by Lona Herling
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September 22, 2008

A Year ago this evening .I will never forget.

August 24, 2009 04:02 PM EDT
views: 108 | comments: 66

One year ago this evening  at 7pm My daughter Pam passed away. Time has gone by so fast and she never  got a proper burial .I'm setting here today  crying  and thinking of how i wished i could have done more and Have  gotten  her husband  to shut his mouth and  give  her a proper burial. but  he  has  a new  gal atready i never see my 2 grandsons  that pam gave birth  to .It really  hurts.

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Comments: 66

*Carol ~Bronx Southern Belle D. Aug 24, 2009, 4:07pm EDT
I grieve with you and for you. Please email me and we can be friends. I'm not kidding. I can't imagine how you suffer.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:16pm EDT
Thank you so much .I just set here and cry and think it should have been me why not me .
DiAnA D. Aug 24, 2009, 4:08pm EDT
i'm so sorry....
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:16pm EDT
Thank you so much its been a very long weekend leading up to today.
*Carol ~Bronx Southern Belle D. Aug 24, 2009, 4:08pm EDT
Did I say, "God bless, you!"
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:17pm EDT
Thank you and god bless you also.
Brenda (square peg in a round hole) H. Aug 24, 2009, 4:10pm EDT
Oh Lona, I am so sorry. Sending a hug your way.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:18pm EDT
Thank you so very much Brenda
Michelle S. Aug 24, 2009, 4:12pm EDT
big hug......
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:19pm EDT
Thank you.
Nora Davenport Aug 24, 2009, 4:14pm EDT
I am so terribly, terribly sorry, Lona.......it is absolutely heartbreaking to lose a loved one (and I've lost so very many)........the emptiness and loneliness never seem to ease up or go away, do they? It's especially sad that you don't get to see your own grandkids.....that would hurt terribly.
Please feel free to ping me or PM me sometime if you'd just like to talk.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:24pm EDT
It really hurts all of it .i could write a book of the feeling not only me bbut my whole family have against her husband the Jerk.
Vivian P. Aug 24, 2009, 4:14pm EDT
Big hugs my love and Prayers are with you
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:22pm EDT
Thank you so much .
Courtney C. Aug 24, 2009, 4:20pm EDT
I'm so sorry to hear that. :(
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:26pm EDT
Thank you so much
Ruthi C. Aug 24, 2009, 4:20pm EDT
HUGs Lona! I am feeling the pain of your loss of your daughter, as well as the loss of contact with your grandbabies. You've every right to cry and vent m'dear! Blessings & a bit o' sunshine!
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:27pm EDT
Thank you so much Ruth.
Carrie Marie P. Aug 24, 2009, 4:23pm EDT
I am so sorry for your loss. Pam is still with you, I'm sure. Talk to her; and I am sure she wouldn't want you to be crying.
~BIG HUGS~
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:29pm EDT
But its so hard not to cry when you feel so hurt
Jenn P. Aug 24, 2009, 4:26pm EDT
I am so sorry..its sad you don't see your grandkids.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:32pm EDT
Yes it is but they know im here if they want to talk but in a year i seen the boys 3 times the last was at cChristmas last year.
Sandra H. Aug 24, 2009, 4:26pm EDT
I am so sorry for your loss, Lona.......Hugs and prayers for you today.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:32pm EDT
Thank you my friend.
Pam S. Aug 24, 2009, 4:35pm EDT
I am so sorry, Lona, I can't believe that it has been a year already. Take care, my friend.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:58pm EDT
Thank you Pam, yes it just doesnt seem possble.I will be ok just hurts.
Marilyn M. Aug 24, 2009, 4:48pm EDT
I'm so sorry, Lona.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 4:59pm EDT
Thank you Marilyn
Elaine S. Aug 24, 2009, 7:04pm EDT
I'm sorry Lona
Many Hugs being sent
Stacey *Mamasaid* D. Aug 24, 2009, 7:48pm EDT
I'm so sorry for your loss and pain, Lona. I'm sure it hurts not to see the grandkids. Sending many prayers and ((hugs)) your way.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 7:50pm EDT
Thank you Elaine.I'm having a hard time trying to consentrate on things today.The whole weekend was that way.
Lona Herling Aug 24, 2009, 7:53pm EDT
Thank you Stacy I guesss a lot of the problem is everybody is working in my family and it just seems like the day has crawled by
Steph-in-NE ..... Aug 24, 2009, 10:07pm EDT
I know it hurts,, it been 16 yr since my sister passed and I still grieve in my own wierd way,,
time will heal wounds,, not mend them totally just heal them to survive, as for the gson keep you part in sending or seeing them as much as psslbe they may all come around...
Steph-in-NE ..... Aug 24, 2009, 10:08pm EDT
I also feel for that family that lost the daughter in lincoln this weekend,, that had to hurt also,,,
Tara C. Sep 4, 2009, 2:23pm EDT
I am very sorry for your loss. I bet your daughter was a wonderful person. PIF
Marsha S. Sep 4, 2009, 5:22pm EDT
very sad :(
I would push for grandparents rights then to see those grandkids
sorry for your terrible loss
Marsha S. Sep 4, 2009, 5:22pm EDT
~Pay It Forward~
Stacy Farr Sep 6, 2009, 3:40am EDT
I know it doesn't help much, but I am very sorry for you and your impossibly difficult situation. I wish there were some magic words I could say to make it better for you, but I know there are none. Please take care and know that others are thinking of you.
HEIDI F. Sep 6, 2009, 10:45am EDT
That must be difficult for you. Hopefuly, things will get better.
Solskin Iam Sep 6, 2009, 12:41pm EDT
there was part of a year that my daughter's second husband would not let me see the g'son who had been with me since birth....... i grieved until i could grieve no more yet still i grieved....... i would stand on the corner and look at him on the playground..... a dear friend would always come with me..... he always told me..... when he is old enough he will come back to you........the marriage did not last long... soon he was back with me..... remember......your g'children will come back to you...... pif
eileen P. Sep 6, 2009, 4:10pm EDT
I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER SOON ABOUT THIS SITUATION I KNOW IT HAS TO BE VERY HARD GOD BLESS YOU
Crystal T. Sep 6, 2009, 5:23pm EDT
I can't tell you that I know how you feel because then I'd be lying, because everyone grieves in their own way, but I cry with you and for you. I can't imagine losing one of my kids, it just breaks my heart to even think of it. Sending hugs your way. If you have time, this scripture has brought comfort for me when my older brother passed, John 5:28,29.

~~PIF
d d. Sep 6, 2009, 5:25pm EDT
I'm am so sorry that I did not see this earlier. sending you hugs for your loss. *pif
Candice(Candy) E. Sep 6, 2009, 6:08pm EDT
Lona, I'm sooo" Very Sorry that I Missed this Post back on Aug 24th !!! My Heart is Hurting for You and your Loss." Sending many Prayers & Hugs Out to you. Remember God is Still Holding you in his Loving Arms until you are ready to stand on your own.......
PIF
Jennifer R. Sep 7, 2009, 1:40pm EDT
Bless your sould. That is a lot to deal with. My heart goes out to you and your family.
Laura C. Sep 7, 2009, 8:33pm EDT
i'm so sorry to hear of your loss, and for the loss of time with your grandchildren..thats horrible of him to keep you from them.
Sandi S. Sep 18, 2009, 8:14pm EDT
I am so sorry to hear this, Lona. How old are your grandsons?
sonia v. Sep 28, 2009, 3:26pm EDT
I am so very sorry that happened to you and your family
d d. Oct 10, 2009, 12:13pm EDT
I hope when the boys are old enough that they will contact you by themselves. PIF
Tiffany v. Oct 14, 2009, 7:08pm EDT
Thanks for sharing,
PIF
Linda T. Oct 17, 2009, 1:21am EDT
It must be so difficult to lose a child. I doubt it is something one can ever get over. Maybe when their older your grandsons will find a way to have a relationship with you. I ache for your loss. HH
♥♥LoViNg♥LiFe♥ ♥♥ Oct 19, 2009, 1:29pm EDT
I am so sorry to hear this,.
HH
scott .. Oct 19, 2009, 1:43pm EDT
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Joanne Vicente Oct 19, 2009, 5:44pm EDT
I'm so very sorry for your suffering. Words can't express my sympathies properly.
HH
Megan R. Oct 20, 2009, 5:37pm EDT
So sorry for your loss.
HH
Elizabeth Ann R. Oct 20, 2009, 11:23pm EDT
I am so sorry for your loss and suffering. Blessings.

HH
Elizabeth S. Oct 22, 2009, 11:03pm EDT
Losing a child must be devastating enough, without missing your grandchildren, too. Hopefully, it will all come together sooner, rather than later.

HH
anne ( way 2 crazy of a life ) c. Nov 7, 2009, 8:17pm EST
i am so sorry
lena k. Nov 10, 2009, 9:28am EST
i am so sorry HH
Joanne Vicente Nov 10, 2009, 6:15pm EST
My deepest sympathies! How terrible for you!
HH
Heather E. Nov 10, 2009, 8:00pm EST
I am so sorry, and I hope they find their way to know you.
Carrie Marie P. Nov 11, 2009, 12:41am EST
My heart breaks for you. pif
Infinity M. Nov 11, 2009, 6:49am EST
some men r like that - u may b able 2 have visitation granted, but i've never had 2 go thru that so i'm not sure, but i would think it would b worth it - helping hands
.* Sandi * Nov 11, 2009, 2:17pm EST
hugs
i am so sorry
Nancy Biri Nov 13, 2009, 5:31pm EST
((((((((((HUGS))))))))))) I'm so sorry
shelly R Nov 17, 2009, 4:38pm EST
I cannot imagine what you are going through but I do want to say how sorry I am for your loss. Sending cyberhugs to you ((((( ))))) PIF

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