by anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c.
Member since:
October 9, 2007

I am about to give up

September 10, 2009 01:18 PM EDT
views: 117 | rating: 10/10 (12 votes) | comments: 42

I am having major issues with brayden eating at his school. Today they had a hot dog in bun, with apples and chips, and juice.  I know for a fact that he loves all these. 

Well he came off the bus today and told me he was hungry.  I asked him why.  He told me he did not eat because there was no ketchup for the hot dog. I am not sure what to make of that.  I know most schools have ketchup.  I remember ketchup being in my schoool.  Now it is possible they don't have ketchup there because they are pre k, but I have no clue.

I am wondering if I should pack him a lunch.  The only thing it could be is that is just too early for him to eat at that time.  They feed them lunch at 10:45 am, so I am wondering if that comes in to play.

 

The last two days I have been feeding him lunch at home when he gets off the bus.  I decided today taht I was not going to do that.  I did not let him starve, but I am clueless what to do.  I am worried if I keep feeding him when he gets home, then he won't ever eat lunch. 

Also the rule in my house is you eat what is put in front of you.  I was a very picky eater growing up, and my parents  got to the point they would let me eat what ever I wanted.  I don't expect the plate to be clean, but I at least expect them to try it. 

I have sent a note to his teacher to ask what to do.  If she says to pack him a lunch  I will. 

Has anyone out there gone through this? if so what did you do? I am about to give up and just cave.  I don't want the poor kid to go hungry but I don't want him coming home thinking he can eat here either...

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Comments: 42

Monica H. Sep 10, 2009, 1:24pm EDT
It does sounds like they feed them lunch kind of early. Maybe just feeding him a light breakfast will help.

My daughter is a really good eater so far, so she just eats whatever they have. I may come into this issue when my son gets into kindergarten though. He's kind of picky.
anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Sep 10, 2009, 1:28pm EDT
i give him a multi grain bar for breakfeast, should I maybe not even feed him that? I know there is also a snack in there too, i think 9 but don't hold me to that
Monica H. Sep 10, 2009, 1:45pm EDT
I wouldn't worry to much about his eating. He will eat if he gets hungry. If it was me, I would go ahead and give the bar for breakfast, and when he gets home from school give him a healthy snack if he's hungry. His body will have him eat when he gets hungry enough. Toddlers can just be picky sometimes.
Monica H. Sep 10, 2009, 1:24pm EDT
My daughter school serves the kindergartners at 11:30.
Vivian P. Sep 10, 2009, 1:32pm EDT
each and every child is different . Maybe he just isn't hungry that early and you could try giving him a smaller breakfast. But don't teach him to eat when he isn't hungry.
My grandson who is picky learned to eat what was offered, because he got hungry.
BTW My little brother wouldn't use the bathrooms at school when he first started. I remember his dancing all the way home. Maybe he just like to eat at home.
Linda B. Sep 10, 2009, 1:48pm EDT
Yes...my son eventually taught himself to hold his bowel movements until he got home. He would get off the bus at 3:30 and hit the bathroom for 20 minutes....and only then would he call me to let me know he was home.

anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Sep 10, 2009, 1:50pm EDT
if he only likes eating at home would he like to eat out at resturant? or is that diffenet because i am with him??
Linda B. Sep 11, 2009, 10:18pm EDT
I bet that would be an adventure rather than a chore because Mom is there.
Danielle P. Sep 10, 2009, 1:33pm EDT
My son is very picky but I learned he eats what they give him. I volunteered as lunch mom last two years and it's very nice to see what he eats at school but won't for me....now he eats what I give him.
I'd say give him lunch or a snack after school. If he gets hungry enough he will eat in school. Kids won't starve themselves that's for sure. I'd also take my cues from his teacher.
Marsha S. Sep 10, 2009, 1:36pm EDT
I would call the school to ask if ketchup was provided
I'm sure all school all over are different, but we gave ketchup to the Headstart kids...no mustard though.
Linda B. Sep 11, 2009, 10:21pm EDT
Ketchup 'counts' as a 'vegetable' according to the nutrition charts used by our school system.
Angela <:3---}~~~~ M. Sep 10, 2009, 1:39pm EDT
My son would not touch a hot dog if there was no ketchup, is there a way to ask the school cafeteria about possibly seeing if he can get ketchup on it on hot dog day, I had a chat with my school when my son was young and they started providing it for the kids when they ask for it. Ketchup is actually considered a healthy condiment so they may be willing to honor your request
anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Sep 10, 2009, 1:48pm EDT
thanks I will ask her and see what they can do.. I have no clue why all of sudden he is being so picky
Linda B. Sep 10, 2009, 1:50pm EDT
If he's in kindergarten, he's got a LOT of changes to cope with, most of which he has absolutely no control over. Becoming a picky eater is not that unusual--and certainly understandable.
Linda B. Sep 10, 2009, 1:51pm EDT
But it is also something to nip in the bud now....it can later lead to an eating disorder if mishandled. (Wise woman that you are, he will be fine.)
Solskin Iam Sep 10, 2009, 1:42pm EDT
like danielle said......he will eat if he is hungry...... so many kids to feed that lunch times start very early......when he wasn't going to school what time did he eat lunch???
anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Sep 10, 2009, 2:08pm EDT
last year when he was in his co-op preschool he at about 12:45, but normally between and 11-11:30ish
I would pack a lunch for him.
Monica H. Sep 10, 2009, 1:46pm EDT
This would be a good option too.
anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Sep 10, 2009, 2:03pm EDT
i am going to see if I can
d d. Sep 10, 2009, 1:57pm EDT
Did you ask him if he asked for "ketchup"? poor thing...he must be starving when he gets home.
anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Sep 10, 2009, 2:02pm EDT
i have a note out to his teacher I am thinking I am going to have to start making him lunch, i am really clueless on what to do. I know he LOVES hot dogs, i can't image why they would not have giving him ketchup. I am thinking about maybe giving him something really small in the morning so he will eat there. I am really getting worried about this. I did give him a snack after school, but I have no clue what is the right thing todo for him... he is a great kid and this is unlike him the kid can eat 6 chicken nuggets in one sitting... there has to be more then what i am hearing from him
d d. Sep 10, 2009, 3:10pm EDT
does he skip off the bus?
anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Sep 10, 2009, 3:12pm EDT
what do you mean skip? he is happy about riding it and getting off he is chatting with me a mile a min. I asked him if he asked for and the teacher told him they did not have it.. also he did not eat the popcorn chicken cause they did not have bbq sauce
d d. Sep 10, 2009, 3:21pm EDT
poor thing. I had meant skip skip, skip to my lou... my son use to skip when he was happy. I miss that... only little kids "skip". I'm scared, what are they serving tomorrow? you might have to supply the condiments in his bag. :) You would think they would have those individual ketchup and mustard type add ins.
Howard b. Sep 10, 2009, 2:02pm EDT
I have no answer for you. Find out what you can from the school and go from there. You have a nice day.
Loretta E. Sep 10, 2009, 2:02pm EDT
Did he asked for ketchup?
anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Sep 10, 2009, 2:06pm EDT
i honestly don't know
Turkey Casserole Sep 10, 2009, 2:20pm EDT
yea sounds like they are feeding the kids too early
David N. Sep 10, 2009, 2:28pm EDT
yup. Give him a granola snack and some chips. Let him eat a little something at home when he gets home. 10:45 am is too early for lunch.. he will get over it by adjusting lunch for some snacks. It won't hurt him to be a little hungry and he wont starve..
David N. Sep 10, 2009, 2:29pm EDT
get him to eat a good breakfast an for sure he can skip that early lunch.
Andrea H. Sep 10, 2009, 3:01pm EDT
That is early for lunch unless he gets up super early and eats early. I would just call the school see if they have ketsup, maybe he did not see it and did not ask for it. I know all the schools here have it but not on the hot dog itself. Maybe he was to shy to ask for it.
there could be so many reasons. I also would ask him did you ask for ketsup and see what he says. I would also ask him if he is hungry when lunch is being served at school if not you may end up having to send a sack snack for him and maybe feed him lunch at home, I also agree with the others that have said giv it some time he will eventually be able to train himself to eat at that time. So you could keep giving him the breakfast bar and the small snack at home and eventually he might get in the habit to eat at school. I also agree with not making him eat when he is not hungry too cause thats how most people learn to over eat. every child is different and your the only one that knows your child well enough to know if any of the things suggested by any of us will work or not. go with your gut your mom you know best. He will be fine I am sure you will handle it just fine.
Elizabeth S. Sep 10, 2009, 3:18pm EDT
That is too early for lunch, but once he gets into the routine, it will be fine. He'll eat if he's hungry.
Years of seeing how much of their lunches kids in elementary school throw away has shown me that few of the kids eat even most of their lunch.
Cathie M. Sep 10, 2009, 3:49pm EDT
That is early to eat. My grandson had an early lunch in kindergarten and he would be so hungry by the time he got home from school at 3:30. I hope you and the teacher can work out something because the child doesn't need to be hungry at school or he won't be able to learn as well. God bless you!
Steph-in-NE ..... Sep 10, 2009, 4:18pm EDT
go to lunch one day,, dont tell him when just surprize him and see what is realy happening
Michelle S. Sep 10, 2009, 5:34pm EDT
it's been 2 days....give it time.

there is probably ketchup in little packets. he may not be able to open it. depending on the number of kids eating at that time; he may not want or have someone he can ask to open the ketchup.
Jenn P. Sep 10, 2009, 8:09pm EDT
hey, I just talked to Josh.. he didnt want a hot dog..but i asked him if other kids had ketchup on theirs.. and he goes no momma.. no ketchup you'll make a mess on the table.. they dont have ketchup!
brittany c. Sep 11, 2009, 2:23am EDT
that is weird! i hope something gives.
my husband is so picky, so i'm really hoping my kids aren't. but who knows?
i love your idea about making them at least try something.
Linda B. Sep 11, 2009, 10:29pm EDT
They're not having hot dogs every day, are they? That would worry me more--if that is the primary protein source being offered, on a daily basis. Our elementary schools are required to send out the monthly menu to parents....is that a rule in your district?
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timi A. Sep 16, 2009, 1:43pm EDT
Like i said, he will change. You can introduce what they eat in school to him at home, though it might take a while for him to accept it, eventually, he will
Jennifer K. Sep 17, 2009, 12:42pm EDT
My son is a very picky eater. He won't eat lunch meat on bread unless it's Jimmy John's or Subway (Thanks to my mother-in-law). If I give him ham for lunch, I just put a few slices in a baggie and make sure he has plenty of other stuff to eat also. You might want to ask Brayden if he'd like for you to pack him a lunch. My daughter will eat almost every hot lunch the school has, so she's my easy eater. Asking the teacher is also a good option. She may have a better idea of what's going on at lunch.

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