My fifteen year old, is a doll. She loves me and I her. She just has one problem. She as many of you know was adopted, and likes the night. She's like a wolf child. I did another article about her being feral. She roams the night. She first left the house that I know of when she was nine. She broke into a neighbors house at 5 am and went through their dog door. She wanted to sleep with their dogs. She's gone out four or five times since.
I have to sleep with my car keys, alarm the house, alarm and lock the windows. I keep phones with me under my pillow. I'm sick of living like this. The police brought her home once at 3:30 am. She tells me she likes the night. It's so dangerous.
I don't know what else to do. She's tricky, and if I let me guard down, she's out. As a baby before I got her there are police reports of her roaming the night and being picked up by the police as little as 18 months old.
Her parents would tie her in bed with duct tape. Horrible? Now, I know why. Of course they were drunk and stoned, but I am asleep in my bed as most people are at 3 am and she's out roaming.
So now, my home is a prison. She seems happy with the restrictions, but I am not.
Thanks for listening.
Yes, she's in therapy and has been since I've gotten her. No one really helps, and as she gets older, I get more terrified for her.
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My fifteen year old, is a doll
wandering not only the 'hood but now the whole city....
I sure hope that picture is not her?
Exposing such things in public might just put her into a mental break down, if and when she finds out.
I too roamed the streets at night time. It was less chaotic at night. Peaceful, quiet. Yes I was brought home by the cops many times. Some of them even got used to me being out.
I have one child who does this as well. Do I worry? Of course I do, but he is a adult now. When a child I understood the need for order in the house hold. For the control the child needed, and his brothers are better off for the learning experience I gained through my oldest.
Mental health issue , sure it is. To fight against the tide one will find out they will loose every time. I quit fighting, as my parents did. Learning to go with the flow will gain you the inner peace you are striving for, instead of fighting every inch of the way.
This is, it sounds how your child is.
Adopted , sure if this is such a big issue (if it were not why mention it?) this could be the root of such problems? One child is the "good" child, the other is the bad child. This could be the issue? I was the "bad" child. This created huge issues and consequently made my need to be alone, at night time so overwhelming that I only grew out of it when I myself had children.
No child is good or bad. This child might be so different then you, you may not have the tools to deal. Not only one in this situation needs counsel. It sounds like a whole family that could use counseling. A piece to the puzzle is missing here.
Using such words as you have about this loving girl makes me wonder, I am sure others wonder. You just might be dealing with a very inelegant child who has not had the correct teaching on how to deal with her emotions.
She has your attention right? Any attention is better then no attention. Some kids need a lot of attention and will get it in any manor they can, even bad attention is better then none. As far as your parental capabilities this might not have anything to do with you being a good or bad parent. It might just be a mental health issue.
Good luck to you. We choose how to life and sometimes we do not realize what road we are taking might just be a self harming road........
Its rough but you just have to hang in there!!!
They just get worse sorry !!! What you can do is sleep next to her door so she can not sneak out...
I was a night wanderer too. I found the nights to be more peaceful and less distracting. I functioned better at night than I did during the day. I used to get in my car and go for long rides every night because it soothed me.
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