A Dibble, A Dabble, A Midnight Babble

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Webbie Fades to Black Oct 2, 2009, 2:27am EDT

Just so ya know...I hate fall too. And you have really good friends to lean on when the time comes. ((WARM Hugs))

Ina ♥ Tagline Free Since September '09 ♥ Oct 2, 2009, 10:25am EDT

Webbie!!

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Marianne R. Oct 2, 2009, 5:47am EDT

There are one or two people here on Gather who I think are freaking morons. And because I think that, you could say they get on my last nerve when and if I notice them. I don't connect to individuals that really irk me. So most of the time I don't know these people exist. Ihave no clue who you're referring to though since I don't know anyone with multiple accounts except for a secondary pet account.

I love Fall. Even when I lived in the Northeast, I loved the Fall. The leaves were prettier up there too.

I haven't lost a parent yet. So it's difficult for me to relate to exactly how you feel.

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elizabeth e. Oct 2, 2009, 7:50am EDT

Oh Vicky, it is just so hard to lose a loved one and two in a year is devastating. I guess it's that time in our lives....I seem to be saying good-bye to many of the people of my childhood. We are now the older generation. I can't imagine losing either one of my two sisters...but Fran is 67 and Anne 65. Both are in good health...but you know, as I do...at this point you can lose someone fairly fast.

Vicky Duggins Oct 2, 2009, 10:02am EDT

Bob, I shopped last night online at Macy's for a nice black dress with 3/4 or long sleeves and some low heel black shoes. In this little town, such can't usually be found at the last minute. I told myself it's my "winter services dress" because I have a short sleeved one for milder weather. I'm not admitting to myself what I may need it for. And you're so right, being our ages, then throwing car accidents and so forth in the mix it's a wonder any of us survive. Oh, yeah, we don't!

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d d. Oct 2, 2009, 8:05am EDT

Vicky, your last paragraph spoke so loud. I am sorry and feel your pain. I lost my parents, grandparents, uncles to cancer. I do not have any words of wisdom. I know how much it hurts that we can't help them, can't save them. I'm sending you hugs and support. I hope your sister is not in too much pain. thinking of you this morning.

Vicky Duggins Oct 2, 2009, 10:06am EDT

Right now at least, d.d., she's not in much pain, but she's very frustrated and getting very depressed. She wants to live so much, and she's been dealing with cancer for 8 years now. Thanks for the kind thoughts.

d d. Oct 2, 2009, 10:43am EDT

She should live then. Live with unbridle passion and freedom.
I had told my son's ped. doctor that my mother wanted her computer brought home, so that she could work at home.. He told me "no one ever says "I should have worked more hours".. People often say "I should have traveled, I should have danced..." He told me don't get the computer today for my mom, get it tomorrow..."she doesn't need to work, she needs to rest." My mother died the next morning. He was right... Your sister may live 10, 20 more years, but she should live it to her "capable" fullest. Praying for all of you.

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Heather C. Oct 2, 2009, 9:00am EDT

I am so sorry you are going through this. I know how tough it can be. My Dad was fighting leukemia when he passed away from a stroke. All I can say is after watching how he struggled and all he went through, I know he is happier where he now is, with my mother and out of all that pain.

Vicky Duggins Oct 2, 2009, 10:07am EDT

Thanks, Heather. I lost my Mom and Dad to cancer, too. I say, thank God for hospice, they were wonderful.

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Peter Joseph Swanson Oct 2, 2009, 9:05am EDT

Yes: I must try to avoid a certain few Gather members or I might display bad manners (again). ha ha ....

Holiday Decorations are so tacky looking unless they look classical, I think.

Sorry about your sister. Sad. That sounds awful. I hope they soon find a treatment that is effective !!!

Vicky Duggins Oct 2, 2009, 10:11am EDT

Hi PJS... As a hobby lately, or because I like to distract myself with distatefulness, I go to her articles, and yes, sometimes I find myself acting badly.

Thanks for the kind thoughts.

Peter Joseph Swanson Oct 2, 2009, 5:24pm EDT

You're brave !!!

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sharon SugarMomma is a wise woman, Oct 2, 2009, 9:27am EDT

You can, because you must. You have a wonderful husband and beautiful children who need you. Your sister needs you now. Sure she needs your love, but more than that she needs your strength and you have tons of that.

I send you power and blessings my friend.

Vicky Duggins Oct 2, 2009, 10:13am EDT

sharon, thank you so much for the blessings and the power. I have a feeling I'm going to needs lots of both in the weeks and months to come.

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robin remes Oct 2, 2009, 10:25am EDT

Sharon, having hospice is good for the family. My dad said it helped him after mom died. My husband died a year after Dad. Hospice really helped us to focus on the future. It helped my husband with the intense pain. Even morphine did not help. He was able to have familiar caregivers in the nursing home and in the hospice hospital, the last week. It did him good to listen to their problems and to help them, yet not think about himself.

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Ina ♥ Tagline Free Since September '09 ♥ Oct 2, 2009, 10:28am EDT

You know how I feel. I'm so, so sorry. You'll find your strength when you need it, as you know.

And you can always lean on me when the need arises.

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flit . Oct 2, 2009, 10:35am EDT

I can't imagine - but I have faith that you will do everything you can to support her - and that you will get through it

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Kris M. Oct 2, 2009, 10:36am EDT

Sometimes when I feel terrible, it seems to do me good to come here and kick the really stupid, bigoted, backward people who get on my nerves. If making people like that uncomfortable is wrong, I'm not sure I wanna be right.

I'm so sorry about your sister.

sharon SugarMomma is a wise woman, Oct 6, 2009, 6:03pm EDT

I do that also. I'm here to share my flu with them or barf on them depending on how sick they make me feel.

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Monica H. Oct 2, 2009, 12:21pm EDT

Yeah, it's painful, but you can get through it all Vicky. You have many friends/family that love you dearly.

I'm here if you need me.......any time day or night. You know that.

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Ishbel R. Oct 2, 2009, 2:06pm EDT

So sorry to hear the news that your sister is less well - I've lost a brother, father, mother to cancer - and my sister had it, too - but hopefully, has beaten it.

I'm sending out strong thoughts for you, Vicky.

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