by Esther IS Flesh and Blood S.
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May 8, 2007

Sexy Question of the Day

September 16, 2009 07:46 PM EDT (Updated: September 16, 2009 08:30 PM EDT)
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Do YOU think that you could live in a loveless relationship or marriage?  For how long?  Would you stay in it for your children?  For your pets?  For the sake of keeping the family and property together?

Let's discuss.
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Comments: 46

Kelly Kay Sep 16, 2009, 7:48pm EDT
Been there, tried it, left. =)
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:30pm EDT
Sorry this happened to you Kelly Kay. I hope things are better for you now.
Vivian P. Sep 16, 2009, 7:50pm EDT
depends what about respect isn't it more important in the long run
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:31pm EDT
There is respect and mutual friendship and caring but without love...
penni d. Sep 16, 2009, 9:36pm EDT
It is nice to have respect and friendship, but without love while living together tends to make some feel dead inside. Id' rather live alone than without all that goes with love.
Netty B. Sep 16, 2009, 7:52pm EDT
nope, life is too short
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:31pm EDT
That it is my friend. That it is.
Donna Besso Sep 16, 2009, 7:53pm EDT
Been there, done that and have a couple of T-Shirts.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:32pm EDT
Too bad this happened to you too Donna. What a shame. Hope things are better for you now.
Lesli B. Sep 26, 2009, 12:57am EDT
Hey, I've got one of those T-shirts too.
George Shaw Sep 16, 2009, 7:56pm EDT
Probably not.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:33pm EDT
What are your reasons George?
Vivian P. Sep 16, 2009, 7:57pm EDT
depends on the definition of Love here if we're talking Hollywood float on the air sweaty palms. That only really last about a year or maybe more. But if we're talking love as in a strong bond, woven with respect ? Then no it would be impossible to live with someone I didn't respect /love
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:34pm EDT
No Vivian real love. The kind that rocks your entire world. The kind of love that you want to live and breathe each and every day.

There is respect and love but not romantic love and without romantic love, feel there is no love at all.
Bunny B. Sep 16, 2009, 8:01pm EDT
Nah, I'd be gone.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:34pm EDT
Why would you be gone Denny??
Bunny B. Sep 17, 2009, 9:40am EDT
A relationship/marriage requires love. Why stay where there is no love. If he or she is not the one, then the one must be out there. You can never find him or her if you stay in the loveless relationship.

Even if kids were involved, they would be smart enough to see that there was no love and maybe it could develop a mental block to marriage for them.
Spencer T. Sep 16, 2009, 8:11pm EDT
No way. NOT for children, pets, relatives, property or for any reason. Been there and couldn't deal with it.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:35pm EDT
I must say that it is a difficult thing. Much too difficult to contemplate too much longer...
Lisa Frost Sep 16, 2009, 8:15pm EDT
There is no good reason to stay in a loveless relationship. I would not do it.
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:36pm EDT
Thanks Lisa. A woman of reason.
Marianne R. Sep 16, 2009, 8:19pm EDT
No way
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:36pm EDT
Thanks Marianne.
Nancy * Sep 16, 2009, 8:34pm EDT
no
Esther IS Flesh and Blood S. Sep 16, 2009, 8:36pm EDT
Thanks Nancy.
Larry H. Sep 16, 2009, 8:56pm EDT
I stand on the fifth. I grew up in a loveless childhood. doesn't sound like it would be much different..
Melanie S. Sep 16, 2009, 9:01pm EDT
Nope, not for long. Been there, done that, couldn't survive.
Duffy E. Sep 16, 2009, 9:03pm EDT
Some times you wind up doing things for reasons that are bigger than yourself. It is obviously not very satisfying, and although i struggle daily with the "Life is Too Short" argument, in certain cases, ya just gotta suck it up and think of others. That certainly sounds "martyrial", doesn't it?
Harper S. Sep 16, 2009, 9:08pm EDT
not for long, no. For me love ebbs and flows somewhat. But once it is totally gone so am I.
Danielle P. Sep 16, 2009, 9:15pm EDT
I thought I could, I tried for the kids........wanted to go to counseling and see if it could be brought back to life for me, he committed suicide instead.
Danielle P. Sep 16, 2009, 9:18pm EDT
I always told my friends that life is too short and if you are not happy then you should leave. I'm not sure about that one anymore. Life is too short but there are a lot of other factors involved. I would bring back my children's father if I could....I'd probably stay if I had to do it over again if it would have spared my children the pain of losing their Dad to suicide.........there were deeper problems but it's hard. It's been 3 years now and we're doing pretty good considering all that happened.
Denise B. Sep 16, 2009, 9:43pm EDT
love, respect and "Romantic love" are needed for a relationsship to last - unless you are content to not rock the boat and just keep playing along it will fall apart eventually due to resentment and the fact that you would always be looking for that someone who could "rock your world"
Dawn (a kitty-kin on the wall) Sep 16, 2009, 10:31pm EDT
I've been in loveless relationships before.
never been married.
can't have children.


no, I'd be gone
Cheryl W. Sep 16, 2009, 10:41pm EDT
I have to say there is nothing...absolutely nothing like that romantic, rock your world kind of love...where you feel you are so entwined you are truly a part of each other. To live without that after having experienced it would be very very difficult. I might stick around for the children as long as the relationship was otherwise healthy....but once the kids were gone, I don't think I would be able to hang any longer. I don't think it would be fair to anyone involved.
Dawn (a kitty-kin on the wall) Sep 16, 2009, 10:43pm EDT
I agree cheryl. being entwined is beautiful
Dawn (a kitty-kin on the wall) Sep 16, 2009, 10:43pm EDT
after two loveless relationships in the past, I'd leave now.
Clifford N. Sep 16, 2009, 10:44pm EDT
Marriage should not be entered into by people unless they know enough about one another to prevent this from happening BUT we are all human and make mistakes for many different reasons.

One should not judge anothers situation unless they know all the details. Love and commitment cause different reactions in people. Sexuality is a strong force but is subjective.

Every person must deal with their own circumstance with the best wisdom and compassionate respect possible. Only you can decide.
Elizabeth O. Sep 18, 2009, 12:12am EDT
Exactly!
Edward W. Sep 17, 2009, 2:26am EDT
If it were marriage, I would likely do my best to stay with it.

This is actually a major factor in my not getting married. Considering how many married couples go through divorce, the prospect has made me too uncomfortable with the prospect of winding up with the wrong wife.

In answer to the question, of course I would live in the relationship - that would be better than suicide.
michael reisman Sep 17, 2009, 4:54pm EDT
A loveless relationship has no where to go. It will not benefit the kids or pets whether you are single or married. What you and your partner do not feel, so will all else.
Carrie Marie P. Sep 17, 2009, 5:18pm EDT
This really is dependent on the situation.
Barbara G. Sep 17, 2009, 8:37pm EDT
Nope......that's a platonic relationship. I have friends for that. The person you want to spend the rest of your life with should be your friend AND your lover!
Elizabeth O. Sep 17, 2009, 9:32pm EDT
People do a lot of things for the sake of their children that they wouldn't normally do, since the children should always come first. But, everything has an expiration date.
Duffy E. Sep 17, 2009, 10:29pm EDT
true dat.
Heather C. Sep 18, 2009, 1:19am EDT
I have been married twice. After the first time around I learned if someone doesn't love you and doesn't want to be with you, ....to remember the line, don't let the door hit you on the behind on the way out. I will never go through what I went through believing my marriage vows meant for better or worse and wanting my children to have a father....he didn't love me and spent most of the marriage in another state living with his boyfriend.

It is no life to be with someone who doesn't want to be there.
kara t Sep 29, 2009, 6:45pm EDT
No, it sucks.

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