Almost a week ago I was standing at my son's biological father's hospital bed. He had been sick for awhile and was not expected to live much longer. After watching him for a few hours, I went over to his bedside, looked right at him(his eyes were open but he was not responsive), and told him that it was ok to let go. He took his last breath. Coincidence? I doubt it.
Let me take you back to January 4th 2006. My dad was very ill and not expected to live much longer. He too was unresponsive. I held his hand. Told him that I loved him and that it was ok to let go. A tear formed in one of his eyes and slowly fell down his cheek. He took his last breath. Since this was the first time it happened, I blew it off as a coincidence.
Fast forward to February 26th, 2008. Tom's dad had been sick for a long time. He had suffered a lot......we had suffered a lot. I went outside that morning to visit my dog's grave in the yard. I started thinking about Tom's dad and asked a higher being to please end all the suffering. It was time for him to let go. About an hour later, I got the phone call that he had passed away. Another coincidence?
So, I ask again.......is it a gift, am I bad luck, or are these three incidents just a coincidence?
I am not asking for sympathy. This may sound bad but I am not sad that my son's father passed away. I don't want to go into it but lets just say that finally, my son and I are able to start healing.
*Special note to my friends*
This is one of a few reasons why I haven't been around much lately. I was at my son's taking care of my grandsons. I did manage to view everything that came across my feeds but I was either too tired or stressed to comment. If there is anything that you would like me to comment on, please let me know. There are a few other things going on in my life right now so I still may be scarce for a little bit longer. Thank you for reading this.
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I do hope things will turn for the better for you and yours. You deserve it.
Again I'm sorry about what happened ... we aren't going to the funeral I myself can't handle any more of them . My thoughts and prayers are with your son though I know he has a lot of blank spaces to fill, and emotions can be confusing. Take care and if you ever need anything you have my number call. I can stop out or whatever.
This weekend ,, tomorrow.. we're going camping down at the lake they found the body so I guess it's safe to head down now.
Take care and chat later
I send big huggers to you.
“Hello”, my name is Lee P. You are my friend and I’m just stopping by to say hello. I hope that today will be your best day yet and that all your tomorrows will be filled with joy and happiness.
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I know what you mean about healing now though.
I am glad you are able to be back.
Coincidence...I don't think so. I believe that sometimes the dying person needs the reassurance that everything is going to be OK and that it is alright to let go. When my husband died, I had told him that we had both been fighting this battle, him from the inside and me from the outside, but unfortunately, we just could not win. I told him that he could rest now and not to fight it any longer. I told him that I loved him and that it was OK to go. He died in less than 15 minutes. We had been fighting the losing battle for 2 months.
Coincidence? NO!