by Effervescent Mystique
Member since:
July 15, 2009

Never Too OLD to Be OVERLOOKED

October 24, 2009 01:07 PM UTC
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Do you feel like the recent interest in Courgars is just yet another vanity stage for women to try and attain in life?

What I mean is, we women already have several things we compare ourselves to throughout our lives, our inadequacies over our looks, weight, intelligence.

Do you feel that the COUGAR phase, where you're an older woman seeking younger men, is just another one of those things that we women are made to strive for and feel inadequate about? As in still maintaining a sexiness society approves of into our 40s, 50s, 60s, etc... Made to worry about the same things we did when we were younger?

Comments: 40

Angel sent from God Secret Sisters Oct 24, 2009, 1:08pm UTC
Nope , I ll stick with what I have !! Those young guys too imature.
Effervescent Mystique Oct 24, 2009, 1:11pm UTC
i agree, my yeti is already too immature and if i go any younger, i'd really be robbing someone's cradle
Sensational Sadie Sexy Senior Sitizen Oct 24, 2009, 1:11pm UTC
I know many women feel the need to affirm that they are still attractive after a divorce. I myself went through that at age 45, but I don't really think most women want a man 20-30 years younger. As for seeing an older woman in the company of a younger man, I guess I always wonder if he's in it for the monetary part of it. That is sad. If there is a true relationship then a woman need not worry what others think.

PS I hate labels like Cougars
Effervescent Mystique Oct 24, 2009, 1:12pm UTC
i wonder about the money part too
Effervescent Mystique Oct 24, 2009, 1:20pm UTC
i wonder about the money part when i see older men w/ younger women too
Tanzanite S. Oct 24, 2009, 2:20pm UTC
Well in some parts of the world there is no wondering. Just spend some time around some tourist areas in Bangkok and it is obvious. I've actually heard some of the old geezers walking with a very young woman complaining about the amount of money they are asking for.
amy r. Oct 24, 2009, 1:32pm UTC
Its all subjective. If I find somebody younger and I click when them, great. If not and they are older, that's great too. I do feel that once you get in your thirties age is only a number.
Elizabeth Ann R. Oct 26, 2009, 5:29am UTC
Absolutely.
Roger B. Oct 24, 2009, 1:39pm UTC
From this guy's point of view, I've always admired women of all ages and certainly not just for their physical attributes. This "Cougar" thing is just another figment of some writers imagination and propagated by Hollywood, the fashion industry and plastic surgeons, all chasing that second condo down in the Keys or Hawaii.

Young guys have always fantasized about an older woman (mother fixation?) but until the movies and TV shows got their hands on it, usually that's as far as it went. Now, as you said Amy, a good many (single) women in their 40's, 50's and even 60's are under great pressure to look and act like a 20-25 year old "FOX". Unfortunately, it's usually at the expense of a beautiful personality.

My thoughts anyway.
-R.
Effervescent Mystique Oct 24, 2009, 1:54pm UTC
GREAT comments, great thoughts and accurate points
libramoon .. Oct 24, 2009, 2:27pm UTC
It is upsetting to me that women still see ourselves as primarily sexual objects.
Linda T. Oct 24, 2009, 5:33pm UTC
I find labeling older woman who like younger men as Cougars a bit disturbing. If people are interested in each other age should not be a factor. I am sure for some woman liking younger men is a way of still feeling youthful but it is not the case with everyone. I know some older woman who claim men their age are not attentive to them while a younger man is. Another reason is that some older men do not have the energy to participate in the things a younger man would.

If I was not married and a younger man showed an interest in me I would be flattered but unless we shared many common interests I would not pursue a relationship. A fling maybe.
Dexter S. Oct 25, 2009, 12:10am UTC
I repeat my question above here too
Linda T. Oct 25, 2009, 8:53pm UTC
I have no problem with older men dating younger women. In either case I think if the age gap is too large the couple may have a lack of common interests. Is there a name for men who date younger girls? I can not think of one off hand but there must be.
Elizabeth Ann R. Oct 26, 2009, 5:31am UTC
I am glad to learn that I am not the only woman who is concerned about calling the older woman a Cougar. Where did they come up with this concept.

An older man with a younger woman is a "sugar daddy." If women with younger men are Cougars, what should the men be called? They need a new name.
Linda T. Oct 26, 2009, 3:10pm UTC
Thank you. I could not remember the term "sugar daddy" and it was driving me crazy.
RedBird. B. Oct 24, 2009, 6:38pm UTC
Not Me! I Love to Bake, and "What Man doesn't like to Eat? :)
Barbara G. Oct 24, 2009, 8:02pm UTC
When I got divorced, I was in my late 30's. All the young guys were the ones who were all over me. The older guys were after the younger girls. I always laugh.....if you look at some homely rock stars with beautiful younger women, you know the only reason she's with him is for the fame and fortune. If he wasn't who he was and he was just your average Joe, she'd never look at him. Sometimes there's trade offs in life!
Debra H. Oct 24, 2009, 10:21pm UTC
Ha ha ha my hubby is 14 years older than me and I can't keep up with him I couldn't handle a younger man - I must be a toothless cougar LOL
Effervescent Mystique Oct 25, 2009, 1:20am UTC
LOL, sweetD, tooo funny
Janell R. Oct 24, 2009, 10:41pm UTC
Younger men - umm, not so much.
Risa G. Oct 24, 2009, 11:21pm UTC
Nope, I'd never go out with someone that much younger than I am. We'd have nothing in common. Men at that young age are so immature. I'll stick with my hubby of 20 years who is 10 years my elder. He may be chubby, but he is so intelligent and funny and makes my life so wonderful every day. I wouldn't screw it up for someone half his age and immature.
Dexter S. Oct 25, 2009, 12:14am UTC
I think you old gals should have all the young men you want.. then you would appreaciate us old geezers a little more.. besides, get your cookies from them and leave us alone.... AND.. why are you soo accepting of older women with young men , but then get pissed off when a old man ends up with his grandaughters best friend!
Effervescent Mystique Oct 25, 2009, 1:19am UTC

LOL!!!!!!!!
Loretta E. Oct 25, 2009, 12:17am UTC
I really don't know about this one Amy. I have never gone out with someone younger than me, but my father was 7 yrs younger than my mother and I never really saw any difference between them. I guess it depends on how many years there is between them. My oldest daughter has gone out with someone who was a few years younger than her,but in my opinion he was immature and she needed someone who was older since she has 2 children and doesn't need a third. On the other hand my oldest son girlfriend is older than him by 4 yrs, but I don't see an age difference, so I have no idea on what to say on how I feel, I guess it depends on the person and how much of an age difference and if there are children involved
Katharyne T. Oct 25, 2009, 2:00am UTC
I dont know if I can ever do the Demi thing.. younger guys ask me out alot, but it isnt my thing.. I like guys who are mature and inteligent.. dont want some nutty party animal just going through the motions
Carrie Marie P. Oct 25, 2009, 3:02am UTC
I dunno really.... I have always thought as women age, their sexual experience is greater, they are more comfortable with their body and more calm and easy going.... all good things for a man of any age.
I've been in relationships with much older men, younger men and women... there are perks to every one of them.
And, money wasn't an issue for me with my older man.... his charm and kindness was what did it for me.
Beth J. Nov 6, 2009, 9:24pm UTC
Thanks for sharing on Getting to 3000 Together

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