My 15 yr old daughter had a boyfriend that she went to school with. At first, in her eyes, he was nice and they enjoyed each others company.
We met him only once, when he marched in the high school band at the parade we attended in April.
As time passed, she began to notice that he wouldn't call her, text her, or pay as much attention to her as he used to, although he professed to love her.
In steps suitor #2! He is more mature in his actions and words. He is 17 yrs old and has a steady job. Although, they can't date because he is 2 yrs older than Natalie, he seems to care for her ALOT!! He has brought flowers to her when she wasn't feeling well and most recently, he bought her a beautiful diamond necklace!!!
I had advised Natalie to be honest with suitor #1 and tell him how she was feeling about this other boy. She said she would talk to him, although I knew it wasn't going to be easy on her or him.
Last night, she received a phone call from boyfriend #1 and it didn't go well, at all!! She emerged from her bedroom crying! She, finally, told me that he had told her that he never wants to speak to her again and asking her how she could do this to him. I consoled her as best as I could and told her it was the best thing to do instead of leading him on. Honesty is the best policy is what I think.
She called boyfriend #2 to discuss the situation and she seemed to calm down afterwards. I wish my Natalie didn't have to go through all of this boyfriend trouble, but it's part of growing up.
I do my best to advise her and she feels comfortable coming to me when she has a problem, which I'm very happy with because not too many teenagers confide in their parents.
My hubby noticed that Natalie was upset and he asked me why. I just said, "Boy trouble." He rolled his eyes and said, "Oh, well. Another one is just around the corner." I thought, "He's already here!"
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Janie, I am a few years older than your daughter. (You probably already guessed that one.) To be honest boys and dealing with boys still confuses me. BTW, will you adopt me please?
LOL!! Yes, I'll adopt you, if you don't mind doing chores.
Ummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm?
LOL!! Having second thoughts, are ya?
Its enough of a chore doing chores around here!
LMBO!!
I am so glad my girls are past that lol. Now they live with the b/f's lol.
LOL!!
I love Dad's reaction! LOL
Yeah!! I was expecting him to ask, "Where's my shotgun?" LOL
My, my, my.... we've all been there, haven't we? Then again, I dealt with similiar crap after my divorce with grown men!
Yes, we have!
aww... i remember those days
Me, too!! Too vividly, as a matter of fact!
It is a very positive thing that your daughter is able to talk to you about such intimate and personal situations. I hope this continues for you and she.
Yes, I figure, she thinks Mom has dealt with this and she's the best one to give me feedback. Thanks, Connie!
Im pretty lucky , I had one son who did not even look at girls until he was in his early 20s ,I despaired of ever being a grandmother lol but he hit 26 and got married right away and I have a grandchild now so it worked out well .
You are very blessed, Lori!
It is great that you have that level of communication with your daughter - I am striving for it - building the bridge there while she is still young in hopes she won't burn it at adolescence
Well, we've had prior experience and we learned from the mistakes we made with the first two, so things are easier this time around.
How old is your daughter, if I may ask?
She is only 7 still LOL right now boys are still "yucky" LOL
Before you know it, they won't be "yucky", anymore.
You are teaching your daughter so very well. I am so happy you are there to counsel her.
Thank you, Renee!
I'm sorry she is hurting, no fun to be a teen.
I'm glad that she has a loving mom that she knows she can come too.
Hope it all works out quickly, so she can be happy again.
I was there to at one time, so I know how she's feeling. Thank you so much, Margieanne!
how wonderful for her that she has you to go to.....it's a rough period and I hope she can survive the ups and downs of boyfriends....oiy!
With a little help from me, she will get through this. Thanks, Debby!
I so do not miss those days when my daughter was a teenager and dating. I hope it all works out....Its wonderful that she knows she can confide in you. That is very important...:)
I agree, Cheryl! I hope it works out, too. She seems to be a little confused at the moment, but I'm talking her through it. Thanks!
You are a good Mom. Being 15 isn't easy. I remember and I'll bet you do too.
Yes, I know what it felt like to be 15 and not all of it was good, which is why I want to help her as much as I can. Thank you, Lee!
well i think you are doing a good thing
I think so, too!
It's so good your daughter can talk to you about it all. Ah, the relief of marriage ;)
I'm glad she feels comfortable talking to me, too! Thanks, Stacey!
I've been going through a similar issue with my own 15 year old. I just hate not being able to swoop in and "fix" everything the way I used to be able to do.
I know the feeling very well!!