SEEKING HELP From Parents whose kids have left the nest!

Need help from you on separation anxiety!!!!

Well, I had it bad with my first, three years ago. He is not far and does come every month. The second and last will be farther...

It does get better. Involve yourself in your projects as much as possible. But you know this already.

It will get better.

And sometimes when they are annoying, you can be happy they are away.

When they come for a visit, you remember how annoying they can be, which you might have forgotten - noisy, expensive, dirty, and so on - all those things we do love about them, but are happy when they go back so we can have our peace again -

and

they become more mature and love us even more as an adult child.

He will be ok. He will have to make the decisions. And he will.

Thanks Kathryn-

BTW:I went through this w/ my firstborn and he only went about 25 miles away but I was as emotional then as I am now!!

it really is tough.....

Yes, I know with my now 26 year old who moved out and is still in college....it was really hard at first I missed him so much and so did his 10 year old sister. But he does still stop by once in a while and we go to see him too. It'll be okay!

Thanks Deb--it feels so good yet so sad at the same time...

My daughter started college on Monday but she stayed home. I'm sure I will have this anxiety if my boys decide to go away when they grow up. Good luck.

Thanks for the wishes for good luck! And congrats to ur daughter.

It was the same for me when our (then) youngest started kindergarten. It does pass though, you will find things to keep you busy then discover an enjoyment of some added privacy that we all gave up when we began having children.

When our last one left home the hardest part was learning to cook for two and not buying those extras that were more for him than Hubby or myself.

I kept busy by giving his old room a makeover and making it into my room, I had already turned the other sons room into a craft/computer room. After giving the whole house a complete scrubbing down I found lots of little arts and crafts things to do to make this or that area a little prettier.

That doesn't mean you won't miss them but thats what a phone is for, my boys are close enough I can invite them to dinner and for special occasions and they can stop in so that helps a lot but I have to admit I love having Hubby and the house to ourselves and in time you will find what fills the void for you.

Be patient, when sad times come think on something cute and funny that happened when they were kids, it helps.

You have done a great job Mom, your child is on a new adventure in life that you have helped him get to and it is time for you to begin exploring too. You deserve a pat on the back and a box of Kleenex, lol. Congratulations!

Debra--thanks for your note and suggestions...it';s so weird--I am an accomplsihed,professional woman with a lot to do but I have always defined myself as a mom--but what's funny is I don't think I ever realized that about myself until now.
And you know I forgot how I felt when the bioys went to kindergarten--tx for the reminder girlfriend!

Well Pam, you never stop being Mom, trust me it's just the boo boos to be kissed will be different ones but it sounds as if it is time for the butterfly to emerge from the cocoon into a whole new identity. Be patient dear heart, take a nice hot bubble bath, do something nice for yourself and don't feel guilty about it (for once), it's going to be a whole new world for both of you. Stay encouraged.

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Kathryn-you are a doll. Thanks.

Folks--any ideas for his siblings?? Older and younger are having trouble with this--to go from New England to Nevada is ....no words-you know what I mean...