I am so sick and tired of this world's entitlement issues...manly women make me sick!! I happen to know a little secret to a successful and happy life...that is that I fall under the leadership of my husband...he pays the bills, he makes the final decision on everything...clothes my children wear, and even clothes I wear...it's not control...He is not controlling, nor is he abusive...nor did he ask to be put in the position he is in...
I humbly fall under his leadership because that is what God calls me to do...and I am glad that I have that safe-net because come judgement day the men in our homes have to answer for their families and I just don't want that responsibility...
I want my man to be a man...and taking the head of the house responsibilities away from them is like taking away their man area...
I went by a tombstone the other day with a friend and it read "wife of 'so and so'" and she said "Ugh, I hate that, women were looked at as property" I don't see it like that...I hope that when I die my tomb stone says "wife of Michael Ellington" because I am his wife and I pride myself in being his wife!
I do not want to run my family all by myself, I do not want to make the decisions for our home, I wasn't built to do that, I wasn't created to do that...I was created to be Mike's helper...his equal...but in the end it is he who has to be held accountable and I am thankful for that...
God gave him the ability to make decisions based on facts because he's not emotional like I am...he has the ability to make the best decisions...and I am thankful for that!
I wish that more women honed in on this amazing ability the men in our lives possess...it makes life so much more easy!!
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I lived without a man for ten years, supported myself, paid my bills, bought my own food and took vacations wherever and whenever I wanted. I didn't want a man in my life (had one at as a teen and got rid of him as a teen)...so waited till my late 20's before I decided I was ok with sharing my life with another man...nd the keyword is Sharing.
If the ol' man died tomorrow, I would not be one of those women who wouldn't know how to take care of myself...I wouldn't even go look for another man to take care of me.
And a man tell me wht to wear? I take a heavy frying pan to his head he ever tell me what to wear. I pay for my own clothing....no man is my master...and my husband knows that.
I go on vacations without him. I go out without him. We both have our own interests and that is how we like it. If I had to be with him constantly, I go nuts because he can get on my nerves at time with his talk about fishing and hunting constantly.
We share our times together of course....but never, never, ever would he tell me what to do.
and we been married for over 20 years...happily.
we been through cancer, deaths, poverty and being homeless...but our love has always gotten us through those times.....we shared them....
so sorry....must really disagree.
Take it from someone who had a husband that did all what you said above...and ended up in the hospital the first time she disagreed.
Even thou the bible states the man is head of household, I really don't think God will fault a husband or wife who make a marriage work where the wife is in charge instead. depe on certain circumstances.
Like I said, if it works for you,it works for you. Personally, I find it repulsive.
Whether you believe it's a God appointed position or not, let's face it: Too many men have dropped the ball. These days, a large portion of women are the head of their households, anyway. Should they remarry, their husbands must realize that fact, and adjustments have to be made in how the household is run. The days of 'my way or the highway' are done.
And the above is nothing against you, Jenysie. The fact that you have a loving and understanding relationship that works for you is a blessing. It's just that not all are under the same circumstances.
no one person in a family unit should be given the incredible task of making all decisions. that does not make a family; it makes a business.
if god didn't want women to make decisions, he wouldn't have given us a brain. he never intended for women to only have babies & make dinner.
I don't know who raised you to put the entire burden on "a man..." but what you're saying sounds exactly like it.
Now, just for the sake of argument? What happens if your God "takes" the father of your children? Remember, you believe in the God of Abraham, who told him to take his child into the forest (wilderness) and kill him.
Do you pull a Tammy, or a Faye? PRAY for the next in line to take over the raising of your kids? Can you NOT do it alone?
Or do you step up to the plate? And be a REAL mom?
Jes' offering up a thing to think about.
Wilka
when he tried to control where i could go and who i could talk to, that was when i left as i was not his property to control. it's people with this view point who feel that women should be subservient to their men folk that made him think he could get away with that kind of thing.
not a foot bone, that woman grovel at his feet,
not a bone from the crown of his head that woman be above him,
but a bone from his side that they be side by side as equals.