No, you really DON'T wish you had my problem...

Amen - being ill is not a healthy weight loss diet !!!

I'm sorry you're hearing that Kati...People can say stupid stuff sometimes...It's like me hearing "just wait till you get my age" and then wondering if I ever will...Sorry people are being dumb around you *hugs*

Not being healthy is what nobody should wish for. I know i wish I were skinner but not so skinny that I was unhealthy. I hope you get better soon

I won't be saying that.  :)  My problems are not wonderful, but I wouldn't trade them foro other problems!

Yes! Yes!  Finally someone who understands!!!  :)

Sorry.  I know - I'm finally 95 pounds, gained 2 pounds in the last month which is a big deal for me, and I'm 5'7".  I know what it's like to be skinny, can't gain weight, and hurting after eating - having it all go straight through you.  That, and when your butt gets boney it hurts to sit down, and my legs and arms fall asleep real easy, I have to continually move around and get comfortable - even in bed.  My limbs are always falling asleep.

I also get the "I wish I were skinny as you" and "Be happy you're thin and not overweight".

What??  I'm 35 pounds underweight!  Be HAPPY?  I've actually been told I'm going to look back on these days one day and wish I were thin like this again.  This is AFTER I explain I have Crohn's Disease and Celiac Disease, and the chance of me being overweight is very slim when I am not absorbing what I eat.  No, what I look back on now were the days when I was around 120 pounds and HEALTHY!  That's what I 'look back' on.  I'll never look back on now and wish for this, even if I were to get healthy and gain weight.  I cry whenever I see myself in the mirror and in pictures that show my body.  It's repulsive.

I'm sorry :(

I saw your pics, you are beautiful! You can definitely tell you're underweight, but your personality shines through so wonderfully! I hate looking at myself in the mirror, especially seeing my ribs in the back. ew.

I am so sorry both of you have to deal with this issue. Believe me, you are both GORGEOUS women, inside and out.

I have the opposite problem (obese) and that's the one that's getting all the media attention these days (sort of like how anorexia and bulimia get the all the focus whenever someone says "eating disorder"...but compulsive overeating is equally serious and life-threatening--but doesn't get much attention). Just consider that those folks have extremely bad manners and move on. They're not worth sharing your hopes and joys with if they can't accept that your problems are different than theirs.....

I am so sorry you are having health problems. I wish I could loss some weight. But not be sick. I hope you get better real soon.

after seeing this and what I wrote   I am sorry,,  I want you to be healthy and happy this is my wish for you  dear friend

Amen hon you'll never hear me say that I took care of my cousin and her family when she had an awful bout with crones. She got down to 89 lbs and she's almost 5'9" She is fine now and is moving to England soon. Praying for you HUGS

My husband's aunt is also having problems gaining weight..and the dr wants her to

My daughter is underweight and trying to gain.  The doctor recommended we give her high fat but healthly snacks like dried fruits, yogurt covered raisins, nuts of any kind especially almonds, sunflower seeds, and other snacks like that.  Good luck to you

I've always been thin all my life....never weighing more than 130 and 5 foot 10 inches.  Now I am getting older and use the Depo shot for birth control. Now I weigh too much!  I am surpassing my bf by about 15 lbs and it's bothering him too.

I used to know a woman on depo that went from 110 to almost 300 lbs in 2 years! I felt really bad for her, that can't be healthy!

My husband is now 277 thanks to his MS treatments (he was already overweight, but he's put on about 20 lbs in the last 2 months). It doesn't bother me looks-wise, he's still just Louie to me, but I do worry about his health. :(

I'm about your husband's weight and I am 5'9".  My doctor keeps telling me to lose weight but I feel great.  I do take a pill for high blood pressure.  About 2 years ago, I joined Weight Watchers and lost 60 lbs.  I had tremendous stomach pains that was thought to be gall bladder problems, but the pain subsided after 2 weeks.  The pain went away.  I always felt that at my present weight I looked and felt the best.  I'm not so sure the doctor is correct in always wanting me to lose weight.  It's how you feel that counts.

My hubby gets so frustrated with me when I tell him I wish I was as skinny as him.  He always says it must be nice to be able to gain weight.

Society is way too obsessed with ultra-thin women, causing all women to wish they were stick thin. I'm so sorry you have health problems.

Well, all I would say is do you have a medical condition that prevents you from gaining weight?  There should be something you can take to help with the problem.

I would rather be underweight than overweight (I have been both in my lifetime), but would much rather be "just right..."

I don't know what's wrong right now. I had some labs drawn for nutritional deficiencies but they all came back negative. I will be seeing a nutritionist next month.

you have my sympathy and understanding.  Most of my life I have had to worry about keeping my weight up and it's a bitch even without an underlying problem such as Crohn's.

The most irritating thing is people expecting me to to be glad I don't have the opposite problem and those who lecture me that  I will get fat if I continue to eat the foods I do and as frequently as I do.  The latter group seems incapable of noticing the relatively small amount I eat when I eat and eating is something I have remind myself to do since I can easily go 24 hours without feeling even mildly hungry.

Thank you for writing this. I obviously do not have your problem, and I sure wouldn't ask for that for anyone including myself.

People need to realize that moving away from your "healthy" weight either direction is not good. Overweight, underweight, it's all the same... unhealthy.

I have an Aunt who has the same kind of problems. She's misreable most of the time. She bruises so, so, so easily! She also gets these tears/rips in her skin way to easy. All from being underweight.

ever try hypnotism, they use it to stop smoking.

I get the same thing about my blood pressure.  It's always really low and I often have a hard time keeping it in a normal range, especially while resting.  A lot of people tell me they wish they had that problem.  I tell them that I often feel faint and you can actually die if it gets too low, but they don't see the problem.

And, yes, not being able to gain weight is a problem. One serious illness can be devastating.  Also, what if you want to do some endurance exercise or something?  You won't have the reserves.

Once I almost bled to death and my blood pressure dropped so low they couldn't even pick it up. Finally after a blood transfusion they got it up to 60/30.

Everyone seems to want to be different than what they really are.....

We had a terrible time last summer trying to get my son to gain enough weight for his backpacking trip with the Scouts. (There are minimum and maximum for heights). He was 5 ft. 10 in and only weighed 120 lbs....he had to gain at least 5 lbs or he couldn't go on the trip.

My husband's friend is skinny like that. He's probably about 6'2-6'3 and 140 lbs. He used to be 120 at one point, but that was due to drug use.

What is wrong with people is that they are so insecure that they can only see what THEY perceive as a positive in the picture, and not the whole picture. If they did, that perceived positive woudln't be seen as a positive at all.

A lot of people tell me they wish they had my hearing. Yeah? You want to almost be driven to distraction by everyday sounds, and off key notes? It's the hearing equivilent of trying to read under a strobe light!!

Why can't people quit taking elements of a situation which they perceive as being so wonderful, and just be thankful for what they have?

I agree with you. We should wish we had no problems, instead of someone else's problems.

Also, this is a way for them to make us feel bad about having problems at all, because IN THEIR MINDS they are not problems at all, and that is why they want them. They are trying to make us feel bad for voicing our obgections to the "crosses that we have to bare."

Do they not realize that a ton of feathers, and a ton of bricks weigh the same thing?

I get that, about the hearing. Both my husband and I have not-so-great hearing, and while I'd love to be able to hear better, I'd hate to have hearing that accute! Certain sounds drive me crazy, and I can only fathom how annoying it would be if my hearing were that great.

I am very sorry you have to deal with that! I dont think people understand what you are going thorugh because your so skinny.. most people fight being overweight so automatically they see a skinny person they get jealous.. kinda like judging a book by its cover.. not the greatest way to get through life.

Luckily I'm not TOO skinny, just slightly underweight. I feel so bad for folks with Celiac or Crohns, who are very underweight, because I know people must look at them and think they are anorexic and stuff. :(

well I have been skinny and I have been fat. Wait a minute I am fat now. If I had  choice, I would be skinny. But I can't seem to loose weight for anything. I don't have the hair lose. But I do have the skipped periods which suck. My sister is like you, she has a hard time gaining weight. Only time she has ever looked healthy is when she was pregnant...maybe that is why she had seen kids. I don't know. For me, I think it is a combination of heredity with age and the meds I take.

 I do hope you can find something that helps you.

I meant 7 kids not seen kids.

I don't have any health problems, but I know what you mean, the most I have ever weighted was 136 and that was pregnant. I weigh 112 pounds, and have since I was 16. I hope you can gain some weight!

I understand, its quite maddening after a few hundred times of hearing people say it to me.

Each of us has their own problems. And everyone is different, special in their own way. Without differences, life would be so boring. And without trials and tribulations, the good times wouldn't nearly be as sweet.

i had an eating disorder too.. I was the height i was and 110 pounds ( i am 5 6 and 1/2) according to my hubby i was nothing but skin and bones, i wanted to get down to about 90 pounds

Eating disorders, trouble losing/gaining weight, are not good no matter what side you are on!  Some may think its crazy for a woman to say she is too thin and wants to gain weight, but what that is, is healthy.  I am sorry you are having these problems, that does not sound good at all.  I pray that you find a solution to this before it becomes an even bigger issue.  {{{HUGS}}}