answer these questions, I guess everyone wants to be read, it's why we all write in the first place.

Nancy, you're a sweetie, thank you!

E3
Cindy A. Oct 17, 2009, 7:17am EDT
thats the charm of some men...IF they can make you laugh..they got you!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:18am EDT
Ooooooooooooooo, so makin' ladies laugh means ooo-lah-lah?

Fiendishly leering smoochies,

E3
Cindy A. Oct 17, 2009, 7:35am EDT
I meant they had our hearts...wouldn't you rather have our hearts Ed? lol
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:37am EDT
CIndy, Cindy, talk about a set-up question if there ever was one.....

Smoochies,

E3
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MrsRoad Runner Oct 17, 2009, 7:43am EDT
Bottom line;
You just make me laugh!
People need laughter! :0)
Or um I do.....
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:44am EDT
You're a sweetie, wanna jet out to Vegas this morning?

Smoochies,

E3
MrsRoad Runner Oct 17, 2009, 7:48am EDT
LOL
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Kathryn E. Oct 17, 2009, 7:53am EDT
You are just sooo smoochy.

And git that everlovin smoochy mouth and butt over here:

She threw her head back...
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 7:55am EDT
You're hotter than a two dollar pistol too, and I proudly proclaim it!

I'm on my way,

E3
Kathryn E. Oct 17, 2009, 8:14am EDT
My piston is priceless. My pistol is priceless.

Oh I don't have a piston or a pistol, but my whatever is priceless.
Elizabeth O. Oct 17, 2009, 8:16am EDT
I read this last night...its hot...
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:18am EDT
Believe me, she should've written more!

Smoochies,

E3
Elizabeth O. Oct 17, 2009, 8:33am EDT
My heart couldn't have stood it ~ as it was, she had me thinking of...things...that I won't mention here, because I'm a lady.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:42am EDT
I'm not a lady, so I can say out loud that I could've dug a hole all the way to China based on what I read, Kathryn just has "it!"

E3
Elizabeth O. Oct 17, 2009, 8:49am EDT
She certainly does...and with her writing evokes thoughts of other people with a very different sort of 'it'.
Kathryn E. Oct 17, 2009, 11:34am EDT
OMG y'll are tawking bout moi!

I iz sooo blushing. almost wrote sooo bushing.
Kathryn E. Oct 17, 2009, 11:34am EDT
different sort of 'it.'

ha.

Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:35am EDT
Of course we are, you started all this!

Smoochies,

E3
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Erinn K. Oct 17, 2009, 7:58am EDT
Great advice! =)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:00am EDT
Erinn, thanks darlin'!

E3
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Kathryn E. Oct 17, 2009, 8:13am EDT
ha....it was actually just passionate romance.... but call it what you will, my purpose was definitely to comboggle, confuzzle, and comboobelate your mind and body......
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:17am EDT
Kathryn, I could knock a hole through the floor now on account of you, now do you have any literary cold water I could splash down my britches?

Smoochies,

E3
Kathryn E. Oct 17, 2009, 11:35am EDT
sorries i don't do cold water. only hot!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:40am EDT
God, do I know it! You define hotness, my darlin'!

Smoochies,

E3
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Elizabeth O. Oct 17, 2009, 8:15am EDT
Good morning ~ You left out one very important reason for attracting views, talent. If your writing ability reads like the instructions on the oatmeal box, you aren't going to attract a very large following....and talent is one of your attributes...just saying.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:16am EDT
You know you're makin' me blush and stuff.....

Smoochies,

E3
Elizabeth O. Oct 17, 2009, 8:21am EDT
Moi? Would I do so such a thing?


Smoochies back,
Bethie
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:22am EDT
Gosh, I don't know, let me think about, I won't equivocate.....

E3
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Jennifer R. Oct 17, 2009, 8:28am EDT
Good advice Ed. You make some great points. I personally read your stuff because it is entertaining and I am still reeling from the Trouser Pickle song... :)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:29am EDT
Jennifer, admit it, are you singing the "Trouser Pickle Song" around the house these days? Come clean baby!

Smoochies,

E3
Jennifer R. Oct 17, 2009, 8:39am EDT
Okay, okay I will admit that a few times I have woke up in the morning and hummed it in my head. But I guess that beats the theme from Fairly Odd Parents! LOL you are killin me!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:40am EDT
Ahhh, our first ever admitted "Trouser Pickle Song" addict! I'm so flattered, that will likely be my only video ever so I'm really glad you liked it!

Smoochies,

E3
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Katharyne T. Oct 17, 2009, 8:28am EDT
thanks for the tips Ed, I'm happy things are going good for you here.. Keep up the good work : )
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:30am EDT
Katharyne, I love your avatar and many thanks for the comment - you're pretty as hell!

Smoochies,

E3
Katharyne T. Oct 17, 2009, 8:53am EDT
thank you ED, and right back at you... you handsome devil you
:)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 9:03am EDT
Now, now, my heart is pumpin' faster than a Jerry Lee Lewis piano, darlin', you can't get us old guys revved up too much, you know!

E3
Katharyne T. Oct 17, 2009, 9:08am EDT
lol awww : )
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Rhonda M. Oct 17, 2009, 8:35am EDT
Great advise...you got me to post a comment..LOL Have a great day!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:38am EDT
Rhonda, I'm still laughing, have a great day!

E3
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Kris P. Oct 17, 2009, 8:52am EDT
Dear Dr. Ed ~
Your prescription for the Gather members here on the beautiful Saturday morning will bring fast relief to those that follow it. Not to mention you give great suggestions!

Settemila baci per te!

♥Ű♥
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 8:59am EDT
Did you just sweet talk me or cuss me, darlin'? We old Georgia country boys aren't up on these fern languages!

Smoochies,

E3
Kris P. Oct 17, 2009, 9:28am EDT
Ed, darlin', I have never cussed a day in my life. For such a charming, hunk of a man, I would never. You know I love your articles, they make me smile, you're a keeper.

♥Ű♥
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:08am EDT
As are you, you very classy thing, you!

Smoochies,

E3
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Elizabeth O. Oct 17, 2009, 9:10am EDT
Another reason, maybe? You can be rather risque at times, ya know...not that I'm complaining...

A friend of mine just published a book about the Womens' Suffrage Movement here in our area. There was a small local group rural farm women that started out very active to get the vote. The group is still in force as a book club, the members are the daughters of those original women, now in their 90's. My friend did a talk for them this winter because she had used this group's history as a major source of information for her book...one of the little old ladies said to her "Put a lot of sex in your book, honey, because you know that sex sells!!!"
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 9:12am EDT
My first book sold more than a coupla copies off its title, "Sex, Dead Dogs and Me." You're right, darlin', sex really does sell!

Smoochies,

E3
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Tina M. Oct 17, 2009, 9:14am EDT
Mornin' Ed love your articals, you make me laugh...I like that! Thats some good advise...I started on gather for friends and conversations, then started writing a little,not sure where it will go! But keep the great articals coming!

kisses
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 9:21am EDT
Pretty lady, for you, of course!

Smoochies,

E3
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Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Oct 17, 2009, 9:20am EDT
Great advice Ed.

I do believe that you've got the tricks of the trade down pat Ed as your readership shows but as with everything everyone encounters ups and downs on this site. Luckily you seem to be skyrocketing right now and I give you KUDOS for that. I really enjoy reading your stuff!

Big TEXAS ~ OU Weekend Smoochies to YOU! Go LONGHORNS!!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 9:22am EDT
Darlin', I know. I'd be the first to say it could all go away tomorrow, but since I never expected it in the first place I'll be fine. In the end, the fun, comments, and just enjoying each other should be the true draw here.

Double smoochies to a very pretty and classy Gather friend,

E3
Tina M. Oct 17, 2009, 9:22am EDT
im with you on that Esther.....go LONGHORNS!!!

kisses
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 9:23am EDT
Go Yellow Jackets, handle the Hokies!

E3
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A Season of Joy, Love and Gift-Giving Oct 17, 2009, 9:55am EDT
Ed, thanks your opinions were worth the read.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:07am EDT
Darlene, thank you much, darlin'!

Smoochies,

E3
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Otelia S. Oct 17, 2009, 10:06am EDT
Good reading Ed But You know what my philosophy is,,,
I write it cause I want to
You read it and comment if you want to...
No Pressure on no-ne.
I already have a toaster and a camera so I'm not gathering points for ahousehold item or nothing but Big Ups to you for scoring big time.
Way -2-Go!!!!!!!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:08am EDT
Otelia, that is so cool and so spot on! Bottom line, people ought to write because they enjoy doing so, and wherever it ends up it ends up. Works for me.

Double smoochies,

E3
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Adelaide M. Oct 17, 2009, 10:14am EDT
Great advice! If you happen to have a silver spoon laying around that you're not using, pass it along :) Enjoy your Saturday!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:36am EDT
Adelaide, the only silver spoon I have is one I was given as a baby, other than that I've had to slog it out my entire life. Smoochies to you for such a sweet comment!

E3
Adelaide M. Oct 17, 2009, 10:40am EDT
Me too, although I can't say I haven't thought about what it's like to not think about money.(Ahh, daydreams...)

Yay! I got smoochies. (As for your other post that I saw this morning, I'm sure the reason your readership when from 50 views and comments to 1000 is the smoochies) :)
Adelaide M. Oct 17, 2009, 10:50am EDT
I'm such a moron. It took me so long to get through reading all the comments and laughing I sort of forgot it was this post where you mention that. I should just go watch football pre-game. wow.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:53am EDT
Darlin', can I have some of whatever you're sippin'?

Smoochies mucho,

E3
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Priscilla (wishing I was in Costa Rica) ~. Oct 17, 2009, 10:20am EDT
Wow, you are getting a ton of views! Good for you Ed~
I try to never whine about gather points - I figure I am in control of how much I can earn by posting more, viewing more...etc...just being more active.
I do appreciate how you "converse"with people in replying to their comments - it's nice.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:36am EDT
Priscilla, thank you so much, in the end people oughta have fun and however it goes on Gather, it goes.

Smoochies darlin',

E3
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Johnice R. Oct 17, 2009, 10:37am EDT
Great advise Ed, are you sure that you are not a Psychologist? :)

There are times when some members will test the temperament of Jobe--obviously I am not he, and then I may, on occasion and I know I have, asserted my credentials and stupidity did stop. I am not addicted to boast yet, there are some quite astute folk here who enjoy a higher academically orientated level of exchange. I am attracted to them and not many others are, that is a good thing!

Unlike yourself, many Gathers have NO sense of humor and or cannot detect irony in the written word--sadly so. Then there are folks who have an axe to grind and choose you as their personal stone--out witting these folks becomes a mentally stimulating challenge--for a minute before fading or going too far south. The constant trick in navigating Gather, as a commenter, lies in ones ability to know when to stop, disappear, discontinue and move on.

I return to my initial response: you just might be a Psychologist! :)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:58am EDT
Darlin', I think I use old country boy horse sense and thank God I have intelligent friends like you who I could lean on for advice if I needed it.

Super smoochies,

E3
Johnice R. Oct 17, 2009, 11:17am EDT
Psychology is mainly "Horse sense" old boy or not! I wish more possessed it and used it along with civility!

Until that wish comes true I will be dust therefore I choose to be particular!

I am very happy and blessed to know you Ed! :)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:31am EDT
Johnice, you are one of the main reasons I post, I love your classiness and down to earth wisdom.

Mega smoochies, darlin',

E3
Johnice R. Oct 17, 2009, 11:36am EDT
Are you just saying that so I will come back? :)

No worries! I look forward to reading your posts every weekend--like an emotional paycheck!

((Hugs!))
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:39am EDT
No and yes, of course I want ya to come back, and I'll do lots to insure it happens. But the words are heartfelt, darlin'.

Smoochies,

E3
Johnice R. Oct 17, 2009, 11:44am EDT
Words are heartfelt from you Ed, I have no doubts--no one works harder to be the one we want to read.

Your responses are additively warm which only enhances each contact.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:45am EDT
You're gonna make me teary if you keep tellin' me this stuff.....

E3
Johnice R. Oct 17, 2009, 11:52am EDT
Okay! I will stop,the Beagles just insisted that I take them out!

I will be back. :)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:55am EDT
Very good!

E3
Johnice R. Oct 17, 2009, 1:51pm EDT
:)
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Purrrrrrrrrrr~Genki dashite~Nantoka naru-yo! S. Oct 17, 2009, 10:42am EDT
#4 Oh you PIMP!!!!!!!! =D
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:54am EDT
Hell, it's the truth, you are popular as hell, I glommed onto you immediately. Not my fault you turned out to be one helluva classy lady and fun as all hell to boot - shoot me! Spank me!

E3
Purrrrrrrrrrr~Genki dashite~Nantoka naru-yo! S. Oct 17, 2009, 10:59am EDT
SWAT!!!!!!

=D
Joyce ("Site Cheshire Kitteh") L. Oct 17, 2009, 11:56pm EDT
Here, Purrr, borrow my paddle.
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Purrrrrrrrrrr~Genki dashite~Nantoka naru-yo! S. Oct 17, 2009, 10:43am EDT
I LOVE THIS!!!~ bwahahhahahahaha~
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:55am EDT
Marry me, you beyond the horizon ahead of the curve thing, you!

Le smackable smoochies,

E3
Purrrrrrrrrrr~Genki dashite~Nantoka naru-yo! S. Oct 17, 2009, 11:00am EDT
oh not the M~word~ eck~
but I'll do ya in a bar like a gangsta dame~ =D
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:30am EDT
That's certainly an acceptable compromise, and damned sporting of you, darlin'!

Smoochies,

E3
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Purrrrrrrrrrr~Genki dashite~Nantoka naru-yo! S. Oct 17, 2009, 10:47am EDT
THESE ARE THE BEST f***ing guideline I have ever seen!!!~ Take me I'm your's!!!!!!

Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:55am EDT
Pour cold water on me, darlin', I'm sizzlin'!

Smoochies,

E3
Purrrrrrrrrrr~Genki dashite~Nantoka naru-yo! S. Oct 17, 2009, 11:00am EDT
*light cigarette with Eddie's sizzle* ;)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:29am EDT
You are succcchhhhhhh a bad influence on me.....

E3
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Aunt Boni H. Oct 17, 2009, 10:47am EDT
Good morning, my future husband! I hope you slept well last nite,
What makes you so popular? You're just too darned cute, lover boy.
Enjoy the day!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:56am EDT
AB, we have to go to Vegas one day and thoroughly research why it's called "Sin City."

Smoochies,

E3
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Purrrrrrrrrrr~Genki dashite~Nantoka naru-yo! S. Oct 17, 2009, 10:47am EDT
Thanks for posting to GutterGirls~ you are soooooo featured!!!!~
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 10:56am EDT
Sooooooooooooooo thank you, darlin'!

Smoochies,

E3
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Kimberly Blackadar Oct 17, 2009, 11:11am EDT
Ed, as someone completely new, and therefore, oblivious to posting on here, I thank you for answering questions that I didn't even know to ask. I plan to post...eventually, and will use your pointers when I do! :)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:25am EDT
Kimberly, thanks much! I really didn't plan on writing something like this, but I guess after my views/comments went up people wanted to know why, so here we are.

You're very nice, accomplished, and pretty as hell, too. I look forward to getting to know you!

E3
Kimberly Blackadar Oct 17, 2009, 11:42am EDT
Maybe your rise in readership has a little something to do with your knack for dropping compliments in every now and then. We--and I'm pretty sure I can speak for all women--never mind that! :)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:45am EDT
Kimberly, do you think I'd resort to telling you that you're accomplished and pretty as hell with ulterior motivation behind it?

Moi?

Smoochies,

E3
Joyce ("Site Cheshire Kitteh") L. Oct 17, 2009, 11:58pm EDT
You bet!
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Kimberly Blackadar Oct 17, 2009, 11:49am EDT
Again, I can also speak for all women when I say, "Yep, we are quite familiar with your ulterior motives!" All kidding aside, thanks for the info--and the friendly banter!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 11:54am EDT
Likewise, darlin'. Don't be a stranger!

E3
Joyce ("Site Cheshire Kitteh") L. Oct 18, 2009, 12:24am EDT
Seriously, Ed, Kimberly is right. You have a knack for creating an atmosphere of 'safety' and lightheartedness on your articles. After reading articles with so much negativity and strife, your work is like a breath of fresh air. We know when we see 'Ed Williams has just shared a post' that we can expect a positive, non-threatening experience when we click on that article. We can expect some very humorous thoughts and comments. We can also expect to be able to participate. No one who regularly reads you gets out of line, because we all respect you. Any newby who retorts negatively gets pushed out very quickly. In essence, we feel safe. No one gets looked down on. One other thing that is vitally important that will never ever fail, is your positive response to each and every commenter. You take pains to make sure that no one is left out; all get a bit of attention; and we know it. We also know that you are never serious in your 'flirting' and that is such a relief that it is like winning a prize. That's why your posts are on the upswing. Your readership isn't going to decrease, as more and more Gatherites hear about you, your readership will increase. I can't speak for all your readers, of course, but I can and have spoken for me. Thanks, Ed, for sharing your talent!

Now, forget all this stuff and put on that tutu.
Kimberly Blackadar Oct 18, 2009, 12:34am EDT
Yeah, we are all drawn to writers with an authentic voice, and if you provide that for your readership, then that's a big plus!

And it was nice to meet you, Joyce! :)
Joyce ("Site Cheshire Kitteh") L. Oct 18, 2009, 2:08am EDT
Same here, Kim!
M C. Oct 18, 2009, 2:36am EDT
What??? Ed's not serious in his flirting? Well.... I thought I had a chance.. I thought it was REAL... what will I do now? Oh .. oh... oh..

Great article, Ed...
Joyce ("Site Cheshire Kitteh") L. Oct 18, 2009, 2:50am EDT
Poor MC ~holds, strokes back~
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Ruthi C. Oct 17, 2009, 1:22pm EDT
Excellent advice and interestingly given...thank you :-)
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 1:26pm EDT
Ruthi, thanks darlin', we do what we can!

E3
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Randy Hansen Oct 17, 2009, 1:34pm EDT
Good points Ed, and actually relevant to most any social networking site.
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 1:38pm EDT
Randy, thanks, appreciate you stopping by and for offering such a cool comment!

E3
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Annmarie B. Oct 17, 2009, 1:50pm EDT
I was giving money to people in need. Only a few thanked me. I learned my lesson. But I am giving some toys to the needy children on Gather. I bought a lot after Christmas last year at really cheap prices. ALso I am having some contests for Gather folks to win for their children. No money do they have to put out. I feel like God is telling me to do this. When we were broke people helped us. Now it is our turn. Huggies.annmarie
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 1:56pm EDT
Darlin', I have no problem with anyone soliciting for charitable causes other than themselves.

Smoochies,

E3
Ruthi C. Oct 19, 2009, 1:44pm EDT
Charity is a good thing and yes, sometimes a thankless thing, but giving without expectations is the best thing.
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Solskin Iam Oct 17, 2009, 3:46pm EDT
really good article written in your usual entertaining style............ er....... do your lips get sore from all the smooching?????? lol lol lol
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 5:20pm EDT
Sols, it's like this. After lots of smooching if I relax a bit, maybe eat a sandwich, then I find at some point I'm ready to go again - my lips spring forward, stiffen, and are ready to deliver even more smoochies!

Now - are ya sorry ya asked?

Smoochies anyway,

E3
Solskin Iam Oct 17, 2009, 5:29pm EDT
nah......not sorry.....lol

smooch lol
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 5:35pm EDT
You have style, ya know! Nothing flaccid about your personality at all!

Smoochies,

E3
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Eric T. Oct 17, 2009, 5:00pm EDT
Ed, thanks for the insights. I used to post all the time, but don't do as much anymore, since I haven't been moved to do so. When you put something up here, hell anywhere, you have to be REAL fired up about it. And I know there is a lot of heart that goes into your work, which is also why, in my humble opinion you get a lot of views, comments, and etc.

So having said all that, the next post better outdo your azz being on fire from the hot-hot wings, or the $50 gift card you got to stay out of a certain salesperson's section. Just kidding!
Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 5:22pm EDT
Eric, I have fun here and there are a lot of good people on Gather. Also gives me a chance to try out ideas, I love that aspect of it and the interactions with everyone.

You know, with the holidays comin' up, wonder if I can slip another $50 gift card off that lady salesperson again?

E3
Eric T. Oct 18, 2009, 12:09am EDT
You know, with the holidays comin' up, wonder if I can slip another $50 gift card off that lady salesperson again?

DO IT!!! That is ALL I have to say about the matter. Tell her Eric sent you. If she is puzzled by that rationale, it should give her all the more reason to do it!!!
Ed Williams Oct 18, 2009, 6:32am EDT
It makes perfect sense to me, my man. Funny thing is, I do have to drop by that mall soon....

You're a bad influence!

E3
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Ed Williams Oct 17, 2009, 9:29pm EDT
This doesn't have a damn thing to do with anything in this article, but my Georgia Tech Yellow Jackets whipped the Virginia Tech Hokies 28 - 23 tonight - life is grande!

E3
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Steph-in-NE ..... Oct 18, 2009, 1:23am EDT
Oh Ed I just reply to you to get my smoochies
I cant go without my smoochies from you,,,:P
LOL