For quite some time now I have been making a very concerted effort to return comment for comment. I kept getting further and further behind. After my post today that stirred up plenty of commenting & controversy, it became clear to me that I will NEVER catch up. I was over 2 months behind with over 600 comments to return. For the amount of time it would take me, and the very limited reward system in place for that now, I realized that it was simply impossible.
So, I finally did what I really didn't want to do and deleted all of those emails. I will do my best to be there for my friends.
I do appreciate all of your comments and support.
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Sometimes you just need to start over. It just gets too overwhelming.
I have decided I will try my hardest to return comment for a comment on my articles. I can't promise anything more then one comment.
wow those are a lot of comments... just do what you can
In my opinion, I really don't think you should return comment for comment. I mean, most people, like me, appreciate the views and an occasional comment or ping. I don't expect everyone to return every single comment I make. It's almost impossible to do that, especially if you have a life or anything outside of Gather.
i think you did the right thing......when it all starts piling up on you it is not fun anymore......
I try to return comments, but most of my comments come from my connections, and I follow almost all of them anyway. :)
No worries
I do understand. I check my email every day so i know i am up to date. Do what you can.
We all get behind, actually I think I stay behind but I try.
don't ever feel like you have to give me comment for comment, I don't come here much anymore, just too busy with everything to keep up.....I am so far behind I'll never catch up...
Hey Mooch,
I noticed I hadn't see much from you lately. Have you found other good earning sites? If so, send me a pm and spill the beans! :)
Don't worry about it. Your doing the best you can
I try to return comment for comment, but there are just some times when it's impossible to keep up and it's best to just start afresh and don't stress out about it. :)
Just do the best you can....that's all one can do.......perhaps things are really slowing down here at Gather since the point change thingy.......don't worry, or stress out, about it.
Don't worry. At least your honest about it, and just do what you can. Don't stress yourself. Everybody who commented on you will surely understand it. :)
Renita, I did the same thing about a week ago. I deleted 450 emails. I was just so overwhelmed and never got caught up. It was a cathartic experience. So, don't feel bad. We all understand.
Don't worry about it, Renita! I might have to do the same thing! Your true friends will stick by you and understand.
I took a few days off when son graduated, I started at the begining of that day I came back you can only do so much,,,
that's okay Renita. I too have fallen behind. We do what we can, when we can.
I know you are not alone Renita, by all of the comments above, and I am in the same boat. I get behind because so many people send me g-mails to read their things, and my mail builds up, My mailbox was full the otherday, so had to go and just delete some of the older ones. I comment on your things always, because you post to my group, by the way, thank you very much for that. Don't worry about it, I don't think anyone can keep up , except those that don't have a job or a family to take care of, I used to have a lot more time than I do now, so just do whatever I can, take care.
I just always try to go through and read my friends feeds. I never expect anyone to comment in return unless they want to. Take some time and catch your breathe and just Gather how you would like to!
When it gets to be that much, it's best to delete them-don't worry. I tried to return all those at one time and it was just too overwhelming
just start over like a new day it is ok
we all get behind once in a while and sometimes, you just have to start fresh.
You get to mine, when you get to mine. no biggie deal to me! don't stress over stuff you have no control over, it is unhealthy!
Have a great new day!
I know just what you mean. I try to return all comments. I do NOT get e-mails of people's posts, though. That would just be too much. I had been all caught up with commenting in early May but then have been away from Gather for a bit and am now overwhelmed with comments!
Wilma, I get very few email notifications on when friends/groups post. These were almost ALL comments to return! I never even get to my friend feed - only to those who have commented. It was ruining the fun.
I delete things older than 3 days, took off most of the "notifies", for I can find friends posts by simply clicking on "posts", then I try to keep my friend list down to a managable level. Why have 1,000 or more 'friends' if you can't halfway keep up? I noticed that those who brag about lots of friends hardly ever comment on more than a handful. I do enjoy looking at posts of non-friends when I have the time, for there are always neat things written by unknowns...Hope this helps you get caught up... :)
LOL, I gave up trying to do that a long time ago; it was overwhelming. I finally shut most email off as I would get thousands on some days, and just decided to do my thing best I could. I think anybody that has a lot of friends/connections that they have built up over a period of time understands this... take care, and don't worry about it.
Yeah, there are way too many of those emails! Take your time and do what you can, we all understand. We're all busy sometimes and don't get around - its no biggie :-) As long as you still love us that is!
You'll drive yourself crazy trying to return everything comment for comment! just look at what stuff you can, it's not like you don't ever look at your friend's stuff
I just had to delete all those emails to...I had over 2000 of them. Don't beat yourself up. Everyone deletes from tie to time.
I try to return comments, too. Sometimes it just gets to be too much. No one would want you to feel any stress over this, so just forget it. Remember many of us are here for the fun and friendship...not necessarily the points! I hope you have a good weekend!
I've been there! :0) I won't take it personal. - HH
I am in the same boat. There are times when I get a week behind and I am looking at hundreds of needed comments from me. I work full time at night, sleep some during the day and have a few minutes now and then to spend on Gather. I have deleted days worth of emails and feel guilty doing so. I just hope my friends know that I am trying to repay their comments as much as possible.
For me personally I don't expect people to comment back. (It's nice but should not be expected) I realize life can take much of our time, and things of that nature are just not feasible, without putting you behind in matters that are more important to us, such as our families or jobs. You do what you can, and if someone expects more than that, they aren't worthy of your time as far as i am concerned.
Returning comment for comment can be difficult, however, I try. No one ever emails me 600 worth. That's a lot of emails. Wow. You are much loved. I like you too.
Thanks, Lee! But that was over 2 months behind on returning comments, so I'm not THAT popular!
I never comment on every post because I do not have the time. I usually have to delete some of my emails because I do not have the time to comment on everyone's post. But, I do the best I can.