this way everyone wins....(a repost because you didn't read it the first time.)

we don't argue often but when we do all hell breaks loose!  on this particular

evening all of the signs of a potential blow out were there.  he slammed the

car door, back door and his keys on the counter.  he then proceeded to take

his bad day out on the cat, fridge door and me.  nothing i had done that day

was up to his standards.  then he started in on the things i'd failed to do.  the

dry cleaning was still here but that last slice of pie he was saving for dessert

was gone.  the television volume was turned up too high and the heat was

turned down too low.  the mailbox was full of bills and his pockets were

empty.  had i really talked to my cousin, long distance, for over an hour?  the

kitchen sink was full.  and so was the laundry basket, kitty litter box and

microwave.  leftovers again?  after he ranted and threw things around for 20

minutes i had had enough.  i know he loves me and that this madness was

the result of a bad day at the office but im a good wife and mother and didn't

deserve this.  not this day.  i wanted this whole episode to end but without

adding any more fuel to the fire so i had to choose my words carefully.  as he

continued to insult my ability to keep house, i took a deep breath,

looked him straight in the eyes and said,

"does this mean we're not having sex later?"

he looked at me, closed his mouth and walked away.

the original post can be found here.